Michael,

You still have the OM's name and address at the bottome of the letter, and the boss's name and address at the top.

I agree with Orchid. First you cannot accuse someone of using company equipment to contact your wife with no proof. Second, unless your wife works at the same company, what would the company care really if he was seeing a married woman. Normally companies care when both are employees.

The letter to the town just makes you look nuts. Expose only to the people you must expose to, ie. family members and very close friends.

If I were your wife and you posted a letter about me being an adultress to the entire town I would never forgive you. Not a good move.

Listen to Orchid, she knows of what she speaks.

And bless you, I am very sorry for your situation.


Edited to add: see you removed some more, now I would remove the boss's name also.

<small>[ November 25, 2004, 07:22 PM: Message edited by: weaver ]</small>

Lemonman –
I just want to make you aware that the name and address of Mschluter’s boss and his W’s OM are still on the post (reply with a quote) you send to Mschluter on the 1st page of this thread. Please edit it out.

Mschluter –
I agree with Orchid, weaver and the posters on your other thread who advised you against sending any of those letters now… Please listen to them.

As Starfish* has said on the quote I’ve send you earlier, exposure is so traumatic and can cause so many withdrawals…only do the exposure that is necessary. Exposure must be done in circles: First the WS, then the other BS (if there is one). If contact continues, the next circle to expose to is close family (parents, siblings on both sides) plus a trusted pastor or priest. If contact ends, it goes no further. If contact resumes, only close friends/neighbors who are also friends of the marriage would be informed. If contact still continues, the last circle are work and church (not the whole community and neighbourhood!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ).

Mschluter...we understand you are very angry & frustrated right now, but because of your overwhelming emotions you are NOT thinking straight, clear & rational right now… Please wait and calm down before you do anything drastic. We don't want you to do anything that will hamper the recovery of you, your W and your M. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Blessings,
Suzet

<small>[ November 26, 2004, 01:21 AM: Message edited by: Suzet* ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Suzet*:
<strong> Lemonman –
I just want to make you aware that the name and address of Mschluter’s boss and his W’s OM are still on the post (reply with a quote) you send to Mschluter on the 1st page of this thread. Please edit it out.

Blessings,
Suzet </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I just saw this as I haven't been on the board much lately. I went back and edited his qoute in my reply.
It should not have any other actual people's names.

LM

I exposed the MM to his wife...he had her believing that he only had a one night stand, not a two year affair...

He lied to her,more than he did me, and I felt she should know...and she did want to know...

I say exposure helps all parties heal

As always your all correct in that I let my emotions get the best of me and for no other reason other then I was getting tired of the Om blasting me about howee he had my wife and there is nothing I can do. Unfortunatly, I did send the letter to his boss who I was surprised was very upset with this type of behavior from one of his employee's. He also informed me that if the Om continues this attack on my family he will personaly fire him. They have a strict family value and when a person does something like this it does effect the nature of there business.. The om of course was not happy but legally there was nothing he could do. As for his neighborhood, I will not send those as I know it is going over board.

I know it was not wise but the Om's boss was very intrested in all of this because he does hold his employee's to a certain ethic because of his strong commitment to our community. I hope because of my mistake I have not lost the support I did have here..

Hello. Hope you don't mind me moving in...

My H has moved out of the house since June, he continues to see the OW (married, 3 kids). I belive he is in deep midlife crisis. He says he'll end up being alone because nothing can happen going forward b/t OW and him.

This past week he said things like, "I though if I left it [my love for you] would return." "Let me read the Relationship Rescue book." "If anyone is going to file [for divorce] it will be me."

It is in violation for me to contact OW b/c she works at my company. Her H knows...I don't know if her parents know.

What else can I do? My sitch is captured below. Ideas are welcome.

Susan

Everyone here was against me talking to om's boss because it might cause more intense issues. Om did not have a Wife or GF and all he had was his dad who was living with him and since my ww spouse had been there on two occasions i'm sure the father new of the A...

I went ahead and sent my letter to the boss of the om and got a great response not saying it goes like this for everyone but it was something I felt the need to do.

The Om has been the one lately trying to reach out and talk to my ww and he does not seem to listen to me when I asked him to back off.