I would only post a picture of yourself, if you want to, on that site. IMHO, it would cross a boundary for you to divulge their confidentiality for the whole world to see. It's hard to know how this may affect their future. Unfortunately, there's so much craziness going on out here these days....

I think I'll just retract that whole idea now that I've thought more about it.

More bad than good....thanks for your input.

Georgia

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You know, FH, that's just a little too close to a trigger for me. The OW in my life used to use scriptures to bash me for not "reconciling with her" and allowing her unfettered access to my husband again. VERY manipulative.

You conveniently left out the scriptures which supported the bold-faced reference above. GG IS doing his actions according to scripture. It just happens to coincide with the advice of his marriage counselor too.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">KaylaAndy - Out of deference to GG's request to change the subject, I will not comment further.

However, I will say that your "trigger" deserves futher comment and clarification, so if you'd like to discuss it further, then I'd be happy to discuss it with you either on another thread or via email. If you prefer email, my address is mbforeverhers@yahoo.com

One incident that I forget to report.

2 weeks ago I got a cell phone for private, personal use as I was using my company phone alot. When I filled out the application, I had to give a CREDIT address and a BILLING address. I was careful to note that my CREDIT address was home and that I wanted nothing mailed there. I was assured that it would not be used for any purpose other than a credit check.

On Tuesday night, I got a call on my new phone that said "private number". I answered. It was WW. Said "so, you have another cell phone now, huh?". I went downstairs and she was holding my first cell phone bill, complete with phone number, in her hand.

Needless to say, SunCom and I had some serious discussions about that. They changed my number immediately, but now WW knows that I've gotten a different cell phone.

Georgia

Merry Christmas to all -

Not been a good afternoon for me. WW came upstairs this afternoon and tried to kick the door down. She cracked the door.

I opened the door and unfortunately, took part in a conversation that lasted about 15 minutes. In retrospect, I should have just walked past her and left the house, but I blew it and didn't.

She told me that she misses me, but she will never give up her relationship with OM. She also said she would never call SH.

I told her that I wasn't interested in continuing our R with another man involved, that God hadn't called me to share with W with another man. She asked if I realized that may mean a divorce, I said yes I understand that.

She then critized her kids who she is so disappointed in because they're so "judgemental" and can't accept what their Mom is doing. I told her that the relationship with them was between her and them, but that she might want to consider the effect this is having on them.

Then she left the house for about 3 hours. My parents called me later to tell me that WW had just left their house and told them all the things they had done wrong. How they had been poor in-laws, etc. They were very, very upset. They have always loved her so much and thought so much of her. That is gone now.

She's back now, downstairs. Blind as a bat to the fact that HER actions have caused her to loose her kids, her DIL's, her in-laws, and her R with her husband. Satan is alive and well.

S's and DIL's have invited me to join them at #2S's church tomorrow morning (he's on staff) and the 5 of us will celebrate as a family in the social hall (the granddogs will be there too!). They have not invited Mom.

This is tough....but WW is making it very clear that she will stick with OM no matter the cost.

Thanks to all for "listening".

Georgia

I've been contemplating this very thing, GG.

Isn't it funny how they are willing to pursue their happiness AT ALL COSTS, even when the high price of their actions are beating them down and making them miserable?

I think it was Orchid who told her WH that he had just better start ACTING happy if he was so insistent that that's what he was going for. I have that a little wrong, but that's about the essence.

There's wisdom there. If the WS is so sure that what they're doing is going to make them happy and they're willing to pursue it at all costs...then they damned well better start acting happy and stop trying to make us feel sorry for them in their misery.

Ah, GG...I hope you survive this weekend well! I've been following the latter part of your thread and think you're doing pretty well!

So sorry to hear about your altercation.

However, it's all a part of the script. My FWH pulled the exact same stunts. They go on angry rampages and try to provoke others in order to justify the A to themselves. Actually, believe it or not, in retrospect, it's a good sign. She's not feeling OK about what she is doing and is wanting to blame everybody else. It's becoming real to her. She's having to suffer. She realizes that it may actually come to divorce.

PUT YOUR CAPE BACK ON. Although you may have a long way to go. This definitely is not over. She needs to suffer a bit longer.

TURN OUT THE LIGHTS AGAIN!!!

Take care and Merry XMAS.

Thanks, Maddyk and Mimi -

I appreciate the kind words. The funny thing, I didn't even get upset during this whole thing. Still not sure if it's Lexapro or what, but it seems as though my ability to anger is gone.

