Orchid, did your cold die of starvation yet?

SS

2L,


Orchid: I agree with SS. When there is no real cooperative spirit from the FWS, then the BS can not heal properly and stay in the M. Because it puts the burden of recovery on the BS when it s/b on the FWS.


SS, the cold is still here and now has morphed into some kind of intestinal flu. YUCK!!! I don't like being sick from both ends at the same time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

One benefit: starving a cold isn't as hard now. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Ok, enough details. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Aloha,
L.

Painfully tired this afternoon.

I'm blogging now... Kimmy's blog

Off the the peditrition. See you campers later!

(BTW: Fire Jolly Ranchers...need I say more?)

He GC,

Looks like this thread took off in another direction. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Sorry.

Was your last few posts about how parents treated their children? Hm... been thinking about that one.

When I was young, I thought my parents treated me quite well. They were strict but I knew they loved me and often felt they put my interests ahead of their own.

I have my own child now. Hm.... funny how things seem different. My POV is changing as I see how much I am doing vs need to do for my own child. Now when I look back, a lot of the things I thought my parents were doing for me, really weren't for me. Putting my interests ahead of their own happened sometimes but not as often as I thought. In most cases, I just was fitted into their schedule.

Wow. Eye opener. My R with my parents has definitely changed over the years.

I take notice and adjusting so that I don't make the same mistakes with my son. Son & I have a lot of 'deep thought' discussions I wish I had with my parents. It can be draining at times and other times I am amazed at his thought process. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
L.

I swear it's been this kind of day:

"What will you do if we let you go home,
And the plastic's all melted and so is the chrome?
Who are the brain police?

What will you do when the label comes off,
And the plastic's all melted and the chrome is too soft?
Who are the brain police?

What will you do if the people you knew
Were the plastic that melted and the chromium, too?
Who are the brain police? "

-Frank Zappa, "Who are the brain police?"

Does that mean it was a bad day?

I can't live in suburbia.

I think GB wants to live in the burbs of Gainesville. That's in FLA, the sunshine state.

How do you rejoin civilization when you spent the last 20 years in the woods.

My uncle told me when I moved back here to take care of my dad, not to do it. He said life would forget all about me here.

I'm thinking a condo in the city, where I can walk to work. Or a quaint little town by the beach, but not suburbia.

All my life I was told to bloom where I was planted (air force brat), and I just don't want to anymore.

I want to go somewhere that I pick, because I absolutely love it there.

If you could live anywhere all you firebugs, where would it be. Where is the nicest place in the US of A to live? I know Orchid will say Hawaii, but that is not an option for most of us....way too expensive.

The nicest place w/b where you feel at home. If it includes being around family, then the climate may not matter.

I believe that home is where the heart is. 1st you gotta have heart. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Btw, it is horribly expensive here. That certainly does NOT add to the beauty of this island. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

They did a recent new feature about stress on the island. Seems working moms carry the largest stress. Hm..... I fall into that category. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Hard to have the aloha spirit when you want to spit nails because of the traffic or whateva's. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Aloha,
L.

It's been a weird day at work. Don't want 2 talk about it.



FL? Whole state is water-soluble. They have great planetary seeing there, but it's 2 wet and buggy for me. And I like a little topography with my beer.

I've always sworn I wanted 2 live in the country somewhere. I like the mountains and the deserts, like the red rock country where SS lives. Only I'd like a little more elevation. He fries 2 often. And there's 2 many people in his town.

I liked Ft. Yukon when I was there. No paved roads and no road access 2 the outside world. But the nights are 2 short in the summer and 2 long (and cold) in the winter. And all the cool planets are 2low in the sky from there.

I'd love 2 see the East African Rift, but I'm not in2 getting shot or starved all that much.

I loved Hawaii, though the 2 times I've been were spent on the big island. Melted the soles on my converses where the lava from Pu'u O'o flows over the road...

-ol' 2long

I don't like cities all that much, but if I were 2 pick one that I've been 2?

Florence, hands down.

Would have 2 learn me some Eyetalian, though!

-ol' 2long

I think I'll stay where I am. It's big enough to have everything close, but small enough that I can recreate like I want in all directions from town.

It is too hot in the summer (as 2long said) but I am a native. The little mountain town we often go to is only 60 minutes away, and we seldom have to shovel snow in the winter. (We almost never have to shovel snow, it melts the next day on it's own.) I think I'll stay.

