Ick! Snow! Stay toasty!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by KiwiJ.:
<strong> Oh, I see we're in trouble again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

That's probably the opinion of a lot of people but I wonder how many people actually read what we write to each other. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Maybe we could move to "Resolving Conflict" because that's what we do best.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wanna really drive 'em nuts?

Make it a private thread with controlled access!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Everybody would have to get permission to join, or lurk!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

OK, I can see that my post was not taken with the intent I had given it, and I ALSO see that what I originally saw in this post was ASLO inaccurate.

<slices off some humble pie>

When I said "discouraging" I didn't mean this thread, or the messages in here, I meant when I see this post constantly at the top, and I see other posts sit for hours sometimes with 1 or 2 ore fewer replies, my first impression is discouragement.

After reading some of the last few days, I can DEFINATELY see that this thread does have a valid place here. <takes big bite of pie>

I agree that we all need something to keep us from going nuts, and if this serves that purpose for just one of us, then I will NOT complain. <another bite of pie>

I'm not sure yet if I am ready for IDIOTVILLE, but you never know. I can tell you this, as I finish off crumbs from pie, if & when I am ready, I know I will feel right at home, cause even though I just LB'd this thread, nobody here LB'd me back, and that is worth it's weight in gold right now.

THANKS
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hey Y'all!

Hope everybody's having a good, trigger free day! Haven't had time to do much catching up, but will try to read more than the last 2 pages!

Edited to add:
I was on the phone and hadn't hit add reply, so I missed Hosea's last post at 1:18...however, the following is still my opinion, and hope it welcomes you (Hosea) to continue to post here, as that is my intent! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hosea - I appreciate your concern that this thread might be nothing more than a chat-type-room, and would not have a place here on MB. I also understand that at this time, that is your opinion and you are most definitely entitled to that opinion. I was not familiar with your name and situation, so I looked you up, and found that you were formerly "Chuck" - just wanted to tell you that I've read your posts, and the posts of the persons you have responding to you...in my opinion, you are getting help from some of the best, and I honestly have not been around as long as them and don't feel I can/could/would add anything to the advice they've given! Orchid has been a member since Jan2001, and with over 10K posts, I'd say she's probably got more experience here with the MB principles than just about anybody...and she is awesome with the "reverse babble" stuff that you need to keep you going through all this stuff we're all facing. And, Ark has been here since Sep2001 - you won't find much more straight-forward, in-your-face advice than what you'll get from Ark...and I say that with utmost respect for both of them. You've also gotten some good advice from Believer, who is a regular to this site, and she's been through quite a bit herself.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I hope you are basing your opinion of this thread, and the people - yes real lives going through this same A-stuff as you - by what you've read IN this thread, and not by what some of the others are saying ABOUT this thread.

No, the laughter approach is not for everyone, but the Bible says in Psalms 5:11 "But let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee. " For me personally, I love the Lord, and am so glad that I am a Christian going through this - I know that if no one else is there to be my strength and my peace, Christ is... through this whole mess having joy has not been easy, and there are days when I feel defeated, but I thank God everyday for this site (MB) and even more for this thread...yah, it's silly at times, but sometimes we all need a break.

Again, and in closing, I thank you for being honest with your feelings and for letting us know publicly how you feel. And, more so, I would encourage you to come back to this thread, to vent here, and yes, to laugh here...there are some great people here, who have been hurt by other posters on other threads, and save for this one, they would not be at MB anylonger...though their advice is not as seasoned as some, it's still good advice. I also think that in time (you are very new to MB) you too will not be feeling that hurt that goes along with the brand new wound your spouse has just inflicted on you, and maybe then you will me more in need of a laugh every now and again.

Peace and Prayers for your situation...God Bless,
~YL

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He who laughs, lasts.
~Wilferd A. Peterson

<small>[ January 07, 2005, 12:25 PM: Message edited by: YL ]</small>

Hosea,

I understand what you meant....and you know what? I'm gonna try to be more responsive to others on the forum. I have seen some posts sit and sit, like you said. I read them, but lots of times I just really feel unqualified to help.
Anyway, there is a reason this is called "Idiotville" ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> And why we all belong! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

It's just really nice to know there's a place you can go where you are accepted, mistakes, warts and all!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Now

(((((((HOSEA)))))) (that's an Idiotville hug!)

Hosea,
Glad you responded back and it wasn't a "post-n-run."
I really do respect you for two things: Being on MB to begin with and 2) publicly voicing your concerns here. Many posters dislike our thread (and to a certain extent, I do understand why.) They email/hit the alert moderator button (or whatever it is) and never voice why But you, my/our new friend, have done this in the open forum--takes guts to do that, to express what you feel when you are in a minority--which is really what Idiotville is about.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">When I said "discouraging" I didn't mean this thread, or the messages in here, I meant when I see this post constantly at the top, and I see other posts sit for hours sometimes with 1 or 2 ore fewer replies, my first impression is discouragement.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Personally, for me, this bothers me too. Without getting into the nuts and bolts of it, I was one (along with believer) who used to be the welcoming committee to MB. However, I myself went into a relapse of sorts and rekindled contact. I had no place in encouraging people and offering my opinions when I, myself, was being a hypocite.

I have come so far in 6 months and 2 months of "real" recovery, that when I do see a thread just sitting there with a big "0" next to replies, I feel comfortable enoough where I am--WHO I am--that I can again venture out of Idiotville again and welcome these MB'ers who need someone to listen to them, whatever side of the fence. I'm at that stage where I feel comfortable enough where I can give an opinion and not be a hypocrite. But it took time--time to recover, and the non-judgemental support of my fellow idiots. (This is NOT to say other MB'ers were not supportive; however, in my situation, I broke alot of trust here too--on top of what I've done to my W and family.)

