nikko, I don't have a set plan yet. All I know is I need to change things that I do, and if I am aware of them I should be able to do that.

I have no idea how to plan the changes, I have been working on them, I think I am better at some things, yet I need to do more.

I am sure I can find a plan somewhere, I just have to look.

Well maybe plan B is working, no phone calls today <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Maybe she understands I am serious about this.

I sure do hope so.

I hope it is too. How are you doing?

Alan, she's probably spying on you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Sometimes that happends. The WS who finds herself on the black end of Plan B will try to spy to see what the BS is doing....

Just act natural. Smile a lot. You're on candid camera! (j/k)

Pep

I am doing ok, although the thought of her spying on me is a little strange <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I just hope everything will become a little more normal right now..

Alan,

How's it going? You can email me if you don't want to post.

Been wondering what is up myself.

In His arms.

bump ^

Just lost my job last wednesday <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Plan B going ok, I think..she still calls, she hates a lot of things about her OM. Treats her poor, very poor.

I have not posted as I have had a real rough few days with the job and the WW. I have not spoken to her, I do listen to her VM;s as I want to know what is up with her. To her I am black.

Started new job today <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Anyone want a Honda?

Sorry about the job but sounds like you landed on your feet. Can you make me a good deal? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Complaining about OM, eh? That's good but not really surprising. Hopefully she'll get fed up soon.

Thanks for posting. We're all concerned for you. Email me if you want at ken.dye@honeywell.com.

Pray. It works miracles!

Hey Al, sorry about the job. Hope the new one is even better for you. I am proud of you handling plan B the way you are. You da man! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Hey, my DS21 just bought a 2004 Monte Carlo. Know anything about these cars?

check in with us in iville when you can. We miss you.

Thanks everyone, this has been the hardest 6 days I have had so far...

Thanks for the support. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Alank,

It's good you got the new job so quickly. It is also good you are remainging dark.

If you want to, post here what your wife is saying. It might help work it out of your head, as well as help decifer the babble.

In any case, keep up the good work.

In His arms.

You know right now I feel very lost, new job so many changes.

The last thing I heard from my WW was how her OM does not realy care about her in the way she wants.

He has told her all along he needs to get rid of his other women and then he would be good to go with her. Well now he is saying to her well see how it goes.

It is not a loving relationship, her went dark on her for almost 36 hours.

I belive this is a good thing, she may realize he does not have her interests at heart at all.

Her messages are long, but I do like to hear them.

Al, I am really proud of you. You are doing great. How's the hamster? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

The hamster is good, so are my girls <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Just want to get to the end of this at some point.

I think my WW is hurt by her OM, she told him at forst she was looking for a casual thing, now she wants the real thing, I think she is seeing the cracks in him..

I hope at least.

It sounds like it is winding down. Now it's just a matter of how much of this she is willing to put up with.

Hang in there. You're doing good.

I am starting to wonder how much I can put up with!

It seems at times that no matter what he does, he walks on water. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

She puts up with so much from him. I just want to be there for her and love her, the way she deserves.

I understand this is part of the whole deal and she needs to learn on her own time that he is a jerk, and I think she is, I am just impatiant at times. I want her home today!!!

I understand that would be bad, yet I still desiere her so much.

Plan A, should a BS move back into plan A mode at anytime?

It sounds to me that perhaps if I were to step in and be the man once more it could be the icing on the cake?

Is thgis just a stupid idea, I am not looking at doing it, I was just wondering, if I have a next step, what would it be?

My opinion and I believe this is correct MB principles, no you can't really do anything for her until she has turned back towards the light, until she agrees to NC.

It sounds like she is weakening and even though he is saying that he should give up other lady friends it doesn't sound like he is doing it.

I think you need to stay tough. Did you get a copy of "Love Must Be Tough" yet?

You are doing an excellent Plan B. Keep up the good work and hopefully she will snap out of it soon. I can't say how long this is going to take or even guarantee anything - it's up to her. But you are so much more worth her affection, she has to see that eventually. She probably already knows that her leaving was a mistake but she is still hoping that she can reform this guy. There seems to be some kind of nurturing instinct in women that wants to reform the bad guys. I don't understand it but it seems to be a recurring theme here.

You really don't want her back until she is completely done with this because even if she were to move back home now she would still not have completely returned from her alien voyage.