My W contacted me today asking did I have plans for thanksgiving. I responded that if she would like my son to spend it with her to let me know, but I will be cooking regardless. I hope she didnt mean can we get together for thanksgiving??? I'm not playing around anymore with this whole how she feels about OM is more important than her H and family business. I don't know what's going through my W's head, but I am tired of this back and forth nonsense, Ive decided to move forward with MY life, if she is interested in being a wife she's going to have to do alot more than make a lame attempt to spend thanksgiving with me? Soneone else probably put her up to sending that email anyway, like I told my STBXW a week ago, "She knows what she needs to do to reclaim her family, she's a grown woman making decisions everyday, depression is not an excuse for lying, manipulating and fleeing your family....

I will not buy into the victim role she's playing. If you want to see a victim just look at my S and D....

Thanks for listening.

I am actually starting to feel better lately, like I can exhale. I have been trying for a very long time to save my family. It's now time to save my children and myself. No more Mr. Nice Guy or Mr. Used Guy or Mr. Make Excuses for My W's Inexcusable Behavior Guy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Well you sound a lot better than you have in a while on here.

Making that decision to move on, with or without her is the toughest part, I think. Once you can make that decision and have peace with it, everything else kind of falls into place.

I am in the process of trying to come to a decision about my relationship to. Sleepless nights waffling back and forth in my mind. It's horrible.

I am still praying that your little daughter comes home soon. Maybe Thanksgiving will be enough of a trigger to get her to.

God bless you FM.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by weaver:
<strong> Well you sound a lot better than you have in a while on here.

Making that decision to move on, with or without her is the toughest part, I think. Once you can make that decision and have peace with it, everything else kind of falls into place.

I am in the process of trying to come to a decision about my relationship to. Sleepless nights waffling back and forth in my mind. It's horrible.

I am still praying that your little daughter comes home soon. Maybe Thanksgiving will be enough of a trigger to get her to.

God bless you FM. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thanks Weaver!
I feel better than I have in a long while, and you're right I'm hoping the holiday season brings my D back home where she belongs.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> She knows her dad loves her. I hope she wil at least contact grandma so she can get the news that WW has left, for some reason my D left when W came back before. I guess that means nothing.

How ya doin' FM?

for some reason my D left when W came back before. I guess that means nothing.

I would probably guess that this means a great deal, especially in the mind of a 14 year old girl. Strange things go on between mother and daughter when the relationship they have together has run amuk.

Still keeping her in my thoughts and hoping each day brings a post from you that she has called.

I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through, but please know that so many of us here care about you and are keeping both you, WW, son and daughter in our prayers.

Hoping and praying everything is OK with you, FM.

I haven't posted to you before I don't think, and for that I am sorry.

I do want to say that I think you have done everything that you could.

One piece of advice, about the email she sent recently about leaving and wanting a divorce, but yet is not seeing the OM. If this does go to divorce court, it would be a good thing for you to keep that email and with your attorney, have proof that the A is still ongoing. I would ask your attorney if that would help your side of things in court.