Hiya Binder,
I am sorry that the threat to your children is fast approaching.I think that is the worst part for me,when I hear of WS's dragging their children along their selfish crazy rides without much thought as to the damage they are inflicting upon them.I am a firm believer in the idea that an OP has NO business,EVER,around the BS's children.It's one thing if you D where there is no infidelity,you both try to work out the problems in the marriage,it doesn't pan out and the marriage has to end and THEN meet other people.
BUT,an OP is a whole different ball of whacks.To suggest that my children should ever be in contact with an OP,that is actively involved in the destruction of a marriage and family(their parents) to me is infuriating.It's amazing how far I think I have come with my anger and then a post that relates to this subject matter brings it all boiling to the surface again.They are so innocent and have no idea what is going on when they are young.It's scary.
Just the other night my younger DD was crying and wanted me to hold her.We talked and it turns out she was very upset about the time my WH was yahooing The Happy Homewrecker and she saw it.My WH basically blew it off like it was no big deal and didn't really even talk to her about it or tell her it wouldn't happen again if it made her upset.Nothing.It took all the strength I had not to slug him right then and there I was so mad at him.
I keep thinking there is nothing and no one in this world that is worth sacrificing my children's happiness for but yet,my WH obviously has no qualms about doing what he does best: lying,cheating,scheming and staying away.He spoke to my girls maybe....2 minutes total? last night to say good night. Off to some sleazy New Years' eve party no doubt with all his cronies in Toronto.
I can't remember,does your WW live far away Binder or is she close by? I was thinking that if your WW lives far away or is planning on living with or being around the OM then you might have a better chance at sole custody(physical) if your WW has demonstrated a willingness to "abandon" her kids,like leaving them with "friends" instead of a parent.That kind of questionable parenting.
My kids don't know it yet,but my WH is planning on having his EOW "parenting time" with my girls at a local motel. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I don't know if they will want to sleep over but my WH is already planning for it.However, I warned him and he agrees,if they don't feel comfortable sleeping at this motel then they are to be home instead.
You know,in time I am sure your WW's A will start to evaporate,just like most do.It's an exercise in futility really.At some point the sporadic mettings and logistics are going to wear them down and it's not going to be so exciting anymore.I may be wrong but I sense a small change in my WH's A too.Our caller ID showed that he was staying with some person I don't know last night when I thought he would have been at the happy homewreckers place or her crack pot parents but he wasn't which was strange.He also is booked up all the month of January with seeing the kids and also a meeting which means no time with the homewrecker? Curious.
Anyway,our last financial discussion basically shows my WH coming out with not one dollar left over to do anything with after both all our expenses are paid for.Too bad for the HW.She is going to have a very poor man,in more ways than one,as her responsibility now.Hang in there Binder.I am sure you will come out victorious over the sham of this A too.
Woops.This turned out to be a long post Sorry. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />
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