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Just got a TM from WS. Only going to post the GIST of it: ""You F****** A******. Think you can just get away with everything? I'm f****** every guy I know tonight. Sleep well, A******"
Good God - can she hurt anymore?
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Print these out, don't read them if you can help it, file them away...save them for later.
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Your WS is feeling the pain now...thats why she send you a nasty TM...she is hitting back at that person who is making her feel the pain. This is good news but you must stay strong and calm...dont fall into the trap. You are doing good... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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It's a text message, how can he print it?? David, I'm sorry....I really wasn't trying to add to your problems tonight...it was playful banter....your wife is trying to get your goat...she's not screwing every guy she knows tonight or any night. She knows which buttons to push......but, the good news is...YOU ARE SO GETTING TO HER IT'S FANTASTIC!! I know she's saying hurtful things.....but if she didn't care she wouldn't call at ALL!! YIPPEE David, this is one of the few cases where verbal abuse is a plus <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> -Caren
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Ok, so why is she sending me the smiley face (= every ten mimutes or so????
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OK, what if she calls and tells me that NONE of the kids are mine genetically????????????????????//
Dammmmmit!
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by tanelornpete: <strong> Ok, so why is she sending me the smiley face (= every ten mimutes or so???? David </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Who the WS? Hm.... BTW, if those kids aren't yours, then you'd better get your $$ back. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Just kidding. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Come on' gotta see you smile even with your 103 temp. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Chill out a bit David. They are your children. Why? Because you love them 2 much. Mine asked me tonight as we were watching the movie 'school of life' (good movie to watch with your kids, btw), he asked if I had ever experienced a miracle. I said yes, him. He said I didn't always treat him like a miracle so I had to explain he didn't alwasy act like one but I loved him anyways. Kids, they just have a way with getting to our hearts, ya know?!??!!? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Hug your kids.....they are yours, down to the very last cell. g'nite, L.
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Smiley face is good...she is responding well to plan B...this is good news despite the hostile messages...you are still in the running...keep darkkkkkk... No matter what...don't let it known to her that this is getting to you...vent here and get feedback here before you do anything... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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Hostile messages - hell. Zizzy - I love you, but you have no idea the hell I may have gone thru. (no disrespect) Omly CJ might - connection - CJ - if she responded - 'cause she was there. I took heat fom not being a good enough parent to requiring sleeping pills to get sleep, all the while irresponsible parent had no problmn sleeping. Worries aside, I guess no no conscience helps one sleep. Meanwhile, I'm hungry. Amyone got any ideas?
Davidiot - sorry cj - kick me later
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<small>[ February 21, 2005, 03:39 AM: Message edited by: tanelornpete ]</small>
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David - Just wanted to give you a BIG THUMBS UP! I am rootin' for ya! And to Caren (sorry to somewhat threadjack): </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by CarenMc: <strong> P.S. YES!!!!!!! I am the winner with 28 calls BOOYAH!!! LMAO what did I win? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I would be happy if my WW would even call me once a day....she is Plan B'ing me I think... TM
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Ok, tell me this - but why, on the night (or the mornng, my PBL is delievered) would an ex-boss of my WW's call to appolgize for an affair 12 yers ago? Or why would, 2 hours later a call, confessing a similar thimg - a co=worker fom a totally unrelated job confess the same thing? CJ - would love to hear yuur input - uould love to hear from the rest of Wise Counsel...
Off to bed --- David
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David: She is screwing w/ your head... she is angry and looking to hurt you... she knows the buttons to push... stop letting her manipulate your mind, don't give your power away! You are doing good! How are you hearing fr these "ghosts of the past"? Any way to document these? You may need them later!!! You can do this, she is hurting and she wants you to hurt too...BTDT! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Don't answer any of these calls if you can help it, you are letting her in where she does not belong right now.... Just my 2 cents...
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by tanelornpete: <strong> Ok, tell me this - but why, on the night (or the mornng, my PBL is delievered) would an ex-boss of my WW's call to appolgize for an affair 12 yers ago? Or why would, 2 hours later a call, confessing a similar thimg - a co=worker fom a totally unrelated job confess the same thing? CJ - would love to hear yuur input - uould love to hear from the rest of Wise Counsel... Off to bed --- David </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm confoozed for just very tired. R U saying someone called you to confess to an A from 12 years ago? Who were the WS/OP? Then another call from a different job confessed about what? Did someone give your phone # out as a confession board? Posted on a bathroom wall: 'If you are a WS and feel guilty call 1-888-David'? R U sure it's not the fever that is making you hallucinate these events? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Just kidding. I am sure our imaginations are not wild enough to concoct what the WS are making us live through. Hope you are getting some rest. Fever break yet? L.
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David,
WW is trying to hurt you and she is succeeding. But, don't let her know that. Ignore her. Keep venting to us.
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<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm confoozed for just very tired. R U saying someone called you to confess to an A from 12 years ago? Who were the WS/OP? Then another call from a different job confessed about what? Did someone give your phone # out as a confession board? Posted on a bathroom wall: 'If you are a WS and feel guilty call 1-888-David'?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No hallucinations. News got around town that she left me - I guess both guys just wanted to appologize. A little late. The second guy I actually called (my fault for not making that more clear - wasn't thinking well last nught) because I found a card from him while packing up some of her stuff. I was too angry not to stop myself, and he said it was just a ONS - I remember the danged night! <strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hope you are getting some rest. Fever break yet? L. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah. fever is gone, but I could use some sleep! Dang - can't sleep for more than a couple hours at a time..... David <small>[ February 21, 2005, 11:17 AM: Message edited by: tanelornpete ]</small>
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Nothing to add. She likes plan B. Decided no contact with me is how we can live forever. Can't be 'friends' so let's just forget about each other.
"See ya in court'
Just as I suspected.
Now what?
David
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David,
Now what? What you do is continue with plan B. She has Not ended her affair, so there is nothing for you to do. That is the beauty of plan B. She is no out of your life save when she must pick up the kids. You start to live your live. You take good care of the kids, yourself, and you start to get a life, that is NOT focused on the pain she has inflicted on you, not focused on what she thinks or doesn't think. You start to LIVE and enjoy your life.
She is doing the classic steps. First, the WS fights plan B, gets angry, tries to get around it. Then they go off to OM, or in her case screwing every man she can find (according to her), but after a month or so, that gets tiresome. After a month of so as you heal, regain your strength, your balance, YOU start to look differently to her.
Will this mean things will work out? Perhaps, and perhaps not, what you dont' realize is that you need to go through withdrawal from your WS permenately...forever, infinitly. IF your W eventually shows up, you will have enough love for her that you two might get back together. If WS remains, then this is over, you will have gone through your withdrawal while giving your marriage every chance and you will be ready for divorce.
David, plan B is for you. It protects your love, prepares you for the future, and it gives your W the best chance of showing up in place of WS. However, it also prepares you for the worst case situation as well.
She is on the glidepath of plan B, no adjustments to course are required right now. You are good to go David, so keep up the good work.
Step back and rest in peace David, you have earned it.
God Bless,
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David-
Just asking out of curiousity...what makes you say she likes Plan B???
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Thank's JL. Way to make a guy cry.
Caren - she sent me a tm that says she couldn't have hoped for anything better than for me to get the H*** out of her life.
Felt Great (sarcasm)
Didn't even enjoy deleting it.
David
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Oh David, she's just baiting you again.....she doesn't mean that...if she meant that she wouldn't have had to say it....get it? If she thinks that getting you out of her life was the best thing since sliced bread, she wouldn't say a word.....by saying it, she means the opposite.
She's trying to hurt you.
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