Thank you SS. I just want everyone to be happy. Other people's happiness is so freeing for all of us. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So true Weaver - so true.

I see that someone else long ago taught that same thing.

From Matthew chapter 22
37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt alove the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
38 This is the first and great commandment.
39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

If everyone loved their neighbor as themselves, the problems of the world would go away overnight, and we would have peace.

Thanks for being one of those people - you make the world a better place for your being in it.

SS

2long,
Weavers ideas are good - though a spur of the moment trip to OOSP is kind of difficult because of the distance.

Location isn't important - Is there somewhere closer?

SS

hi <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hi Faithful,

How's life?

SS

SS,

shhh...be vewy, vewy qwiet..life is peaceful and somewhat happy these days. I don't want to ruin it by saying it outloud. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

OK, but if we did it my way, we would celebrate.

!!!

Summer Vacation plans?

Not that you have to, but I am interested.

SS

Not summer, SS too hot for DS to go anywhere but Fall is looking good again. It was really enjoyable to use the Thanksgiving holiday as an excuse to get out of town. Not sure if thats what we will do this year but it sure took pressure off of having to spend it with extended family. This year we are looking into doing Disneyland. Not the outdoor adventure I hope for but for now just time with us as family having fun is enough.

If my H ever gets any real vacation time, I want to rent an motorhome that is adapted for wheelchairs so we can do the outdoorsy thing.

If heat is a problem in the summer, look into Yellowstone National Park.
It is a cool place. We went late July in the summer of 05, and there was frost on our car one of the mornings, and we had to wear jackets some days until 11AM or so. Not for this summer maybe, but future. There are many trails that accommadate wheel chairs, but you can see lots of wildlife and wonderful scenery from your vehicle. We stayed in a motel in West Yellowstone (just out side the west entrance) and drove in each day, and it was fantastic. Hot shower at night, eat out, sleep in nice bed, and tour the park in the daytime.
We have done the camping thing on prior trips, and we like both. I thought I would give you ideas.

You could do the same thing spring or fall at Zion, Bryce, and the North rim of the Grand Canyon. All of them have motels close by, or in the park.

You know though, I am just giving ideas, you should always do what works best. It's just that I have never seen kids that don't like the great outdoors - especially when their mom is there to make the trip more fun.

Some of the paths have small geysers, and bubbling pools
www.outdooroutlet.com/SS/yellowstone2005/boiling2.jpg

There are buffalo in the east and central parts of the park, and they are close to the road.
www.outdooroutlet.com/SS/yellowstone2005/buffalo2.jpg

We had a picnic on day two, and this one came right through the picnic area
www.outdooroutlet.com/SS/yellowstone2005/buffalo4.jpg

Yellowstone falls, taken from a paved parking lot.
www.outdooroutlet.com/SS/yellowstone2005/falls2.jpg

These kinds of scenes are common
www.outdooroutlet.com/SS/yellowstone2005/meadow2.jpg

And of course, Old Faithful - and the lodge serves good ice cream BTW.
www.outdooroutlet.com/SS/yellowstone2005/of2.jpg

We are doing our summer vacation the last week of May. Going to Great Basin National Park in Nevada, then to a lake for a few days of fishing. We want to go before it gets really busy.

Zion is wonderful at Thanksgiving time. Cool, and not so busy as the summer. Many days are in the high 60's making it nice for sight seeing. Of course, it depends on the year, some years are colder than others.

SS [color:"pink"] [/color]

I find myself thinking about infidelity a lot more lately than in the past 2ple years.

This isn't good.

-ol' 2long

Where's that purple shoe, so I can whop you over the head with it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

L.

Wow 2long !

I suspect those thoughts COME to everyone. When we feel more like letting them stay, it must mean something.

What do you think?

SS

Orchid -
You are well?

SS

Hey, woah!

Hope you folks didn't think I'm contemplating DOING it.

Just that I can't get the whole [censored] out of my mind lately, 'zall.

-ol' 2long

I should try that again -

Negative thoughts come to all of us. However we can replace them with other thoughts if we think about it, and make the switch.

That you don't replace them, or that you find yourself dwelling on them more than normal might mean something.

Do you think it means something?

Are you just tired because you have worked on it for so long?

SS

Orchid: SS, funny you should ask. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I am home with a cold and the flu. Can't go to far, if you know what I mean. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


Orchid: 2L, whew.... You gave me a scare, there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Ok, we need to get you back in balance.

What's your W doing or s/b doing to help?

Hugz,
L.

Dear Orchid -
Get well soon.
Hope you get lots of rest while you wait it out.

How does that go -
Drink lots of rest, and get plenty of fluids - is that it?

SS

Starve a cold, feed a fever? Right now feeding anything is on hold.

Son is also home sick with similar but he wants lunch. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

He must be feeling better.

L.

Orchid:

Yeah, feel better! That's an order.

Well, my W ain't doin' nuttin'. Or that's my read.

She's still got that pic2re of Rat Meat with other coworkers from about 16 or 17 years ago on her bulletin board, and she still has his email address in her "to" list in her email account. And those are just the "little things" that I do know about. Granted, I haven't said anything about them yet. Don't know when I will (almost did at the top of my lungs when I got yelled at on Sa2rday, but that wasn't the way or the time). I would very much like for her 2 voluntarily [censored] those mementos without me asking - or without her even knowing I'm aware of them. Kind of like I said on piojitos' thread.

I think my W is still withdrawing and making slow progress, because there have been times when she's been more interested in being with me or holding hands while we're watching something on the lobotomy box. I don't think there's contact, but I can't really know for certain.

We went 2 that wedding last weekend, which she enjoyed (so did I), even though she repeated recently that she "hates weddings."

I think I can remain patient, and frankly believe I'll need 2 because of the length of her s2pid A, but I do feel as though I would end our marriage sooner than quicker if I found evidence for another A.

But I'm better at doing things with my son, or by myself, and not fretting over whether she'd rather I do something else. She would, most times. I just don't care enough 2 drop what I'm doing for her. That's not always true, though. But it is true that I won't go out of my way for her when I know she won't appreciate it.

I'm going 2 my telescope thingy in 2.5 weeks with my son in the Model A (I'm putting the overdrive in on Friday, so I should be able to FLY at 60mph! Woohoo!). Then I'm going 2 OOSP with my W the following weekend 2 open up the house and fix any leaks due 2 the winter freezes, if there are any. Then she's at OOSP with her class for the last 2ple weeks in June. Son and DD are going, 2. I get the house 2 myself for 2 weeks! Then I'm supposed 2 go out for the 4th and come home with them all. Then I'm off 2 drive across country and back for 3 weeks in August. By myself again (yipee!), unless my son decides 2 go with. But I don't think he will.

-ol' 2long

You have some good times, but her not talking, and trying to ignore the whole thing still bothers me a lot.

When a FWS spouse is not on board with recovery, and with making a good marriage it tends to create resentment.

It would for me anyway.

Three weeks is a long drive.

Are you taking the interstate, or the back roads?

SS