Yes Orchid is right Rescue.

We all know the horrible, unbelievable pain and anxiety.

But you have to know, the pain will not last forever. You are in the worst right now I think.

Hang in there and know that when the pain seems unbearable to you, you can come here and talk through it, and we will walk through it with you.

{{{{{Rescue Me}}}}}

Weaver,

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your response thanks. I know that everytime I get response I feel good about it. There is always someone who care out there, Because I feel hopeless and thinking no one care anymore and being part of Mbers I am going through this painful feeling. I hope someday WS will realize all this in the end.

Thank you so much for being there, thank you...

Rescue Me,

I've been where you are, I had moments I would miss my ex so much that my whole body ached. I would hear a song and I would miss him. You get the idea. Even 4 yrs after I would have moments where I would miss him. Now after 7.5 yrs I do think of him, it's hard not to I have 2 girls with him and plus I was friends with him before we started dating so when I tell stories to the girls many times he's in them.

I no longer miss him, I like the memories I have, they are very special. We both have gotten on with our lives. It gets easier as times goes on. I came "terms" awhile ago that I would always care about him and I do. My focus is more on my current marriage

Enchantedlady,

I do miss her so much, for some reason WS makes me feel like everything I do is wrong and its never get better. She is making it seem that I am the Bad guy and she is the one who is having an affair. I feel bad to myself that I keep trying to make things better but its not going no where. I guess this is really what she wants in her life, I am going to moved on to PLAN B, and I'm going to wait for the D'papers. I can't even think of trusting anyone again after this situation, I don't want to get married ever.

Moving on PLAN B...

I never talk to her anyway she rather talked to her friends and boy friend on the phone. For her I do not exist anymore, For her she killed me long time ago and she has new life now. I know GOD knows what is going on and I keep praying everyday, everynight, that someday I hope she will realize how painful she is putting me through this situation.

I shouldn't married her at all if I only knew that the person you trust, love most will HURT you....

1. I don't want to SEE anything...
2. I don't want to HEAR anything...
3. I don't want to SAY anything... to her at all.

She is out with the OM, my daughter lie for her, I hate it when 9yrs old girl lie for her.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I can't even think of trusting anyone again after this situation, I don't want to get married ever </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Of course you can't and don't even worry about that, you don't need anything else on your plate. Take it one step at a time as well as one day at a time.

Are you documenting when you know your DD is lying for your WW? That is horrible!!! (((Rescue me)))

<small>[ January 15, 2005, 08:33 AM: Message edited by: Enchantedlady ]</small>

Enchantedlady,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Are you documenting when you know your DD is lying for your WW? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes! the bad thing is WS told me that my DD thinks I am going to do something stupid, I told her that I just pray to GOD and no matter what happened I will not going to try to do anything stupid. Because I know if I start doing something stupid I will end up in jail. I swear!
She is making it seem that I am the bad guy and she is the one who had an affair.

RescueMe-
I haven't been in on this post but something about this post has really hit home. I have been in Plan B for a little under two weeks. My WH is so deep in his fog. He confuses himself with rationalization and then self abuse. I get confused just being in the same room. Plan B is working well, though it is difficult. I feel like my DD is caught in the middle. She came home last night from her first night at "daddy's" very confused and tearful. It makes my heart just break for her. In some ways Plan B has been good for her, no "daddy" bouncing in and out when he chooses.

The children are truly the little victims.

My heart goes out for you and your DD! You are right to avoid "doing something stupid." Then your DD will have lost both her parents.

Good luck to you!
Tina

docthorpe,

First of all welcome to MB and thank you for your posting, Its helps me go through this when you know that there is always someone that going through the same process and they got through it. I thought there is no more hope, I thought I was alone until I found this website recommended by REDHAT. It seems to be working well and I know I am going to get through this but right now I am in the rough road. Thank you again and God Bless