OG, Melody...

Thanks for the advice, unfortunately I didn't get a chance to read it before the "conversation". Sounds like the conversation was a non-starter though. WW just asked DD10 about it and DD10 said she didn't want to talk about it (according to DD10). I haven't confronted WW on what was said but I believe nothing she tells me anyways.

The other possibility is that DD10 is covering up for her and WW's conversation. My gut says that I don't think that is the case just by the way DD10 and DD11 reacted when I asked them. The acted like WW just said something as a passing comment.

So here is what I suspect occured : WW asked DD10 about feeling uncomfortable on the weekend and DD10 didn't want to say anything so WW just drops it. Next, I'm sure, WW will come to me and say "DD10 didn't say anything to me, so there must not be anything wrong..." That's the type of fog she's in, she'll take no response as "there's no problem". That's what she wants to hear anyways, so silence works good for her.

I shouldn't be surprised, its my WW's defacto response... avoidance, avoidance, avoidance... can anyone say conflict avoider? :-)

Thanks for the advice. I'll definitely do it that way next time. I should have known better... Sigh...

**edited to add**
Also the kids don't seem to want to open up alot about this yet. I think it will take some time, I'll take it slow with them and move at their pace. We sat down tonight to have our weekly "chat" and all the issues that they wanted to discuss were friend related, or school related or some other day-to-day type thing. Mommy and Daddy's divorce wasn't at the top of their priorities for now.

PS. We(the kids and I) do also go to a divorce support group once a week as well so they may do all their venting there.

Miker

<small>[ February 15, 2005, 11:19 PM: Message edited by: Miker ]</small>