I don't know why I didn't think to dial 911 while she was trying to kick my door down. If she does it again, I will do that.

Now that it is over, I have thought a little more about that. I am concerned that she may be getting violent to go along with her anger. I'm going to watch for that, but I'm glad that I've got that real lock on the door now. I at least would wake up before she is able to break it down, not so sure I would feel safe sleeping here right now without a locked door.

Merry Christmas to you as well. Thanks for hanging in there with me Mimi. I hope your family situation is great for Christmas and you are the "domestic goddess" for your FWH this Christmas.

Georgia

Not much time today but I was thinking that it would have been a good idea to call 911 like she did to you.

Do that in the future.

Take good care, Georgia,

MIMI--- THE DOMESTIC GODDESS!!!

merry christmas Georgiaguy from a fellow Georgian.

Thinking of you today GG. Your wife is stubborn....but I'm seeing some "cracks"....and not just in the door chere.

(((((((((((((((GG))))))))))))))))))))

Thank you, tdr. I hope you and your kids have a great Christmas. I know it must be hard seeing the dates in your sig line, I'll pray for you and your kids today.

If you're south of me, I hear you may get snow tonight, I think we're going to be bypassed this time.

MIMI - "Domestic Goddess" - does that costume come with a toga and laurels? I haven't been able to find the cape, mask, and GG shirt yet.

Okay, I'm getting ready to leave a little early to go meet the kids in case there is a road block between me and the front door, I don't want to be late.

Merry Christmas to you both and all other readers.

With Christ's love on this day -

Georgia

Thank you, star*fish, for that nice hug.

Much appreciated.

Georgia

Georgia Guy,

Your WW is waffling right now. She tries to decide if OM is worth lossing not only you but eveyone else that matter to her <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . You are lucky that you have family that support you.

Let WW decides & w/ time she will get out of her fog. However don't take her words personally ... she would give anything to have those words back once they are out of her fog.

-rh-

I am really able to testify that what REDHAT is saying is true.

I'm sitting here with my FWH today and he is really himself again. I thought he was truly gone a couple of years ago when he was in the midst of his A.

THE FOG IS A REAL THING!!!

She is still there inside somewhere. Keep your faith in this.

ditto what redhat and mimi said. GG....I can't WAIT until next Christmas....because I have a real feeling that you and your wife....are going to be in a totally different place. Have faith chere!!

Lay it at the cross.

Thanks to all of you.

After celebrating with the boys, and then at aunt and uncle's house, I decided not to come back home for the night as I knew WW was still here and in a mood to fight.

I left town and headed west, spent the night away. Got up this morning to a serious blanket of ice which surprised me. I got back into town and went to a church that I had never attended as I didn't want to run into people that I knew who would ask all those embarrassing questions.

After church, I met #1S / DIL for lunch. #2S / DIL was iced in at their home about an hour from here and couldn't get here today.

WW left a message on #1S's cell phone that she was leaving this afternoon and for Dad to please care for the dogs in her absence. I'm home now, she's gone.

Relief......

Very, very sad yesterday celebrating Christmas with the family but without her. I know she was at home alone all day. Seems almost as hard on me as on her sometimes.

Thanks to each for your posts yesterday. I hope each of you had a great Christmas.

Georgia

GG,
No post from you today...Is everything ok??

Good Morning, TNbelle & all -

Yes, everything is fine. Very kind of you to ask.

I was able to enjoy the first peaceful day at my own home in a long time. I was still off from work. I got up and cooked myself a big breakfast, had a nice devotion time and just enjoyed a great day at home doing stuff I enjoy doing. Cleaned my fish pond, played with the dogs, nice home stuff. Cooked myself chicken cordon bleu, fresh asparagus, and carrots for dinner.

Probably more than you wanted to know, but the point is that it's been a long time since I could enjoy a day at my own home without having to worry about WW, and it was very peaceful. I checked this site a couple of times and no one had posted, so I didn't write anything.

No input on WW except to say that #2S/DIL have elected not to go to G'parents house either because WW is there. I don't know when she's coming back or what's going on there, but that's okay with me.

Thanks again for the inquiry. I hope you all had a great Christmas. Work today, then I'm off unitl next Monday (but I'll still post periodically).

Georgia

GG,
Thanks for checking in. I'm wondering how WW is doing at her parent's house after all that has been revealed?? It doesn't sound (from what you've said) as if they will enable her.