Yes, I am to the point where I have plan A'd all I can now.
Found out last night that he DID call OW for her birthday. He called her on Friday afternoon because he knew he wouldn't be able to call her over the weekend he said. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
Like a million times before I
thought he hadn't called her for awhile. I've said that in so many of my posts.
Last night was one of those emotional nights where I couldn't deal with it anymore. I felt it coming on all day. I think he knew just from looking at me that it wasn't going to be a good night either!!
Got a lot out in the open, although a lot of it was just re-hashing some old stuff too.
I want to thank all of you for the support you've given me on this thread. Without you I think I'd probably be in the looney bin!!
Yes, I have felt so taken advantage of by him for the past 3 months and deep inside, I have known that, but I just didn't want to let him go and was willing to let him walk all over me.
Last night he did promise me that he will never contact her again. I have been asking that of him this whole time and he was not willing to make that promise to me because he couldn't trust himself not to contact her.
I don't know why the change. Maybe he knows I'm serious this time. I want so much to believe him.
But how do I do that? The counselor said you have to choose--either you believe him or you don't. It's that simple. Hmm. ok.
I asked WS if he would take OW out of his email and his phone and throw away the dang folder that he keeps hidden from me that has her phone numbers and business card and all that crap in it. He said he would. He said he would not write her a NC letter though, because that would be considered contact. WTF????
He reads these boards and knows how important that is
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> It sounds like your WH doesn't really realize what he has done. He is FORTUNATE that you are willing to consider taking him back and that is that.
Have you filled out the EN questionaire??
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">One thing has never done until last night is said I'm sorry. I mean he's apologized for little LB's and DJ's he's made but he had not ever apologized for the affair and for ruining lives.
yes, we did fill out the EN questionaire and have gone over most of it. We are so different, it'a a wonder we ever even dated, let alone got married!!
So, life goes on....
I am going to see a psychic next week. She's wonderful. I've seen her a few times before and she's been dead on every time. So, it ought to be interesting!!