Weaver, it's different for everyone. Maybe you should visit a different place every month for 2 or three years until you have checked out all the possibilities. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

SS

I like the two places I've lived in the Pacific NW. I've yet to find better. They are the only two places I have lived in, but I've been all over the country, and the world.

Well, except Tuscany. I could live in Tuscany.

The worst place I've had to work in for a long spell was Dublin.

Second was Bolthole, I mean Blytheville, AL.

ed: And you can keep the East coast all to yourselves, in general.

There are some nice places over here in the east Ap. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

You know it's funny reading what everyone wrote, we are so different in a lot of ways, but even my younger brother agrees with you about Al and '2 about Africa. He told me not too long ago that the only times he has ever been truly fearful was a few months ago on a business trip in Africa, and once when he got lost in the backwoods of Al. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

We are going to take the next five years or so and travel around as much as we can before we decide where we want to retire.

Of course retire is not the correct word as we will probably both be working at some type of job. Me, I will even consider waitressing if I have to, but I am not going to work in the corporate world or the customs brokerage business ever again.

I am faced with a tough decision right now. My DD's dad wants her to live with him during the school years. He feels he can provide more of what she needs and we both agree that she cannot stay in this town any longer. I was going to put her in the Green Bay school system for the next five years with me, but I have to consider what her dad thinks as well.

I know he has some very valid points, but I worry that emotionally she need me.

I really am having a hard time with this. I just don't know what is best, and I am not up for another court battle. Although he said he would not fight me in court, I don't entirely believe him, especially if for instance I agree to let her go with him for the next school year but she gets into trouble emotionally without me. I am not sure he would let her come back.

I don't know. You people with your families intact are so lucky. It is so hard to be a single parent faced with these types of decisions.

And yes Orchid, it is very hard to be a mom working full time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

weave,

What does P think? At her age should she have an input? I don't know, and I am thankful I did not have to go through custody stuff. I would have fought tooth and nail for primary, full custody. But at the same time I knew DS needs his mother.

DS is still having issues related to all this crap. He has not regained closeness to his mother since Plan B ended and she moved back home three years ago. He does not trust her at a very deep level. It shows. And it spills over into other things. Sometimes it seems he has no enthusiasm for anything.

I try to be understanding, but at some point I am going to have to put my foot down. It hurts already just thinking about it. He didn't cause this and he is still suffering from it.

Weave, I think P needs her mom. Teen girls are suuuuch a challenge and mine would be lost if she didnt have mom as a punching bag and cheerleader. :eyeroll:

Why not compromise and let him have her for the summers?

I think she needs her monm too, Faith. I do want her to go with him in the summers, but if he doesn't want to send her back afterward is where there is going to be trouble. She did assure me that if she wanted to come home at any time she would voice it to her dad. She is kind of shy about upsetting him and I worry she won't find her voice while she is there.

Ap, I did ask her and she started crying and said she didn't want to have to decide. She loves her dad an awful lot. But he's a guy and quite frankly I don't think he understands the emotions of a young girl, but he is very intelligent and much better at school things than I am. He is also very strict.

Your son experienced something very hurtful from his mom. I am sorry for that and I hope that you (and she when she gets through with her withdrawl) can undo some of the hurt. I hope that he is able to trust women when he grows up, but I am sure that you are making sure that he can.

This is bothersome. Are things going okay for him in school?

OK, I guess. Bounces around right at the honor roll threshold. But he is capable of so much better. He used to do so much better.

Fewer friends than he used to have. After FWW moved out he withdrew from all his friends except one. That is the only good friend he still has.

Appy, have you gotten your son some counseling? I would really worry about him still having trust issues and the lack of enthusiasm. It sure sounds like depression.

Over a year's worth of a nationally recognised child psychologist. Maybe it's time to go back for a tune up. DS mentioned to me a couple of weeks ago he had another dream about mom leaving again. He remembers like it was yesterday her stepping over him while he was collapsed crying in the doorway as she left the morning after D-Day 2.

Parents who do this kind of thing to their children have something to answer for, IMO.

>He remembers like it was yesterday her stepping over him while he was collapsed crying in the doorway as she left the morning after D-Day 2.


OMG.

OMG.

omg.

I'm crying. That poor baby.