But, my Idiot friends helped me gain my confidences back. Let me vent. Let me say what was on my mind. Gave me shoulders to lean on. Gave me direction (yeah, believe it or not!) I say all of these (and then some) in the past tense, but it is in the present as well.

You--or ANYBODY--else is certainly welcome in I-ville. Yes we are eggshell-not white. (Except for Robby--he loves mauve!)

Again, just speaking for me now, I'm glad you voiced your concerns. We have some moaning in the background and have allowed us to "defend" ourselves, our thread, our Idiotville.

And our doors are certainly open!

Psst...hey Robby...

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Dr. said Type A flu--didn't know there were different types. Apprently, type A has fewer sysmptoms, but still the flu. UGH! Thanks de for the suggestion, but he put me on biaxim (sp). And I got my lexapro instead of that trazodone.

Gotta go in work for an hour or two though. *HAVE* to get a few things done. But I'll ride home with brown.

Oh, and one more thing:

You Idiots are absolutely great! (My turn to get all mushy.)

I really don't have to say anything to substantiate that--just read your replies to Hosea. You guys and gals are really great--thank you!!!!!!!

OK, that's all the mush I can muster up for now!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I'm not sure yet if I am ready for IDIOTVILLE, but you never know. I can tell you this, as I finish off crumbs from pie, if & when I am ready, I know I will feel right at home, cause even though I just LB'd this thread, nobody here LB'd me back, and that is worth it's weight in gold right now </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hosea--you are welcome here anytime. I do try to reply to threads that I see are not getting much activity. In fact that is the main thing I look for before reading a thread. If someone is getting a lot of replies, I assume that someone more brillian than I (is that possible <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> )j/k has already responded. As you have admitted, we do apply MB prinicpals here and most of us do help out other threads and posters. It is simply a safe place to be ourselves without getting attacked. I do so appreciate that you would express your feelings outloud. I wish you the best and hope you will make Idiotville your second home in the future.

God bless you.

Oh, if you do stay Hosea (or just passing through)...

DON'T EAT THE CHESSECAKE! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Hosea_2004:
<strong>I'm not sure yet if I am ready for IDIOTVILLE</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ok, you're qualified!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Welcome to Idiotville!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I am the Mayor!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Come on in, the water's fine!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

LINY,

Really glad to hear you have an answer for that "mystery" illness! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

And that you're getting something to help you get better! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

RH called in "sick" today....Dr. says he has "wabbit flu". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Haven't seen him since 10:00! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

OK, so I have been too busy at work to catch up, but have read the rest of this page and wanted to say:

Liny's feelin better! Liny's feelin better!!
Glad to hear it, and glad you FINALLY went to the Dr.!!! Maybe now, Brown can get some peace and quiet! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> j/k of course...

Hosea - thanks again for your honesty, and as the others have said, you are welcome here anytime...

{{{I'ville}}} have a great day Y'all! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

LINY! Tapping my foot. THere WAS nothing wrong with the cheesecakes. (I even wiped the baby spit off just for RH) AND, I shared. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

DIdn't you get any?

Once I heard babyspit and cheesecake in the same sentence.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Gotta go for now...have a great day/weekend everyone! Gotta dstop in at work, pcik up RX's, and have a lovely weekend with my girls! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

and one more thing:

J-E-T-S-JETS-JETS-JETS!!!!!!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Once I heard babyspit and cheesecake in the same sentence.... [Razz] </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">LINY,

I think that was your fever talking.
Here, have some cheesecake! Come on, just a little! It's PPPPPPPPPPPPPretty good! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> J-E-T-S-JETS-JETS-JETS!!!!!!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Who? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Liny, it sounded like the flu and I'm pleased you've got something for it and hope you feel better real soon.


And that's all the mush you're going to get from me today. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hosea, I can see you becoming a stalwart of Idiotville. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I do sometimes post outside and have done a great deal in the past. I have to be quite careful who I post to as I'm the FWW and not everyone wants to hear from me, especially as there are a lot of new people on here who don't know me. People (outside and inside Idiotville) who have been around a while have been wonderful and supportive and continue to be wonderful and supportive to me.

I also became the best thread killer on MB and it put me off a bit. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Jen

<small>[ January 07, 2005, 01:42 PM: Message edited by: KiwiJ. ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> <slices off some humble pie>
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Did somebody say PIE???? YUMMY <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I feel like a proud mama/Queen, I love the responses, I love the reply from quite possibly our new "town baker" you guys move me!!!!!!!!


RH, hope you feel better soon, Liny, glad you are feeling better.

Time to check the other threads, because I ventured out today myself, I wonder if I killed them, because I have a thing for that too Kiwi, actually, not so much killing them as everybody seems to completely IGNORE my posts. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Maybe I won't check the threads. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Afternoon/Evening Kiwi. HOw are things down your way? OT (is there such a thing?) NZ is on my places to visit before I croak. (and OZ)Long before LOR became a hit. But, when I saw LOR, it was like being home (here) the scenery is breath taking. So, you never know, if the big D happens with me, I might just take a sabbatical with DD and visit your country.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> J-E-T-S-JETS-JETS-JETS!!!!!!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sounds like Liny sneezing into a tissue I think..... yep pretty sure......lol <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Young Jen WHAT ARE YOU DO UP SO LATE???? or is it early??? lets see ..... oh about 8.55am not 3.55am like here hehehhehe dumb blond giggles
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Anyway hi to everyone else!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />