</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Definitely looking out for myself, and improving myself, as hard as it is. It's enough to endure this, much harder to reflect on it as it's happening to try to learn from it.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You took the words right out of my mouth! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Stay strong, stay committed to your plan, and most importantly, keep looking out after yourself. Unfortunately, she is going to have to fall......and she is going to have to do that herself. When she does, you may be around, you may not. That's a gamble she is taking. But I do think that if she actually looked at her actions, she would see that she is in her own state of denial.....course, the fog is so thick that she probably can't see the nose on her face! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Hope today is a better day for you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

Well, I don't know if today is a better day or not.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
I hurt like hell from laying a flagstone walkway all day, and there's still more of it waiting for tommorow. Ugh.

TTSI...sounds very similar. I just posted a similar thread as I received this e-mail from WH yesterday:

K,

Haven't heard from you in awhile, so I just wanted to drop you a quick note to say hello. My mom said Sue has been in town, I hope you guys had a good time. I'm trying to get myself back into my workout routine after being sick and the holidays (lots of eating).

Anyway, just wanted to say hello and I hope you are doing well.

Take care,
-WH

I have been encouraged to let the e-mail go. It is nice to know he is thinking of me but until our spouses talk reality about the situation at hand, the marriage, we need to work on ourselves and try to move on.

-K

Me: 28 yo FW
Him: 31 yo WH
Married: 3.5 years, together 5
His Affair: Started fall 03 and continues
D-Day: May 22, 2004; he immediately left
Plan A thru Oct, Plan B thru Nov, WH met with mediator in Nov to start the divorce proceedings.

Hey TTSi. OOOOOO, I feel for you. Flagstone? THink of it as getting a MAJOR workout. Want to come to my house? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I have a to-do list that I have killed a forest to write up. I accept volunteers. I make killer Margaritas. And for some reason, my friends have other things to do rather than help me each and every day! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

How are you doing otherwise? Any more odd emails?