Jelly said: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> NOW, another W funnier than her man. I love it!!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I knew you would say that. But that's ok, because I'm funnier looking and you can't lose that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

What did ST mean he was leaving? Did he mean this site or you? Hopefully, he meant not hanging out here and not the latter. {{{{{Jelly and ST}}}}}

RH

<small>[ December 13, 2004, 08:38 AM: Message edited by: Recovering H ]</small>

Well, Mr Mayor. I must apologize profusely. I found the problem. It wasn't the PC. It was a defective user. My speakers were unplugged. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Off to clean up with head bowed, muttering check the cables, first, check the cables first. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by fightingalone-again:
<strong> Well, Mr Mayor. I must apologize profusely. I found the problem. It wasn't the PC. It was a defective user. My speakers were unplugged. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Off to clean up with head bowed, muttering check the cables, first, check the cables first. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow!!

It's only Monday and we already have a winner for "Idiot of the Week"!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I found the problem. It wasn't the PC. It was a defective user. My speakers were unplugged.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">another idiot unplugged <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

AW--hopefully you are on your way to pick up Aussie but woohoo!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Prayers for you that he is thrilled about little Aussie.

Morning I'ville. Hows everyone?? Gotta run now that I checked in. Morning Mayor.

Jelly-- <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> sorry things aren't going well. You and ST are in my prayers too.

The truth is very free-ing RH. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Me. He was thinking of leaving me.

This is such a struggle. We have never struggled before, it was so much easier when I was just keeping my mouth shut. I really think I felt less pain then. Less dignifying, less honest, but less pain.

Neither of us want to go back, but I have created such a painful place for us, it is hard to move forward.

I'm off to find my funny, so I don't drag you all down. I'm sure it is in the shape of a ball, and is chocolate covered. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Well I'm off to "work"! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Be back soon!!

Jelly, you're in charge!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Idiot of the week. I like that. Must be that's why you are Mayor, you have all the good ideas.

Jelly/ST, you two, my dear, need patience. Hang in there. This time of year is stressful enough. And I'm sure ST knows that it's best for the boys for the two of you to stay together. It's never easy, but you'll get through it. Keep praying!

Jelly - Tell ST that he should NOT go, that you love him and need him too much.

Morning Idiots.

AW - That is great news. I have a spare room if LINY and Brown's boys don't show up. But Thank God he is on his way home. Don't worry about anything else.

NOW - Good to see you here. Welcome. So you never ended your story - Was she yours?

{{{idiots}}}

now--oh, so much better than ow--i had to call you onwo cause im lazy and wanted to abbrev. good to see you and rh posting! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

ky--yes, i called you an idiot! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> well, aren't you?!?!? and that was one idiot to another, so i'm allowed to! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I know what you are feeling--well, some of it right now, at least. brown had a trigger yesterday. (Said i wasn't gonna talk about it, but...)
i wanna say, "How long are we going to live with this?" the answer is always. it will always be there. but it's how the two of us--the two of you--how we deal with it. what brought this on by st? yesterday was such a blur to me. i just want it all to end so we can move forward. but it ain't that easy. i'm ready--but in my eyes the ea wasn't the biggest thing for me/us. but in brown's eyes, this is so hard for her to work through. i am just trying to answer everything she throws at me (literally.) being honest. supportive. loving. comforting. there, emotionally. discussing things. you know? stuff i hadn't done before. ah, i'm just babbling. yeah, i hate these r talks and triggers--but it's something i brought on and i have to live with and work through *with* brown.

{{ky&st}}

in my best RIF voice: You guys are going to make it! You guys will be ok! (Hope he's doing OK!!!)

lots to do around the house...email me if ya want--i'll actually be reading my email today!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm going to have to color it again. Can you guys say FRIED!!!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Aussie 3 min. Miracle. I use it about 3-4 times a week. I don't think my hair looks ultra-treated, even tho I've been blonding it up since '89 or so.

Oh, and wash it a few times before you decide to color again. When you go dark, if you've previously been a lighter color, the cuticle of the hair is open (the hair cuticle is layered, like scales). It never really closes once it's been opened, so will release color slowly.

