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Why do you still love this woman? Or are you still in love with a memory? The woman you married does not exist any more. She isn't worthy of your love, only your cold indifference.
Sure, she's the mother of your children. Respect her for that but no more.
Be done. Move on.
As long as you continue to hold a candle for this person, she will continue to run your life. Is that what you want? Is losing yourself and your job worth someone who treats you the way she treats you?
Go ahead and date. Why not? Just be honest, that's all. You know, there are a lot of women out there who just want friendship, and they will be appreciative of a man who is honest and in touch with his feelings.
And you never know, you might meet someone whom you really connect with. It happened to me and it can happen to you.
You have a right to live. Now start doing it.
Take care,
ITB
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Why do I love my WxW? The same reason 40,000 people have registered to MB to date. I choose to. Each day I must decide what choices and commitments I'll make. The real truth is, I run my life. We all run our lives. Let's support each other in making those choices that are right for each of us. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
<small>[ January 19, 2005, 08:12 AM: Message edited by: dleightonc ]</small>
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There seems to be two schools of thought about these things. 1)"Stand as Long as You Can" and "Get Over It. Both have their pros and cons but neither is based on principle. They are based on feelings. "I'm 'losing', so I'll fight harder." "I'm hurt/angry, so I'll 'get over it'. Neither speak to the truth: feelings are impermanent.
Any plan I make must be based not on my personal feelings or values (that's what WS's do) but on the immutable principles upon which this place is governed.
Cliche's like "what goes around comes around" or "You become what you think about". are real truths we tend to conveniently ignore.
<small>[ January 19, 2005, 01:43 PM: Message edited by: dleightonc ]</small>
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My problem now is that I know what's right for me (patience for things to find their right level). I know that I can have what I want in this life with unhealthy, proxies to satisfy my 'now voice'. My emotions, though, like so many others here, will have nothing of it. The pain, lonliness, anger, and helplessness I FEEL make it hard to stay the course.
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