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It's hard to even think when you're going through all of this... so don't worry about the 'positive thinking' stuff right now...
You've mentioned that both of you are in IC... are you both seeing a MC together?
I really don't know if not having children makes it easier or harder to come out of the fog. In one sense, I think you can work harder on your Plan-A w/o kids since you don't have to worry about a babysitter... so this could be a very good opportunity for you to start "dating" your W again.
Don't really know what else I can advise you with until I hear whether or not your guys are in MC together...
Semper Fi,
RIF
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Quick timeline
A1 - EA to PA to EA - 7/00 to 12/03
A2 - EA(strong) to PA - 2/04 to 1/28/05 (PA ended 9/04 when we moved out of state)
D-day - 1/26/5
NC - 1/28/5
Since then, in and out of bedroom. Currently in other bedroom.
MC started 1/28/5
Her IC started 2/3/5 (3 sessions so far)
My IC starts 2/14/5 (note the irony)
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notes on relationship:
in 99 moved out of state she went in aug me in oct. i was depressed w/ move didn't know or seek help (hindsight 20/20). in 2/03 she was in EA only w/A1(though she won't admit it) and we miscarried. in 2/04 after 6 mo of unemployment I found job out of state. she was to follow in april then aug finally came in sept. in 12/04 we started 'trying' again. that has obviously stopped.
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