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graycloud #1205903 02/01/07 02:36 PM
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Oooh, a challenge.

I can't wait. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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SLH - the sliders are about the size of a half dollar...they're here at work.

My musk turtles are the size of a penny. Their names are Desi and Lucy.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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Tut & Titi were tiny when we got them, but they both grew so fast. To this day, I can't tell you how they squeezed out of the overflow holes I had cut out in that pool. Dag-nab Houdinis!

We are considering getting a snake, too -- but are unsure what kind would be happy with our other assortment of dogs, cats, fish and sometimes ferrets, iguanas and sugar gliders (we babysit friends' critters often). I saw that you had posted one of yours that lived in a tank and ate feeder fish. What kind is he? You're happy with him? Is he easy to care for?

PS I like George and Weezy -- ROFL


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It was a checkered back garter snake.

I loved him to death. He was the MOST awesome!

We've also had a python at one time. Her name was Ka. She lives at the Rattlesnake farm in New Braunfels now...she's very happy cos she's used for breeding....so she gets LOTS of snakey attention (it's cos she's BEAUTIFUL!...she is a beautiful with her snakey glory).


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Went and saw my therapist today (he keeps me sane most days, LOL) and asked him what particular marriage books he might recommend. His favorite was the Five Love Languages. He says (even more than HNHN) he had seen more marriages changed because of this book.

Has anyone here read it? Was it really as good as he touted?


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I have read it, and it is helpful.

Both books talk about finding and meeting your spouses needs. FLL shows how we tend to give to our spouse what we want to get, which is not always what they want, or what they need. To me, it was more of a theory book, where HNHN was more of a how to do book.

Probably it's just how it came across to me though, I think it does have value.

The one that really helped me the most was "Love Busters" because that was more of a problem for me than not meeting needs. Perhaps that's why FLL was not as helpful for me, because my W said I was meeting her needs pretty well along.

The bottom line is that it was helpful for me, and I enjoyed it and learned from it. My W didn't like it as much, and she didn't finish it.

Since we got it from the library, it didn't cost us to read it.

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SS, Have I ever jumped up and down and thanked you for the Mars/Venus book you sent?

I love it and apply it all the time.

LOL, I actually pointed out to Dr. that HNHN sounded very similar to FLL, but he stood his ground. For some reason, the fact that he was so fond of FLL made me indignant! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> LOL. I am a Harley Girl Myself.:)


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Glad you enjoyed it SLH.

It seems like there are things to learn from all of them. Each adds a little different point of view.

FLL doesn't talk quite the same way about meeting needs, but I think it means about the same thing. Basically, you need to know what makes your spouse happy, and do that, and they do the same thing for you.

It does help to read it - because bringing these things to mind again often helps us see places we can improve or things we can fine tune. I never get it all the first time around.

I need to read Mars/Venus again. IN fact, I should do Harleys books again too. Just as soon as I get some spare time.

Leaving on a snow camp first thing in the morning.
Boy Scout Klondike winter camp.
Maybe even snow caves.

Probably not as wild as where Gray is going.

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Fluke and Flaura.


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Hey SS:

We met with the mediator yes2rday. Went surprisingly well. My W even hugged her sister and her mom hugged all of us afterwards.

SIL has 60 days 2 qualify for a loan on a set amount, or we sell and split the profit. As we expected, she really wants that house.

It's 2bad it 2k mediation 2 get her 2 talk 2 us, but it did work in the end.


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That's good 2Long.

It's time to put your behind in your past.


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2 all my good friends on here:

Goodbye! Peace 2 all.

The self-inflicted 2rmoil of MB has outpaced the marital 2rmoil I was once in.

You have my email address.

-ol' 2long, Qfwfq, T-zero

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Goodbye! Peace 2 all.

The self-inflicted 2rmoil of MB has outpaced the marital 2rmoil I was once in.

You have my email address.

-ol' 2long, Qfwfq, T-zero

WTH??????? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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GC,

I checked Google Earth for where you will be. I found a Coldfoot, but every third place in AK is named Coldfoot. And there are about two dozen Deadhorse.

I tried to insert a placemark in this post, but couldn't get it to work. Maybe with more time.


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Toolik Lake is

lat 68.626752°
lon -149.591408°

Follow the highway north to the Arctic and that's Deadhorse. Search for "Prudhoe Bay, Alaska". Go south of Toolik Lake (and a little west) about 100 miles and that's Coldfoot.

GE is weird about revealing cities in Alaska. Not weird, but its standard "reveal towns of such-and-such-size at such-and-such zoom level" formula doesn't work well up there. Everything's too far apart.

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Goodbye! Peace 2 all.

The self-inflicted 2rmoil of MB has outpaced the marital 2rmoil I was once in.

You have my email address.

-ol' 2long, Qfwfq, T-zero


2L, I can't imagine what has been going on, but I for sure will miss you and your posts. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Please come back when you feel up to it.

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2long, NOOOOOOOOOOOOO . First WAT, now you.

I can only hope that you'll be back. I kinda recall you've had as many "goodbye MB" posts as I have so I'm hoping this is another temporary goodbye.

GC, have you seen "A Prairie Home Companion" yet? It must be special for you guys. All the reviews I've read say it's a wonderful movie.

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Kimmy, KiwiJ:

What I mean is that I'm tired of being subjected 2 FH's perpe2al DJs of me personally, and the harm that his posts do 2 newbies here.

MB is being overrun by 'thumpers.

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And I get frusterated at the thread jack.

A hurting BS crawls into the forum needing serious, clear unambiguous MB advice and tools, but as soon as a certain person posts to it their thread spirals off into angels on pinhead arguments and fundamentalist tit-for-tat.


I am also way tired of Catholics being dissed...


"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan

"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky

WS: They are who they are.

When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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