I think you should just leave well enough alone. Your gut is probably right, but if you ask her you're just going to make her defensive, and that's not the goal. I have to think and re-think before I say anything to my WH, there are many things I could nail him with, but I just blow 'em off. On the upside, it does seem to be working, he's much more pleasant to deal with. When he gets snotty with me I no longer take the offensive, I just act like he's not being snotty and sympathize with whatever he's b*tching about...I do a lot of "you're right", "I know what you mean", "You've always been good at blah blah". He's actually pretty easy to snow.

I mean really, I was just in a hospital contemplating suicide a week ago and I believe he's already forgotten that and thinks I'm perfectly fine again. I've only been plan Aing for a week, I shudder to think of doing it for 6 months, but whatever it takes.....that's what I'll do.

-Caren