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Re: I am spinning so fast I can't think straight!
#1207731 10/25/04 02:15 PM
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FIM,

I don't know about any special spy tactics but MHO w/b to plant doubts in his A brain.

Example:

1. Casually mention you found something kinda smelly in the garage or wherever you suspect he maybe leaving some stuff. Don't accuse, just mention something smelly and approx location. Then ask if he knows what it is.

2. Ask if he has been told about the prank phone calls the OW has been placing. Is she doing them in his presence or because he isn't with her? Again no proof, just ask.

3. Let him know some $$ has been missing, did he take it or what happened?

I think you get the idea. Plant doubts and sit back, then let him stew in it. Practice before you do you. Don't laugh when he responds. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

JMHO,
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Re: I am spinning so fast I can't think straight!
#1207732 10/25/04 03:31 PM
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I did not say have a retaliatory affair, I am saying that planting a seed of insecurity and doubt in WH mind that his taking her for granted might lead to her leaving eventually A or not might help. Reality is that the longer he keeps it up the likelier she is to leave eventually period. Knowing you can be replaced is humbling to the fogged out WH.
Re: I am spinning so fast I can't think straight!
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Thanks Dad for your perspective. It is helpful seeing things from the WS's point of view. I got on this site for a few moments this weekend, had to check on the alien sitings (hahaha)and told my FWH a bit of your story faith. When I told him your fog-bound alien, or Doing Only Right Now what pleases him (AKA D.O.R.K) travels to SAT, the break down, and what he was telling you, H screwed up his face and said, "he wouldn't need to take his trailer unless he was planning something."

So what's it like all you FWS peering back into the fog? My H seems to get very sad and ashamed when I mention some of the things he said and did while in the pea soup. He acts like he can't beleive he did those things, and there is nothing he could do to make up for them...there is though, he can stick it out...
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