Oops! Double post.

<small>[ February 22, 2005, 03:09 PM: Message edited by: mimi1254 ]</small>

Oh...okay.

Maybe someday I'll have to have one of those Ol' South Cotton Balls in my LR. You know, the one with hoop skirts and all that stuff. Music provided by the new home theatre system.

Anyway, I'm attempting to convince everyone that I will not be here tomorrow. If I can sneak my way out of here, I'll probably paint tomorrow.

Nice weather, sunny and warm. Good day to paint.

Good evening to all.

Georgia

So?

How's the LR look?
How sore are your muscles?

Hi Turtle -

Nice of you to ask.

The color of the L/R looks great. However, a second coat is req'd which I hope to do after work today. Also, I am yet to paint the trim (gloss white), which I will probably do on Saturday. But...the L/R looks much better than the "peach" color. If time permits on Saturday, I'd like to wrap up the painting and get the speakers installed. Saturday night I might have to watch some movie with a lot of action to try out the theatre thing. I think Mimi had recommended "Man on Fire".

Muscles...not really sore today even though I was really tired last night. I've got a bad sore throat and congestion today which I assume to be due to sleeping in close quarters with fresh paint.

Oh, there is some news to report. Yesterday while I was at home I saw the lady next door (Reggie's mom)come home. Being a pesky neighbor, I bolted out the door and caught her mid-way between the car and her house. We talked a long time (Peggy) and I told her that Reggie is welcome anytime, and that as I miss having my own kids around, I'd be honored to play ball in the front yard with him. She seemed to warm up to me after a while and I suspect that Reggie can come over now. So...maybe I'll "adopt" Reggie as my new son for awhile, I could use the company. I should say that I am ASSUMING Peggy is Reggie's mom, I didn't ask. Doesn't really matter.

Mimi...if you think my decorating is getting good, you should see me grocery shopping. Went to Bi-Lo last night and stocked up as the cupboard was bare. (Chicken breasts - $.99/lb; Pork Chops $1.59/lb.). I've got a pork chop marinading right now to grill for dinner tonight. Having that with black-eye peas and broccoli. Okay....I confess...I also bought ice cream that has Babe Ruth chunks in it. That's for dessert. (Hey, it was on sale!).

Back to the paint issue..the owner (landlord) is just ecstatic that he's getting the place painted for free (labor wise). I think he thinks he's hit the jackpot, a tenant who doesn't drink and takes vacation days to paint the place at no charge.

That's what's happenin' in my life right now.

No new leads on a dog yet. Actively seeking a homeless Schnauzer.

Georgia

Not much time now.

WOW! You are doing great. I'm happy for you.

EDY'S LIGHT ICE CREAM would have been better. You can have small portions of the BABE RUTH stuff, though. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Thanks, Mimi...

I've got to try not to turn into a couch potato who eats ice cream out of the carton. (But, it is tempting).

I'm trying to get the place more and more like "home". It occured to me yesterday this is the first time I've EVER painted a place FOR ME. I've alwasy had in mind that I was painting, fixing, re-finishing, whatever for WW, kind of as a labor of love. It is a strange feeling to be doing this just for me.

Even though I am doing pretty well, it seems like every day that goes by I miss her more and more. I just have to keep reminding myself of those sleepless nights watching her on the phone with OM all night long to remind myself that this is better. At least I can sleep now, but of course that may be partly drug (Lexapro) induced.

But... the place is looking good and it is definitely a comfortable place to live.

Georgia

Hey GG,

Dog related--Try Petfinder.com. You just pop in your zip code, type of animal and preferred breed. You'll get a list of available dogs in your area, usually mixed breeds. They usually have pictures so you'll get an idea on size. These are homeless animals, in shelters, rescues or foster homes, waiting for their forever homes!

Met one of the great loves of my life that way <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> !! He is a love sponge--just soaks it up!

Jenny

Thanks, Jenny -

Actually, the lady that owned Thomas recommended petfinder.com as well. I looked there Tuesday afternoon and there are lots of Schnauzers and "almost Schnauzers" listed within a several hour drive. I've sent some e-mails of inquiry on some of them, but no responses back yet.

Georgia

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Formerly G.G.:
<strong> Chicken breasts - $.99/lb; </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Is that boneless!?

You da MAN, Georgia!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

-AD

Hate to disappoint you, AD, but these aren't boneless.

GG,

Awesome that the painting is coming along. I think it's great that you are doing so much for yourself. It was be a great blessing to you and to Reggie if you are able to play ball and other things! Are you looking for a mini schnauzer? My xMIL just got one and just adore it.

I have a German Shorthair Pointer, ain't nothing small about him (70 pounds) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> , in fact the brat is 8 yrs old and STILL is very active.

While you are eating that baby ruth ice cream eat a spoonful for me, I'm not eating anything like that. You know gotta keep that girlish figure looking good <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hi Enchanted -

Thank you for the comments. And yes, it is a Mimi Schnauzer that I am looking for. They are sweet, smart dogs that really seem to have a mind of their own.

Okay, now I can eat an extra spoon of ice cream tonight because one if for you, right?

