</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Georgia Guy:
I do generally try to read the books that folks here recommend as I like to read. I've got a little of a backlog right now, but I'll add those to my list.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well it sounds like you have alot of time on your hands at night to read them!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> After your done leave them on your coffee table for the wife to find!!

Hi, ILF -

Yes, I've realized that all this time on my hands is not a good thing if I don't use it wisely.

Tonight I talked to an old friend who is now working full-time (he's retired from the army) in youth prison ministry. He and I are going to team up again and I hope to start a one night per week Bible study at the local juvenile det. facility. Also, he's going to use his contacts to find a young man who needs a mentor. Now that my boys are grown, I kinda miss being "Dad".

Anyway, I realize that now that the holidays are over, I need to get motivated to do something useful and not turn into a couch 'tater.

Georgia

Mimi -

I was just reading your post on the thread about wearing your wedding ring. I was surprised at your answer.

When I told SH about the "airplane physician" encounter, he immediately asked if I was wearing my ring(I am). I'm still wearing mine for 2 reasons...

1. Reason given by Mortarman
2. To help myself avoid tempting situations.

Anyway, enough of that subject. Just some random thoughts to throw out there.

Georgia

Georgia:

Interesting that you mentioned the ring thing...

It was one of the strategies that I personally used to cope with PLAN B. I really struggled with PLAN B! I really feel for what you are going through. At first, it seemed that you were doing so much better than I did. I never learned how to live well without my FWH. At some point, I decided that I would just have to go on without him or die, REALLY. That's when I put my house up for sale and then he wanted back in. Oh Well. I don't even like to thing about those truly DARK DAYS!!

I'm not proud about taking my rings off. In fact, I lost them for awhile during my move. It wasn't the fact that I ever even considered having a R with anyone else. I cringed and almost ran away when other men approached me. I just had to pretend, convince myself, that my FWH was finished with me. Looking at a ringless hand helped me with that for some reason.

I have an ETERNITY ring which is really beautiful. You see what I mean? An ETERNITY RING!!! I couldn't conceive that a man who would give me that would start up with another woman. I planned to be with him FOREVER. I'm pretty sure that now it will be UNTIL DEATH DO US PART.

I'm praying for you. I know it's hard.

BTW, I almost hate to tell you this. Here we go again. Charleston is one of our favorite places. We've gone there every year except for those bad years. He insists that he has not taken the OW there.

Take Care, My Friend!!!

Good Morning, Mimi...

Nice to hear from you again. I feel better today, just about to leave right now for the dr. appt.

I'll post more later.

(Got any good Tucson sightseeing tips to share? I've never been there).

Georgia

How did you guess? Another eerie connection.

FWH accompanied me to a convention there during one of our awful false recoveries. I can't even remember the circumstances.

However, Tuscon truly is beautiful! Have your camera ready and don't miss the SONORA DESERT MUSEUM.

Georgia -

PIMA Airforce museum is a great way to spend several hours!

They've got JFK's Airforce 1, Clint Eastwood's Firefox plane, and several hundred more really cool planes. Some of them you can get inside and sit in the cockpit...My favorite was the B52!

It's inexpensive and they even do guided tours.

Exit the airport and go East on the first main street. It's about 10 minutes from the airport.

Have fun!

Gib

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<small>[ January 04, 2005, 11:33 AM: Message edited by: Gibby1 ]</small>

If you have more time you can always go to Tombstone and check out where the Gunfight at OK corral took place. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Did that but the biggest disappointment was that the kids were not impressed because they did NOT grow up on westerns like their parents. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Some good golf courses also if you are so inclined.

JL

Okay, Mimi....here is the official GG guide to most enjoyable places yet visited:

Most beautiful: San Francisco
Most romantic: Charleston
Most repetitively enjoyed: Williamsburg

I am looking forward to seeing Tucson, I'll look up the museum to which you refer, and be sure to have my camera. As my meeting ends Thursday afternoon, I would normally (with WW with me) take Friday as a vacation day and stay until Sunday. I hadn't planned to stay that long this time.

Gibby - Are you referring to one of the old 707's? I would love to see one of those AF-1 airplanes. I think it's the one that brought JFK back from Dallas that is in LA (I think).

Without giving away the farm here, I don't mind saying that my career is in aviation and I spend sufficient amounts of time with airplanes that I don't consider it a leisure activity too much any more.

Anyway, I'm game on things for GG to do while in Tucson. I'm not sure the MB boards are meant to be Fodor's guide to GG's solo travels, but hey...I've got my life story published here. Someday I'm going to hit the "print" button and then bind it and sell it at Barnes and Noble. (I'll autograph copies for free to MB'ers).

