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For me it's not a "choice" to love my WW. It would be a "choice" not to love her. I know deep down inside she still loves me. There are little flashes of love from her but then she remembers she's supposed to be hating me. It's those little glimpses of the woman she used to be that keeps the fight alive in me.
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Well, I haven't decided to not love my WxW yet, but it's harder once a Dv has taken place. Folks feel that it's a license not to try anymore. I look at relationships from a more global perspective. The legal contract may be voided, but how does that end 20 years together?
Our two kids deserve more than a quickie divorce forced by a OM and 'ratified' by folks who don't understand the concept of uncondtional love. Hopefully time will help bring order to this emotional chaos.
<small>[ September 28, 2004, 04:40 AM: Message edited by: dleightonc ]</small>
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Do other people affect your resolve to continue to love youe WS or not?
<small>[ September 22, 2004, 08:06 AM: Message edited by: dleightonc ]</small>
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I personally got/get tired of folks who have even tried to reconcile or recover a troubled M telling me I'm a fool or 'she's not worth it'. They often offer no other advice or solutions except to run away.
That's why MB has almost 40,000 members. the other millions of folks out there don't get it or won't even try, IMHO.
<small>[ September 28, 2004, 11:30 AM: Message edited by: dleightonc ]</small>
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