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Re: I hate my husband so so much???
#1251745 01/11/05 12:39 PM
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I'm trying to get you to simply answer some simple questions to help you out, not be sarcastic about it. I'm not trying to play games with you.

1 - What have YOU personally and alone (not as a couple since he is not too concerned about it) done (such as counseling) for your marriage?
Asking him to make soup is not going to rev up your marriage.

I asked him if he could sit with me and watch TV, he said No. I said Fine then get out of my room.
And you act surprised he left?
2 Why would you expect him to react in a good way to this?

What has HE done for counseling with his illness?
Make excuses and smoke pot everyday.
Why can't you simply answer the question?
Does this mean he has had no counseling?

There was a lady in my church on dialysis and she always was busy and she was twice his age
Some people can cope far better than others.
Some people need to get help with a situation and learn what they can do about it.
He obviously hasn't done anything to learn to deal with it.
Re: I hate my husband so so much???
#1251746 01/11/05 12:49 PM
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Chris,

I guess I have done nothing but complain about the marriage and I guess that's why I haven't gotten any results. Thankyou for bringing this to my attention. My husband and I both need counseling. I'm sure it's need to be one on one though first. Do you know of any that are free? We don't have much money and he get's medicaid, I don't know if counselors except that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Re: I hate my husband so so much???
#1251747 01/12/05 01:12 AM
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This place is free! :)I hate to have people say, "I'm done" when they haven't really tried to do anything useful. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

A couple of good books to start & you should be able to find at the library.

"His Needs, Her Needs" by Dr Willard Harley
"We Can Work It Out: How to Solve Co...ve for Each Other - by Clifford Notarius
Re: I hate my husband so so much???
#1251748 01/12/05 01:35 AM
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la la land aka land of fruits ...
There are generally free or nearly free counseling available based on your income in most cities. Try the major universities too. I know I found several that charged as little as $5.00 per session through the county mental health department.
Re: I hate my husband so so much???
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Chris -CA123:
[QB] This place is free! :)I hate to have people say, "I'm done" when they haven't really tried to do anything useful. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Thankyou for your advice.
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I will try counseling because I know to keep living like this is bad for your health. I remember one time when my husband and I went for counseling, the counselor said due to listening to past problems before I met my husband I choose him because he made me feel safe. I often think about the times we hug and kiss each other it is so sad because it takes so much out of us to do it we can't handle it. I think sometimes when he wants to be away from me is because it's hard for him to be around me. Sometimes I can be unbearable to deal with. I'm admitted to that.
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