- Kimmy, who once upon a time was going to be a hair dresser

KY its against teh laws of idiotville for you and ST to have troubles. You guys are the official recovery poster children and you're not allowed to fall out, right ?

{{{{{{{{{KY & ST }}}}}}}}}}}}}

That leaving for a while thing is bullpoo. Talking fixes stuff, not seeing eac other fixes f'k all.

Like the song says :

"We found love,
So don't fight it
Life is a rollercoaster
Just gotta ride it
I need you,
So stop hiding
Our love is a mystery
Girl, let's get inside it "

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />


All blessings.

<small>[ December 13, 2004, 09:15 AM: Message edited by: Bob Pure ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">NOW - Good to see you here. Welcome. So you never ended your story - Was she yours?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">See? my funniness is contagious!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

AW--great news!!!!

Bob!!!!! Happy belated early Christams, mate!

Sorry--well, actually, no i'm not--glad to hear what happened the other day. Sorry that it happened, but result sounded good, eh?

de...getting a lot more pepper this last year....should i leave it or try to de-gray?

er, i mean salt...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Jelly, you're in charge!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">At what point wasn't I??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Liny, did you see RH's W is funnier than him too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


Thanks for the support you guys. It is a very scary thought him leaving, which he won't do, I don't think. What would we tell the kids? Where would he go, what would we tell the family? My daycare families too? I just can't imagine life without him. I'm sure he wouldn't go, but for him to be that unhappy with me to want to breaks my heart.

LINY - How does Brown like your hair?

NOW - We need a psychologist soooooooo bad, and the basket weaving adds a nice touch.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> See? my funniness is contagious!!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WHATEVER!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />


NOW, do you have a script pad???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I love and adore the most amazing woman in the world: brown!!!
I'm sorry for the pain I have caused and am doing everything to help heal this and move forward.
I know there will be setbacks with our recovery--but I will consider them like building a muscle, only to become that much stronger.
I am working on me. And with that comes the realization that there is no doubt that I want to live and dream and work and hurt and love with the one person on this earth that feels the same--that feels that we can accomplish ANYTHING--TOGETHER.
And it's more than just a dream--it's a realization that has shown through at times and that can be a consistent reality.

I realized yesterday that I was approaching 1K--and wanted it to be significant. These are just words, but we have been putting actions behind them....And what better place to have this post? Where it is safe to express anything that's on your mind...where you will get friendly advice, not 2x4's...and all of the support that's necessary...a good time to take a breather, and maybe if I'm "on", a funny or two! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Thanks idiots! And thanks, brown. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Bob!!!!! Happy belated early Christams, mate!

Sorry--well, actually, no i'm not--glad to hear what happened the other day. Sorry that it happened, but result sounded good, eh?


Thanks LINY !!. It was all good really. Rowing is what functional married couples do right ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

What has amazed me is hpow quickly and intelligently we got over it. Went to a concert with Squid last night ( Wet Wet Wet - a Scottish bland pop band she loves) as lovers and just went to a Thai lunch as lovers anf friends. I SWEAR she would have sulked for three weeks previously ovr that. Its a huge leap.

I'm actually a bit sad today. We made sleepy love this morning and for the first time in ages I thought of OM. All part of the recovery rollercoaster ride though. We went for a Thai lunch today which was lovely so all friends again.

U asked a while back what I thought when my dad threatened to beat me up and again what I thought when he did.

Well, firstly I though " go ahead old man, I am an open side flanker for a rugby team, do your worst haha" while also feeling pretty sh1tty for making my mild and loving dad even consider it.

After he duffed me up I was really surprised how hard he hit me - done with real passion and I thought how UTTERLY I deserved it. I apologised unreservedly for making my Dad have to resort to out of character behaviour after months of reasoning failed on me.

We never had a spiteful cross word again. Best Friends till he died twelve years later.

no guarantees but Itell you as an 18 YO who thought I ruled the world a good kicking was all I could relate to as an intervention.Not advice regarding your lazy [censored] sons, just an example matey. Eat that elephant any way you need to.

I am SO full of Thai foo now, I wanna lie down but I have work to do !!!

Take care and love that gorgeous woman of yours <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Do not rule it out.