OK...had to comment...

You bumps prove something: Your H, or any addict (including the OW in MANY issues) can NOT be helped unless they themselves would like to be helped.

Surround...if you are still lurking...Can you see and hear and feel your W still wants this M to work?!?!?!? She is putting ACTIONS behind her WORDS.

You are still giving her words that "I want to try" "I still love you" ETC ETC ETC--with NO ACTIONS.

When is the hurt going to end surround? Your choices decide that, my friend.