Georgia

GG -

If I had to guess, it was a 707, but I'm not 100% sure. Maybe they have a website...

Okay, back to the routine crisis.

WW called my work number and asked "how was your dr. appointment?". I told her that I had reschedule it, and she replied that she was concerned about me. I said "thank you" and hung up.

Now, 3 e-mails from her at school have arrived on my work acct. These are just basically forwards about various former students (one had a baby, etc.). She has sent each e-mail to me and each of the boys.

So....should I just ignore them or respond and ask that she not e-mail me? This is the first time she has done this since Plan B.

Georgia

2X4. You are supposed to hang up when she calls. Do not respond to her questions. Do not respond to her E-Mails.

DARK! DARK! DARK!

Okay, 2X4 accepted. Hang up...got it.

Also, forget the Tucson stuff. Impending crisis just came to light here in GA that is going to cause me to have to miss the meeting.

Oh well....some other time.

Georgi

Nothing family-wise I hope!!! P.S....good to see the wife buckle a little and actually voice concern for your welfare. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ January 04, 2005, 04:19 PM: Message edited by: InLikeFlynn ]</small>

No, the issues are work related.

Going to be a stressful work week next week, but we all have those things to deal with from time to time. I'm sending a sub to take my place in Tucson.

And I was beginning to look forward to the trip. I'd been to the desert musuem web-site and that looked cool.

Georgia

Good afternoon to all -

Kind of a quick summary.

I had dinner at my parents house last night along with #1S/DIL. That was very good, but I'm going to have to be careful as my Mom apparently feels it her duty to fatten me up. Gained 2 pounds since Christmas, maybe because the gym was closed all week. However, after dinner, I had the first good work out in a week. That felt good.

I'm still down to 1/2 dose on the Lexapro. My dr. appt. has been rescheduled for tomorrow morning. I am hoping to get totally off the Lexapro and the b/p med (I forget the name) after the visit. No particular problems, I had just rather live life w/o meds if possible.

I'm getting more involved in a local church. It is a different denomination, but I really have enjoyed the services and the people I've met. If I had gone to any of the local churches of my denomination, there would have been people there who I knew, which I'd rather not deal with right now. I talked to one of the staff yesterday and volunteered to help out with one of the local mission opportunities. It's a small thing, but I need to get back involved in a church and make new Christian friends. I talked to her a little about my situation and she invited me to a divorce recovery group. She said it's not necessary to be divorced, but it might help to work through some of the issues. Anyone have any experience with these types of groups? I don't know if I want to do that or not, but I am leaning that way right now.

I miss very much my former circle of friends from my church. That has been hard. I know that lots of people are probably assuming I've deserted my wife, but there really isn't any way to tactfully advise them otherwise.

I am beginning to look forward to my weekend in the mountains. I've done some web searches to scout out some places to see and I'm ready for a few days away. I've located a small, historic church in a nearby town that I plan to attend on Sunday morning.

Anyway, that's the GG update for today.

Georgia

<small>[ January 05, 2005, 12:07 PM: Message edited by: Georgia Guy ]</small>

Quick med update:

Dr. okay to stop the Lexapro so I'm going to try to stay off that unless I feel the need to get back on. I've been down to only 1/2 pill the last 4 days. I'll keep the Lexapro on standby in case. I do indeed highly recommend it for anyone in an extremely stressful situation, I think it is great.

B/P was much better (was 155/110 5 days before Plan B, now 120/74) and dr. wants me to stay on it.

WW is doing everything she can to "mend fences". However, she only wants to mend them so she can sit on them. She was already up and saw me downstairs this morning as I left (first time for this) and told me she misses me. I didn't converse, just said "bye" and left.

I'm going to pack tonight for the weekend so when I leave for work tomorrow I can have everything with me. I'll not return home again until Sunday night.

Thanks to all for caring enough to follow along with the GG saga.

Georgia

Sometimes a reminder of what it will take to get back to the M is in order along the Plan B path...

Next time she misses you, ask "Are you still in contact with OM?" If the answer is "Yes", then say "Bye", and walk out the door, if the answer is "No" then ask for more details..."When you say 'No' to contact, what does that mean?" and if she gives a satisfactory answer, then ask, "Do you want our M?" I would ask every time there is accidental contact, or she states that she misses you or wants to renew contact with you...

GG,

I am trying to catch up on your saga. Are you in Plan B? If so, why is there any contact with the WW?

In His arms.