Congats,

Talk about taking it to the wire. Best of luck

Hosea,

Sure does look like you both have started on recovery. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You are right about your next steps being the hard part. When you get your MC in your area, please consider giving Jennifer @ MB a call also. STeve is also good. They can give you phone counseling/coaching that is invaluable to your recovery.

I hope your W keeps up her progress but you need to be aware of when she doesn't and how both of you should handle it. Again a plan is needed. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You and your W have brought smiles to many here today. Of course our happiness is not your responsibility so just keep on a steady course.

Ark and Cy are correct about being cautious. Can't be too careful. We have seen many happy to start recovery only to lose it along the way.

Remember personal recovery is 1st for each of you, then marital recovery. The RH and POJA policies will play an active part in your recovery.

Thinking of the other's needs (very scripturally based thought), w/b vital to this process. Not doing everything the other wants but considering it and having an open and honest communication. You'd be surprised how far that will take an R.

Now there are still some points of your W's reactions that concern me. Maybe we can discuss them later.

Right now, enjoy and take care.

L.

Very smart about just postponing the divorce for 3 months, not cancelling it altogether.


makes me chuckle, I dropped proceedings after 3 months then 2 days later found proof on continued/renewed email and cell contact.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Very smart about just postponing the divorce for 3 months, not cancelling it altogether. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I too had similar experience. I asked for mandatory counciling during the postponement to make sure we both went with no quitting when it got hard. My STBX refused. She has always been a creature of convenience, She'd go until she didn't want to anymore and then not. Her commitments to me lasted all of 2 weeks. Well not even that long, but that is when I realized it.

Hosea going to stop posting on your thread. I feel like such a downer. LOL

You know I wish nothing but the best for your family and I know you will work hard to build what God intended. In fact, you have already demonstrated that.


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<small>[ February 15, 2005, 01:37 PM: Message edited by: Tom Joad ]</small>

Hosea, my prayers are with you. Just remember all the advice you got above, and keep posting. Praise God.

David