On to more serious stuff -

Seems like WW is getting agressive about financial stuff. I've been trying to keep money in our "joint" account for bill paying that is drafted, and she's taking it out as quickly as I put it in. Also, the mortgage company was to refund a house payment to us as it got paid 2X last month. It hadn't shown up yet, so I called them. Seems she intercepted it and got it into her account before it made it to the joint account.

This is getting harder every day. It is obviouis to me that this Plan B is not going to end up in reconciliation, only divorce. But, I still just don't know what I could do any differently.

BIG SIGHH....This stinks.

Georgia

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Mimi Schnauzer </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So now you're naming dogs after me? Thank God that's not my real name. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hang in there! You never know what the future holds.

Regardless of what happens with your M, it's so wonderful that you are growing so much personally.

<small>[ February 24, 2005, 02:38 PM: Message edited by: mimi1254 ]</small>

Sorry about that, Mimi....A bit of a type'o there.

However, a Schnauzer named Mimi? Now that has some possibilites. Knowing their personalities, also the name of "Prima Donna", with P.D. for short, has a nice ring to it.

Thanks for jumping in, Mimi...I appreciate it. I'm really discouraged. I feel like we're about to enter the "adversary" stage of this whole thing. I was shocked to go to our bank site and see $3.79 in our account.

I think that up to this point, I may have felt that leaving was my choice, and moving back in COULD be my choice. Now...I guess I'm feeling the sting of my own actions. That doesn't mean they're not right, it just means that I'm feeling more and more like it's over and reality is setting in.

Georgia

I'll simply say that I thought my M was over, too. I guess that means the good implementation of PLAN B.

Again I say, "You never know what the future holds." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Maybe you'll become a TV and MOVIE JUNKIE!

I'm enjoying AMERICAN IDOL on TV. I loved the movie RAY. You need to check out MAN ON FIRE. Men seem to love that movie.

<small>[ February 24, 2005, 03:02 PM: Message edited by: mimi1254 ]</small>

Thanks for the encouraging words, Mimi..

In lieu of going to the local bar and getting drunk (not drinking really has its disadvantages at times), I'm leaving work and heading to the local dog pound.

Also, I've got a lead on a Schnauzer to call about tonight.

Georgia

Found a website of someone that works with the Georgia mini schnauzer rescue organization. They have some pictures of some dogs at the bottom of hte page looking for a home (if hte website is up to date...)

Salty' Page

GG,
I just want to say something that may or may not cheer you up. This situation is not anywhere near or anything like being over! The fat lady hasn’t even come on stage yet, never mind had a chance to sing! Even if it comes down to the last day before a D becomes final, there is a lot more drama in this little play! I am so very sure beyond anything, that your WW is nowhere near finished with you yet! In fact, I would liken this time to the proverbial “calm before the storm!”

If I had to guess, I would say that right now your wife is still in the poor me stage and is feeling stubborn, abused and ever soooo misunderstood. Soon, with the help of some of her not so nice friends (either the OM or her new pal the divorce lawyer she hired) I would bet she’ll come at you with something mean, nasty and underhanded. Something to really test your resolve and desire to stay on the high road and above the mean spirited, vindictive gutter fight that these things can become. And I would guess that after she takes you right to the edge that it is then that the sickness of it all that may begin to wake her up.

Right now I get the feeling she is in total denial. She just refuses to believe that this is all really happening. And so she will allow the situation to take on a life of it’s own; as if the situation is separate from her and is controlling events rather then her. And she will ride this whirlwind because right now, she can’t put forth the effort to take back control of her own life. Instead, she’ll just drift, positive in her own mind that you’ll be the one to come to your senses and give in to her, to save her if you will, just as you always have.

So while the immediate future promises to be more painful for you still, in the end I truly believe you will prevail in some context. Maybe not the one you would choose for yourself right now, but in some way that will leave you the better man for having faced up to this experience and then faced it down. Take heart.

Coach

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by StillHereMakingIt:
<strong> Found a website of someone that works with the Georgia mini schnauzer rescue organization. They have some pictures of some dogs at the bottom of hte page looking for a home (if hte website is up to date...)

Salty' Page </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ahhhhh, those mini schnauzers are so sweet! I have long loved ms's but we just recently gave away our beloved minature schnauzers, Scotty and Greta Van Susteren. We were both traveling so much that we were having to uproot them every week for an overnight stay at Pretty Paws, which was very hard on them. We gave them both to a really nice local family who spoils them rotton. We have visiting rights. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Formerly G.G.:
<strong> Hate to disappoint you, AD, but these aren't boneless. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah, I knew that - just enjoying the detour from the train wreck.

GG, you're doing so well with your move, I'm thinking of moving soon myself. I have another house just sitting there, but also have a guy who wants to rent/buy it. I'm torn between taking the extra $$$/month rent money (which would help alot), staying home with my wife (until she's ready to D) and the alternative, which is to start building a new life in my old house (as soon as I get the *&^%@!!! roof fixed again).

I think it would be a real eye-opener for my W - to have to make do without me - and to start on the visitation schedule with our 4yo.

-AD