im sick and tired of dealing with crap, it seems like that is what my life revolves around.

as for my support group this is pretty much it.
all my family and most of my friends think im nuts. they are all like i wouldnt take that tramp back, yada yada yada. you know the spill.
they all have my best intrest at heart but still.
im willing to do whatever it takes to unpossess
my w. if that is possible.

i really think she believes the crap she is spewing. i mean during the a, that she still denies, we would get into a fight and i would say some pretty crappy things.

as for my security the d is filed and i can probably stall as much as possible.

Hello,

It is time for a wake-up call. You need to file now. You simply cannot trust your wife. She is a liar and a cheat and continues to lie to you. The fact that she is telling people you are a physical abuser says it all. If she files in another country you are dead. She is asking you all the time if you have filed because she is desperately trying to set you up by allowing her to file in another country where you will lose everything. You judge a person by their actions and their words and her actions speak volumes.

If you do not stand up for yourself and your children then who will? Stop allowing her to play you for the fool. Enough is enough. Open your eyes and listen to your attorney because he has your best interest at hand. Do you think your wife does? If you allow her to file in another country then you will only have yourself to blame.
How can you be so blind? I wish you luck.

it is filed in my county that was done this am
i was refering to stalling the it being final part. plus i think there is a 45 day reconcilation period.

dalson,

That is why it is critical you work on you. Realize you can't control the actions of a WS. You could have a good effect if it was your W you were dealing with but this other character is something else.

So for now, don't focus on her. Just watch her actions. Figure out if you are done with plan A and how to execute a solid plan B.

Identify your boundaries and implement them. That way no matter what crap comes your way, you already have your defenses in place.

take care,
L.

she is bringing the kids over tonight. she is also going to stay for dinner im cooking spaghetti. ill let yall know how it goes .
i have been keeping the lb's down to nothing.
it just doesnt seem to be getting me anywhere.
i think i get her thinking and her mom lbs me herself.

dinner went good no lbs. it was real nice to have the whole family together for a meal. she was pretty pleasant. no anger.