Hello- I have not done another drive by. I thought about it but forced myself not to. What I am going to do is stop trying with her and let her come to me if she wants. She needs to prove herself to me and she is not doing that right now. I am going to live my life, date or whatever. If I meet someone else who is better for me, so be it. She has prolonged this so long and I am not going to sit around waiting for someone who does not repect my feelings. I will really know what her deal is next week. If she invites me over I will be surprised.

One thing that makes it hard to detach from her is that most of her mail is STILL coming to my house. I have told her over and over to change the address. What do I do? Throw it away? She is trying so hard to keep me on the line for when she is ready for me. In my mind, she should be crawling back not deciding when to give me a chance. She betrayed me not vice versa. She is lucky that I even talk to her anymore.

As tempting as it may be, don't throw the mail away. Ask the mail man for a change of address form and give it to her. If she still doesn't fill it out then when you get her mail, simply write on it "Return to Sender, Not at this Address."

Kloe- I won't throw it away as tempting as it is. I just can't do things like that. Now that she has her own place at least the mail won't be going to OP's house when she changes her address. Man, I wish he would just fall off the face of the earth and dissapear. I know he is leaving the state in a few months to go to a new school. Her lease is for a year so there is no way that she is going.

<small>[ October 01, 2004, 12:59 PM: Message edited by: juke1225 ]</small>

I wasn't saying that I was going to stay attached to my H forever if he doesn't want me. I know I'm young and in a way I do want to move on and the idea of being with someone else is no longer that hard of an idea to cope with. I'm yearning for some companionship. i just can't have that now. I'm not saying that I won't find a life long companion but I just don't see the point of marriage anymore. Now don't get me wrong, I loved being married. I just believe that you should only marry once unless you are widowed. I have nothing against people who marry more than once, it's just not for me.

Personally, I believe that the only reason my H hasn't filed for a D is because it would mean he would have to spend money on something that has to do with me and he'd have to actually go and do it and why bother when he can live his life while still married.

I guess it's kind of the same thing. Why bother being married if you can have a committed relationship without being married and for him why bother getting divorced if you can act single when you are still married?

<small>[ October 01, 2004, 06:53 PM: Message edited by: ivoryivy ]</small>