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I'm with RookKev. Pony up and do it, just the basic no frills SF. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
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It is not fair to control someone's sexuality by imposing celibacy on them, but it is more unfair to pressure someone into having sex when they don't want to.
Of course, if a WS really doesn't want to deal with a constant pressure for sex from the BS, simply tell them how much better the OP was. I pretty well guarantee you won't be bugged anymore.
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You're right, a divorice would be coming down the pipe in no time.
If you don't want to have sex, guess what, you shoulda stayed single. Sex is a part of the marriage....
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Krusht-
This is one thing I am really worried about in future with XW and I. I am afraid that she will weird having sex with me again. She hasn't said that, but I know her. I have had sex with her 1000 times more than OP had, but I guess it is a guilt thing.
Maybe having a few drinks together first would help your problem. U know, to so she doesn't think too much. That is if u do drink. That may be poor advice, but I can't think of anything else but time fixing it.
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Krusht,
I'm divorced so take with a grain of salt. I am wondering if you should just tell your ww that you will not be asking for sf any more and that she should approach you when she wants SF with you. Then live up to that promise. I'm not sure if you have a timetable in mind where this must be addressed or you are out. Even if you do I don't think it would be very productive to tell her that.
Gabe
Me 42 BS
Wife 41 FWW (exwife now)
Divorced 10/14/2008
S 21
D 18
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S, S 13 (twins)
Grandson 8 months
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Krusht,
I'm divorced so take with a grain of salt. I am wondering if you should just tell your ww that you will not be asking for sf any more and that she should approach you when she wants SF with you. Then live up to that promise. I'm not sure if you have a timetable in mind where this must be addressed or you are out. Even if you do I don't think it would be very productive to tell her that.
Gabe Umm Gabe, do you realize that krusht/kirk's post that you are responding to was made back in September of 2004??? Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Gabe,
I was very surprised to see this thread. I started it in Sept of 2004!! And the last post on that was 09/24/2004.
Where the heck did you find it to come up with the reply??
Reading through it though reminded me of all the folks in the class of '04. Good people.
Bob Pure, Kyellow4, RookKev, Forgiven22 and the rest.
Thanks for the stroll down M lane.
kirk
CORDUROY PILLOWS ARE MAKING HEADLINES!!
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K:
So are you "Krush"-ing it NOW?
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I didn't realize that. Very embarrassing. I'm not sure why it came to the top for me. I hope they are past that issue now.
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Divorced 10/14/2008
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