Gut Feel = Intuition.

Intuition = Lost pieces of knowledge floating around inside your brain that you have not yet connected together.

Bottom Line = Trust your GUT.

KMEJ, shortly after d-day our MC said something to my H that I have posted here before. However, it makes me think of your situation.

Last Fall, when my H was having his A and I didn't know it, I demanded MC because of his emotional distance. We went for around 5 weeks and he then dropped out. I and our MC at the time had asked him if he was having an A, and of course he lied.

So back to MC after d-day. Our C said to him, "The cruelest thing you did to CV was allowing her to think she was crazy for thinking you were having an A." It just angers me to see your H actually saying you dreamed his cell phone ringing.

Whether he is having an A or not, which unfortunately he acts like a man who is, he continues to not treat you well. IMHO when a FWS truly want to recover and heal their M they do everything they can to achieve that goal. I don't see your H doing that.

I think I've written this to you before KMEJ. Maybe you need to get to the point that you know what you want, and more than that, you believe that you deserve to have a good M.

I'm sorry for the loss of your grandfather. For now, go to his funeral and try to be in that moment. You can deal with the M issues afterwards. HUGS! CV

Thank you all for your feedback. I am sorry I have been off of here for a few days due to Thanksgiving, my Grandfathers funeral and work. I have just not had any Katie time.

Today however H is at the Vikings game with a friend (I will be watching it from home with my three little men- football freaks <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> especially the almost 2 year old- runs around the house yelling touchdown!). I wanted to come on here and see all that I had missed- and that was a lot.

Here is a little update.

Talked to H about his coming home late and that I did not believe him that he was working, talked with his friends as well to see if he was with them. H has agreed to bring home his time sheet everynight that states what time he left, and show it to me. He went back in the computer and printed one for the night he was home late- thing is the man is a genius when it comes to computers and I would not put it past him to change the time before he printed it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> .

H came with me to my grandfathers funeral, was very pleasent to all (H avoids family functions at all costs- unless it is his family). He helped with the kids- and was rather supportive. At my Grandfathers burial the following day he was more of the same. I was talking to his mother about how wonderful he was, her comment... "He needs to be like that all of the time, I raised him better then he is behaving". I was shocked by that because she was supportive of his A <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> because she said all she wanted was for her son to be happy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> and her grandbabies safe... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Still have that gut feeling however, H said he will show me it is just in my gut and not real. Only time will tell. As long as he continues to bring home a sheet saying what time he gets off, (I am going to keep them, add them up and then check out his paycheck <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ) and as long as his plans check out, I guess I will chaulk it up to being paranoid. THe only friend he really hangs out with has never lied to me, swore that he never will, that he will not help H to cheat (thought H was an idiot to do so in the first place). SO as long as things continue to check out, I will sit on my gut, with a watchful eye.

Does the trust ever really come back?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by KMEJ:
<strong> Today however H is at the Vikings game with a friend </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm not a football fan, but I am a Minnesotan. Are you from around here too?

Yeah- I live in Ramsey- you?

I am however a HUGE football fan- have the game on right now! Moss is BACK!! Yeah!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by KMEJ:
<strong> Yeah- I live in Ramsey- you?
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The other end of town now, but I am moving to Roseville next month.