Weaver,
I wasn't even teasing, I said that out of respect, and becasue I wanted you to know I was thinking about you.

OK, I was teasing a tiny bit, but that other stuff still applies.


And BTW, it's 102 here in the shade. Low humidity though, at least it's low humidity.
SS

SS, we did have a pretty good weekend even though the dog got skunked yet again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> We are making strides but my confidence is not there yet (and understandable I think).

Weaver!!!! That's all <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hey Faith!

Big fat hug and a sweaty high five!

That's all.

JJ, I wrote you this loooooong reply and my H erased it by accident went doing something on my computer. I will try to write more later -- please don't think I didn't respond. dang technology. Can't live with it. . .

SS, I was gettin' worried. Wonderin' if you'd headed out of town or what.

WEeave, I love you, as always. i wanted to talk with you some about your DD and her eating, and the balance it takes being a parent. If you don't mind, I'll send you an email via GC.

Kimmy, where the heck ya been, girl? A lobatomy? Heck, we should just sign ourselves into the nearest psych unit for a few weeks. We'd get some peace and quiet and even have our own bedrooms, sans the jumping-on-us-at-5AM-kiddos! Whaddaya say?

2Long, I hope you can give us your assessment of how you feel about things before. . . well, before too long!

Me, well things still coming along. Not bad at all, but life is so busy sometimes.

Question for the night: Would you live with your parents? Or in-laws, if you could?

It's been my H's dream to live with his folks when they got older, for as long as I can remember. We thought about it a few years ago -- went as far as looking at houses together, etc -- but dismissed it. I don't think they or I were comfortable with it. But here we are again, reconsidering.

POJA isn't the issue here. i guess I'd just like some input into what kind of problems/quandries could come up that I should be aware of now, to consider?

BTW, the houses we are looking into have 2 floors, 2 kitchens, lotsa rooms and bathrooms, etc, so space shouldn't be an issue. Soundproofing our bedroom might be. LOL There's just something creepy about knowing your parents are "right down the hall". . . eeeeeewwwwww! No more chandelier nights! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

JUST KIDDING!

slh

Well I know you were teasing, and I just want you to know that it was a cowinkydink, cuz usually I am not here. LOL

Low humidy, eh? Brat!

Weave, email me sometime!

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slh

Thanks SLH, I am very interested in your insight into this subject.

Luv u 2!

SLH:

"2Long, I hope you can give us your assessment of how you feel about things before. . . well, before too long! "

I'm going 2 hold off a bit while I cogitate...

...and while I get the thought of all you purdy chicks of varying albedos in that river out of my mind - my hormones are all unbalanced! I shoulda not said anything about skinny-dipping! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

-ol' 2long

I got it slh, and I will.

Started up working on the br, but the sweat was rolling down my face and unto my new 500 count sheets, so I gave up.

Good night for reading instead.

We live near by a honest to goodness creek, and we get skunks in our yard too. Our dog got it once, but after that, he stayed back and barked loud.

Now that he's passed away, we don't have to worry about about HIM getting it, but the skunks are hard on the garden some years.

So you asked the recovery question to help you (emotionally) a little bit? Some days it's nice to get a little boost. Is he doing anything you are really worried about?

SS

Oh you are a brat!

Brian Eno "The Roil, The Choke" (and before you ask me, I don't think it's SUPPOSED 2 mean anything!):

"He raised the stake
And broke the soil
And phrased the stroke
That takes the oil
And stoked, erased and foiled the lake
And smoked and boiled the grazing snake.

Chorus:

The roil, the choke, the cakes of praise
The spoils that break now cloak the days
That wake the coil of blazing coke
The flaking glaze of Royalty broke
He praises snakes, admires stoats
The flowery blaze, the fire evokes."

-ol' 2long

weave:

Saw it, but didn't read it in detail.

I'm still over at **edit** if there's anything you want 2 email.

-ol' 2long

SLH - about living with Parents, or inlaws.

Not unless they were old and frail and needed care.

AS long as they could take care of themselves, I would keep my distance.

I have seen this happen lots of times. It is not really visible thing, but it's more subtle.

I think it can work, but it is easier if you don't have to make it work.

Some of it is not even what is said, or implied, but things that one of the other are AFRAID may happen. What if you had guests that came for a week, but then something happened, and they were there for a year. How would it play out as the months went by? Compare what you can imagine might happen with being in the same home as parents on inlaws.

IN those cases where I have seen it done, it was the younger party that was so glad to finally be on their own. Often the older party didn't understand why at all. That was telling to me. I have never done it personally.

Right now my W's sister and family are living with her Mother.
Things that come up - you can imagine why.

Pets
Parties
Company that stays for two weeks to visit.
The yard (We didn't leave that there - well neither did we.)
The driveway (can we leave this trailer here for just a few days)

I consider my mother in law, and my sister in law to be wonderful people. Couldn't ask for a better MIL. It got me to thinking as we have watched it. I don't think I'll do it. any time soon.

SS

I haven't been called a brat since my sister got married.

Sigh

SS

2long,

I just sent you the info. Not trying to be secretive, but thought you might benefit from the book and articles, and we are not supposed to mention other sites on this forum.

But I sent it, if it is of any use, then good, if not, that is good to. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Along the same lines SS, my dad told us when we became of marriage age that the best thing we could do for our marriages was to move far away from parents.

Young couples need to become emotionally dependent on each other, and way less emotionally dependent on their parents.

And SLH, you are a young couple still.

And my parents loved each other with all their heart and soul, but didn't live anywhere near their own parents until they had been married 30 years.

Just another angle, aside from those which SS made.

>Well okay but at our ages

Exsqueeze me? Speak 4 yourself, missy. I'm a spring chicken...with legs to match...

Me too Kimmy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

PS, love your new sig line! loved your old one too, for that matter.

You've got chicken legs, too? We should form a club!

I love HP...only 7 more days...only 7 more days...DS called and has already ordered his copy of the new book! A$$...I can call him that, can't I? He was telling me to rub it in...after 16 hours in labor with him WITH NO DRUGS and he had the melon of a...well...melon...and he calls to gloat?!?! A$$!