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Re: Victoria Secrets Catalog: A Trigger?
#1253545 01/10/05 05:26 PM
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I just keep thinking how Harley tells us it's how the OP makes the WS "feel about themselves" that is a fundamental driving force in this addiction.

Mimi, perhaps ask yourself the question "what does my husband want or need to feel about himself".

I know a good percentage of males top ENs are SF and admiration ... and personally I think those two closely tie together for some males.

I've kept up with your story Mimi from the beginning. I'm wondering if your recent fear-based feelings are instinctual and that you may need to re-access your former WH's ENs, and he yours?

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Re: Victoria Secrets Catalog: A Trigger?
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by mimi1254:
I've decided to use the PEPPERBAND approach of getting back on the horse.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">YeeeeeeeHAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWW

Ride 'em cowgirl!

In all honesty, I was triggered at one time by VS catalog because H bought OW something there ... but I took control over this trigger and now I doubt H remembers or cares very much about the past cuz I've been too attentive for him to have any time or desire to let his mind wander... ya know what I mean Mimi? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Re: Victoria Secrets Catalog: A Trigger?
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Pep .. you nut ball. LMAO

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