Dyin:

Given the "I LOVE YOU", hold off on asking him the NC question until Wednesday night. This gives you some more time to continue with YOUR PLAN.

Blow his mind in some way over the next 24 hours. Do something special that he has always liked in the past.

What can you think of?

<small>[ December 31, 2004, 04:20 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>

You're starting to get the hang of it.

He's not finished with her yet deep in his heart he knows that he belongs with you.

You've still got a fignt left. I know so well how hard it gets.

Hang in there.

FOCUS ON YOUR SELF, MAKING YOURSELF A LOVING OPTION TO HER. DON'T FOCUS ON HIM!!

<small>[ December 31, 2004, 04:20 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>

dying:

Your WH is almost a carbon copy of mine. It's almost unbelievable how scripted this all is. I well remember those days when he thought he was betraying the OW by being with me. It did matter to him that you initiated SF with him. I'm so sorry about how humiliated you must have felt by this. However, your response was normal and expected. It was not unreasonable for you to initiate SF with your WH. His response was wrong. Yours was not. Remember that you are the sane one here.

The problem was his initiation with contact with her. That gets him back into the addiction and craving.

IS THERE ANY LEGAL RECOURSE THAT YOU HAVE TO GET HER OUT OF THE OFFICE? CAN YOU SUE HER? WHY CAN'T YOU TELL HER PARENTS?

I do think that YOUR PLAN is working. You are his legitimacy; he remains family-oriented. Unfortunately, you may need to be thinking in terms of PLAN B. I don't think that time has come yet.

But first, IS THERE ANY WAY THAT YOU CAN RUN HER AWAY? She's wanting you to run away from the office. Stay in there for the fight. That office is yours.

<small>[ December 31, 2004, 04:21 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>

Don't believe your WH about the legal issues. I think that you should consult a lawyer ASAP about this.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> This i feel is due to the fact that he feels he just cant go and be with her as i am preventing him. Not physically but in his mind and therefor he may start to hate me.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The fact that he feels that he can't go to be with her is a good thing. He's trying to get you to buy his FOGGY LOGIC. The fact that he doesn't want to leave you means that deep down inside he still cares for you. He won't start to hate you and if he does start to hate you, you don't want him!! You don't want somebody that doesn't really want you. That's not the case here, though.

HE IS ADDICTED TO HER!! REMEMBER LIKE ALCOHOL!! HE'S GOT TO GET AWAY FROM HER!! '

Confronting her is not the answer. She will plead to his sympathy then. I think you can do this legally.

Your next step would be PLAN B. No you can't go on like this for two years.

DO NOT TELL HIM OR HER YOUR PLANS BUT THE FIRST THING THAT YOU NEED TO DO IS TO CHECK WITH A LAWYER THAT CAN BE TRUSTED!!!!!

<small>[ December 31, 2004, 04:22 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>

You skipped over the most important part of my post.

IT IS ESSENTIAL FOR YOU TO CONSULT WITH A LAWYER!!

Since you established the business together, where I live it would be half yours. You are legally entitled to that business, I would think, whether you are working there or not.

The OW is not legally entitled to anything. Here we have a suit called ALIENATION OF AFFECTIONS. You could sue the OW.

FIGHT FOR WHAT'S YOURS!!!

I'm not saying that it's time for PLAN B.

I think you need to investigate your legal options.

Also, what about exposure to his family and friends. Things really changed for my FWH when I told his best friends.

<small>[ December 30, 2004, 10:21 AM: Message edited by: mimi1254 ]</small>

<small>[ December 31, 2004, 04:23 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> but it is his name on the deeds at the moment and yes i should find out how that would be with a lawyer.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This should not matter particularly since he is having an A. SEE THE LAWYER! Why are you not making this a priority?

I wouldn't meet with the friend for a drink. Talking over the phone would be sufficient.

Have had to edit all posts computer will have open access to day and tomorrow by a specialist and i know all this will be revealed.

Will post again when i can.

Thanks for all the support