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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by TreeReich:
WH actually told me yesterday that the court can't make him pay back child support.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">reverse your response:

"I know, financial support for one's child is actually a pleasure not a duty!"

Pep

<small>[ January 08, 2005, 12:01 PM: Message edited by: TreeReich ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> You know very well that I am a very kind person in nature and always have been.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I would reply ONLY to this sentence.

USE IT to document his NOT paying child support!!!!

ANSWER:

~~~ quote his statement above~~~ then say:

"Thank you for your email. I know you will kindly pay back child support of (amount) today so that our child will not go without.

Thank you.

Tree"

SHORT.... write NOTHING that can be used against you. Only do the babble nonsense stuff in a non-recorded conversation.

Pep

Thanks Pep. I think you are right. It will blow his mind if I write that!!!!
Thanks...

See if you can coax him to admit in writing that he is in arrears in child support.

USE this to your advantage.

Pep

Good idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tree - Pep is right - send a short answer back about child support. You're not going to win in trying to convince him of anything. He is waaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy out there.

Do the broken record thing, it works. When he writes about Adam and Eve, or whatever, just send him the same child support response. You are wasting your time otherwise. Instead of trying to figure him out, go clean the toilets. It will enlighten you more than his babble.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by believer:
Instead of trying to figure him out, go clean the toilets. It will enlighten you more than his babble.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thanks everybody. I responded as Pep suggested. We'll see what happends.

I knew those posts were coming, I'm a legal retard so excuse me if I suggest things that would be bad for you in court...LMAO

The child support thing is a good idea.

-Caren

--Love Your Enemies, It Gets Them Really Confused.

--Divorce, Ahh Yes, From the Latin word meaning to rip out a mans genitals through his wallet.
--Robin Williams

--If going to church makes you christian, does going to the garage make you a car?

--No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

--Sometimes I think I understand everything, then I regain consciousness.

--We're all here, because we're not all there.

--Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in his shoes. That way if he gets angry, he'll be a mile away and barefoot.

Caren....
Those are great!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Tree, this new e-mail is a bit harder to mock out cause it's so darn confusing. The only thing that sticks out is him wanting you "To ponder that thought." I think hours could be spent pondering that e-mail? I do love the part about if the OW said hurtful things to you he would question her integrity. Excuse me, isn't having an A with a MM and breaking up their family a lack of integrity? Of course we wouldn't want to call it that. How about we'll use my H's FOW's words the last phone call they had with each other, when she wanted to resume contact. OW: "What's wrong with making yourself happy?" So breaking up a family isn't a lack of integrity, it's about being happy. OK, I just made myself want to puke! CV

CV...
I guess having an affair with a married man and breaking up a family is a respectufl, honerable thing huh? My WH is so far gone....he believes that this woman didn't say hurtful, mean things to me. He thinks I'm making it up!
I'm a litle confused because he was sitting right there in the room with her when she was saying all of this crap. He must have selective memory!!!!!!!!

TR,

If it is any comfort, the WS in my sitch babbled similar garbage..... I kept the stance that the OW was nuts, even named her PBR (psycho babble rabbit) and he knew it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

But it took him a while to see her as is. This was even after she made a list of demands for her to live with him which included not talking or seeing me for 1 year and dropping off our then 6 year old son in a nuetral place..... like an empty parking lot so the WS would not have to interact with myself or our relatives/friends. Imagine that?!?!? Anyway, it wasn't until at least 6 months later that he started to admit she was nuts but even then it took an additional 2 years for him to finally break it off completely. Then there's the RO incident. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

My point is that this is just part of his attempt to justify himself. IMHO, be a nice BS, nod and tell him he is right, then babble back to him that not only is the OW crazy but it seems t/b a communicable disease and he has it.... so you are going to keep your distance so you don't catch his cooties. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I told that one to my WS also. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

See not agruing but nodding while giving him his babble back (which means your words and actions will NOT match)..... will confuse him. You may find that he can't process the confusion. While he is in this dazed state..... leave before he comes to. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Then when he comes to and is anger because he figures he has been duped.... you w/b miles away. ok? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

Orchid...
I will try my best to do that! It's getting easier.
I call the OW "The Maggot." Her name is Magali. My WH knows I call her this also. I call her that anytime I refer to her.

I do feel that my WH will eventually come out of this craziness but It's still too late for me. It will be nice the day that he begs for my forgivness and I just want have the time or energy to deal with him. He says he still has love for me. Nice huh? He says it like I owe him something for still "having love for me." He can't even say I still love you. Unbelieveable!

I know in time I will be so much better off...heck...I already am!!!!

Is English his first language? TT

TT...
Yes, English is his first language. He speaks French and Spanish fluently.