</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Dealan-de:
<strong> Better yet, go up to her with your dh, thank her for the pillow and tell her your puppy commandered it as soon as it entered the house.

(where's that smiley with the horns and pitchfork?) </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Better yet.....donate it to the local humane society and let them know to send her the thank-you note or you could put a note in their and have them sign and mail it. LOL!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

L.

Would it be out of line for me to return the note from the present along with this letter?

Dear Co-workeR

It bothers me a lot for FWH to exchange gifts with another woman, and have told FWH this. I feel strongly that there needs to be boundaries in all friendships with the members of opposite sex. and that sometimes, exchanging presenst with members of the opposite sex is crossing that boundary.

It hurt me quite a bit me that you did not respect my feelings on this matter when you gave FWH a birthday present. It hurts even more that you feel that it is ok for you to give my husband something as intimate as a pillow like one from a hotel room in another city. This is crossing that boundary for me.

I am asking you to please respect and consider my feelings as FWS’s wife in your dealings with my husband.

<small>[ December 01, 2004, 08:19 AM: Message edited by: shay919 ]</small>

Would it be out of line for me to return the note from the present along with this letter?
OUt of line? Probably not.
But it would be a waste of time and effort on your part.
If she was concerned with your feelings at all (and she clearly was not based on your note below), she wouldn't have given it to him in the first place.

I agree. I think she would just get that note and think "AHA...I am getting to her!" I prefer the poised, syrupy, "Thank you so much for the gift. My dogs LOVE it!!!" Punctuated by you with that woman to woman stare that says "DON'T F#$@ WITH ME B*%$&!"

hmmm...you two do have a good point, so I won't be sending the letter right now.

The dogs just loved it and "that" look sound good, but she's has gotten that look in the past and it hasn't worked.