</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Having said all THAT, I'll tell you something if you promise not to slap me with that 2x4 :
I just called my W (she's still out of town at her mother's). Called her to say hi and that I was thinking about her yesterday (ie. Thanksgiving without her), and chatted a little bit, and told her I hoped she had a fun rest-of-the-day planned. The call was short and sweet.
Her voice seemed to perk up when she heard it was me calling. (How pathetic that I put weight on something so small and probably meaningless...) So what did the phone call do for me? Made me miss her even more And I know she's probably talked to OM about 12 times in the last two days....... I'm 45 years old, and sometimes I feel like a 17-year old. Have to remind myself that in this situation, maybe that's semi-normal.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hit you with a 2x4?? NOT!! I think you did very good. You showed her you were thinking about her without being too pushy. I don't think its pathetic to hear a lift in her voice. Its important to recognize these cues, the only time it is a problem is when you read too much into it. I don't see you doing that.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My only reservation about doing that is that I wouldn't know where to start to explain things.
I will definitely think it over, though. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He will tell you where to start, so don't worry about that part. He will set the stage, you just show up for dress rehersal.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What would happen if you asked her out for dinner?
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I'm not sure! I think she said she's coming back tomorrow (Saturday) instead of Sunday, because she has to get work done before Monday.
I have to assume that they (OM) are planning to see each other tomorrow night, and "get work done" has little/nothing to do with it.
I could call her again either today/this evening or tomorrow morning and ask her out for dinner tomorrow night... which might (if she let it) throw a wrench in the spokes w/ OM's "plans." I'm afraid to pursue too much... But, I'm afraid to NOT pursue, too.
Life used to be easier than this
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ok, lets think about this. If you think she is coming back early to see the OM, she will likely say NO if you ask her out for tomorrow night. She has to get her fix and that can't be interrupted. What if you wait until she is back and has time to get sick of the OM a little bit? Maybe by next weekend? Or maybe you could just have a nice chat with her every day and play it by ear. Just chat about mundane things and do a little flirting. No relationship talk or anything unpleasant. You are calling just because you so enjoy her sparkling, sexy personality. Then around next Thursday or Friday, tell her you would sure love to have her out for dinner.
