</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LINY:
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I know this is going to be a long journey and not something I can fix in a few weeks. It will most likely take 1-2 years before I can get her full support (if I can last that long). <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why do you make presumptions? And can *YOU* describe what you mean by "this?"
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Several weeks ago my wife said to me via cellphone "I'm so sorry for all the mean things I've said to you over the last 3 months, I don't know why I said them to you. How can you Trust me after what I've done to you?"</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">A few things, just my observations, my opinions:
1) You are in complete denial of what really took place;
2) Your wife lied to you in telling you that it was a crush. (Personally, I have *never* heard of such a thing, the way you describe it);
3) You are not telling your full sit;
4) *You* are a complete liar and need psychological help in wanting attention and have used this site as your medium;
5) A little of all of the above.
I really don't know. Not my place to know. It's your business.
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I'd like to know what she means by this "TRUST" issue, I thought the OM didn't know her true feelings? Why is she feeling so guilty and talking of Suicide if she wasn't involved in a true affair?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Good question. Only she can answer this for you, unless you have other facts.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She also said I could not go to her familys Christmas party last month, then last week she said I could go and I did.
She also said I could stay in our home for as long as I want and she will not file for Divorce.
Why would I want to stay in our home when she doesn't love me and we are not Intimate? What kind of life would that be for the both of us? I am not going to stay in a Loveless and Sexless marriage.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sorry, but these are all tell-tale signs that more than a "crush" ocurred. Waffling, indecison, no sex, no intimacy. But, this has been observed before.
I am done. Best wishes to you.
PS--NOTHING justifies an A--neither does suicide. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She has NOT fille out her ENQ. She has NOT told me her EN so I have to guess.
When I say "this" I am referring to rebuilding our marriage.
I make presumptions of 1-2 years because of what I have read here by a lot of members. Maybe I am making these assumptions based upon worst case scenario so I don't set myself up for a quick fix.
I am telling the truth, not lying, she told SH and our first MC the same story. This is why I got tested today for STD's. I'll have my results next week. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I think she is in an EA and possibly a PA and "SHE" is in Denial. I have already assumed worst case scenario.
