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I bought my wife a beautiful Gold/Silver matching necklace and bracelet for Christmas. Should I give her a Hallmark card or this note I typed up. I'm trying to force an opinion from her if she really wants to save this marriage or not.

Need opinions Please.


Merry Christmas Dxxxx

I would appreciate if you wore this jewelry to the party today. (family Christmas party)

This may be our last Christmas together as a couple and as a family.

I would like to remember you as I always knew you.

You were always radiant, joyful, and the life of the party.

I've always enjoyed showing you off.

If this is our last time together at a party, I would like to make it special.

This necklace will make you more beautiful than you already are.

Love always,

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I'm trying to force an opinion from her if she really wants to save this marriage or not.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I do not think that Christmas time is a good time to do that...but that's just me.

Nor, do I think you should ask her to wear it to the party...let her choose...a gift is given with no expectations nor requests...let it be hers. Otherwise it might be seen as some kind of manipulation.

How about...

Merry Christmas Dxxxx

You are as radiant as this necklace and it made me think of you when I saw it. Enjoy it.

[b]Love always,

TA [/b]

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I love Committed's reply, and I happen to agree very much with it.

Have a good time at the party TA, and let her be who she is as well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Now I'm really confused. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Two good answers, anyone else?

Thanks

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Another vote here for Committed's note.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by committedandlovingit:
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How about...

Merry Christmas Dxxxx

You are as radiant as this necklace and it made me think of you when I saw it. Enjoy it.

[b]Love always,

TA [/b] </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think I'm going to go with this one. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I'm trying to get away from my Control issues, so asking her to wear it would be a NO-NO. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

Anyone else?

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I agree with the others. Besides, if she wears it, it's a vote for you, isn't it? That will feel better than if she wears it at your request/insistence.
Have fun! I hope she wears it!
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stay tuned; I'm looking for a poem to go with the jewelry.
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TA-

I like the idea of a poem to go with the jewelry that papermom is looking for.

Just tell her how you really feel - how in love you are with her, but nix the "like showing you off" - I know you do, but that won't make HER feel good about your relationship. She wants passion back in the relationship, what makes HER feel passionate, cherished and honored? Make it about her, not you.

Have a Merry Christmas - and decide to make it a great one no matter what happens in the future. Just savor every moment.

D.

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Here's one written by Shakespeare. He was pretty good. :-)

If I should think of love
I'd think of you, your arms uplifted,
Tying your hair in plaits above,
The lyre shape of your arms and shoulders,
The soft curve of your winding head.
No melody is sweeter, nor could Orpheus
So have bewitched. I think of this,
And all my universe becomes perfection.
But were you in my arms, dear love,
The happiness would take my breath away,
No thought could match that ecstasy,
No song encompass it, no other worlds.
If I should think of love,
I'd think of you.

No? Try this link and pick one if you like any:

http://www.shakespeares-sonnets.com/Valen01.htm

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I don't do Poems, LOL. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

That may freak her out enough to leave me right away. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Does SHE like poems??

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by WillGetThruThis:
<strong> but nix the "like showing you off" - I know you do, but that won't make HER feel good about your relationship.
D. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">On D-Day she told me I quit showing her off. I told her I always show you off, I always try and get every guy at every party to stare at my wife. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

She said your words and actions don't show it.

3 weeks ago we went Xmas shopping and afterwards I took her out to Olive Garden for dinner. I had every guy in the restaurant drooling over her. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

I said "Every guy here is starring at you wishing you were with them." She said "what do you mean?"

I said "you told me on D-Day I never show you off anymore." She said "I never said that." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Must have been Fog talk. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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Please explain what you did to have every guy in the restaurant drooling over her?

Seriously, I'm curious.
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All the men that were in our vicinity.

First of all it's pretty easy to get men to stare at my wife.

First of all she is prettier than about 99% of all women, period.

She has a Smokin hot bod. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Beautiful hair, face, beautiful smile, and a sparkle in her eye.

I posted her pic here last week. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

She also spends a small fortune on clothes, shoes, and handbags.

So 80% of my work is already done.

I slowly removed her coat exposing her beautiful bod, then I helped her sit down, brushed her hair back and gave her a kiss on the lips. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

When I sat down I held her hands and told her how happy I was to be sitting in front of such a beautiful woman and then we both leaned across the table and kissed again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

This usually does it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

PS. I forgot to mention my Strut when I walked her to our table. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

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gotcha.

And that makes you feel good?
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^bump^

(Very curious about the answer to:
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I'm curious, too. Come on, TA, fess up... enquiring minds want to know!

Quite honestly, I would find it rather sad to think that people are so superficial that "showing off" and "being shown off" are what they need in order to be happy.

Kinda makes me think of the guy with the power boat wearing gold chains with the trophy wife gracing the bow of the boat. Sure they look happy, but are they really happy?

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Personally, I don't want my husband doing this. I am not a "trophy" thank you...I am not his to be showing off. If I want the attention I can get it myself. This is a control thing with you.
I wouldn't want a husband that feels the need to "strut" or take my coat of slowly as if unveiling the bod of all bods for other men to drool over. Give me a break!!
If my husband and I go out and I am looking good. I know it...I can see the other men looking at me. And my husband can see it as well. I don't need to bring it to his attention. IT makes him feel good , it makes me feel good. If he wants to put his arm around me, thats great, but certainly not as if to say "Hey everybody...look at me, me ,me and see what I've got that you don't" That is not about your wife at all...it is about you!!!

Do you love your wife or the power she gives you?

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I know what TA means... I am in his wife's position and I like to know that my fiancee is proud of me. If he stopped... I would be hurt...

I spend a good chunk of time and money looking good and it is important to BOTH of us that I do.

TA, I think it is nice that you think so much of her wife.

One other thing that is very important in our relationship is that we don't talk down about each other to anyone... not our parents, friends... no one. It is important to me that other ppl don't feel bad for his problems if we are having any. I like when he talks to me that he speaks in a very positive way... some men don't... and I end up pitying their wives. I don't want to be one of those wives... that's just a thought <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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