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Re: FOG VENT
#1254489 01/15/05 12:54 PM
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> A bit of a vent ...

My WW was to go out with the kids today, yet she cancelled, she has to work now.... right

My oldest aske if they could do something when she is done work, but guess what, she can't.

She has to help out her best friend with some stuff.

What the H*ll is some stuff She has no idea how much she is pushing everyone away from her right now.

She can only hurt the kids so much before they won't want anything to do with her, and that goes for me as well..

Some day she better understand, or she may have no one left for her... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by alank:
<strong> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> A bit of a vent ...

My WW was to go out with the kids today, yet she cancelled, she has to work now.... right

Some day she better understand, or she may have no one left for her... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sadly your WW does not belive this could ever happen. She probably thinks you will always be there for her.
Re: FOG VENT
#1254491 01/16/05 01:45 AM
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I know, she may never understand. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

It is a shame, she is missing the best part of our kids.

In my Plan A i have started to move my boundries a bit, this should help her understand we may not always be there for her. Sad to say, but it is true.
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sorry alan <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

try to have a good time with the kids anyway---and how the heck are you home on a saturday??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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#1254493 01/15/05 02:07 PM
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nikko,

I take every third saturday off.

I try to make sure everyone has two days off each week.

I only started this a year ago when I got my slap in the face from my WW.

It took awhile to realize, family first, work second. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I wish I had known this seven years ago. However better late than never right.
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#1254494 01/15/05 02:17 PM
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i swear if i ever suggested that to hubby he would turn the most amazing color of blue....lol!

they get two days off---sunday and he takes tues.

they cannot take saturdays or mondays <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

there is so much in this industry that can be changed.....its sad really. but good for you. i was gonna ask how you were doing the single dad and working all the hours...here hes gone from 8am till at least 1030pm. usually later....

anyway---enjoy your day and do something with the kids.....you'll feel better later for it.
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Alan

have to say I was very amused at your smart move at the start of this thread.
All the more impressed because you resisted the temp to take it further, revenge is a strong emotion too.

Hope it goes well for you and fog starts to lift. Of course you are likely to need convincing then that she should be let back into your lives........I'm guessing that was the point of the 6 months from now question.

Only thing I can warn you of is watch her actions not so much what she says. Her actions will show you more than all the words ever uttered by her.
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#1254496 01/15/05 06:06 PM
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aussie2,

at times I thought the has been lifting, then wham right back it comes.

Tonight she is skipping time with the kids to help her best friend Jen.

Problem with that for me is that has been her cover for going out with her OM.

I doubt she is going out with Jen, I just think it is low to ditch the kids for her OM. She lived with him for a week, now she is at another friends house.

Her world is out of control.
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