Caren,

A nail under 2 tires could have a better effect. LOL!!! Just kidding. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Ok, well now you know it is dangerous for you to be driving anywheres near the OW's place. So the WS even showed his face? What a nut.

Be glad you are pulling yourself out of this mess. Your mom probably thought if you saw him there it would make you want to leave the M.

Probably to hard to deal with now. Anger and hurt comes up instead.

Just remember this..... OWs smell gross. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

Oh Caren do I understand what you say about your anger. When my exH was with his ow (now wife)I had to fight tooth and nail the nasty urges I had to kick the living hell out of her and then go for him....

Just try hard not to have angry outbursts in front of your kids. It's hard I know but in the long run it's so much better.

I normally avoid her house and work like the friggen plague, because that's really all I wanna do is kick the living sh*t out of her.

Orchid-

Hell yeah WH showed his face.....he knows better than to not, because if he hadn't come out for me honking I would have backed the car up and rammed his car. Granted it's not that great of a car, but it does drive, and I could make it stop doing that. He knows me very well, I have warned him (Pre-Affair) when I was suspicious of him going to these hot rod things, and he would never let me go, he said "No one brings their wives" I said "Okay, fine....lemme tell you what, lemme drive by that parking lot and if you're not doing just exactly what you say you're doing and I'm gonna T-Bone that Hot Rod with my truck....how bout that?!?!" (At the time I had a blazer).....so it would have been unwise for him not to come out......and If I didn't hit his car, then I would have been at that door....he knows this, that's why he showed his face......and then was falling all over himself on the machine trying to apologize.

I agree, My Mom probably did think that if I saw his car there I would want an immediate divorce, but no....I just wanted a little bloodshed.

I talked to her tonight, WH keeps hitting the machine telling me he's leaving OW and wants to reconcile, and I told her he had....she said "What about OW?" I said "What about her?" I don't know AGAIN what her point is with all this antagonizing....she said "You still feel like beating the tar out of her?" I said "Yep" She said "I don't understand you!!!!" I said "Mom, I told you I'd leave her alone, but if WH DOES break it off with her, what makes you thinks she's not going to come up running her mouth to me????" I said "If that b*tch get's in my face, I will warn her ONE time to get the hell away from me, she keeps running her mouth and I will beat her @ss." She said "CAREN!!! I hope you know no one in the family will support you or help you get out of jail if you do that!" I said "Well.....I told you, as long as she doesn't approach me, I'll leave her alone, if she approaches me, that's a deal buster."

So maybe she got the hint that antagonizing me is a bad idea. I don't know, she knows I've got this temper, so I don't understand what on earth she could be thinking.

*sigh* No, I don't have my internet back, I'm at the neighbors...they're probably sick of me using their computer...LOL. That's why my posts are sporadic. I won't be back on tonight, possibly tommorrow. WH thinks I'm going out tonight (I guess he asked DD10 and I told her I was going out, running around) so I'm sure he'll be milking her for info. She's at the neighbors with me, so he's probably blowing up my phone trying to talk to her...Oooops sorry....we're not home, hate to cut you out of the loop, but...Oh wait, no I don't....it's MY LOOP.

-Caren

this is so sad caren. i feel so bad for you that this is happening in your life. i pray for you to get your dh back from the ow. i am sorry that she is entering your lifes like this.

maria

Thank you mcorpus, it's not really a matter of "If" it's a matter of "When" I get my DH from OW.

That stupid skank doesn't hold a candle to me, I'm not worried.

-Caren

((((( Caren )))))

I'm brand new here and I believe you!! Ignore those that don't. They have hatred in their hearts for whatever reason and aren't important. They are out for themselves. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I'm sorry for what you are going through. Been there done that. I will post my story sometime when I have the time. It had a happy ending. I didn't marry my H to divorce him and I sure didn't think we would remarry and things be even better later on.

You hang in there. My heart goes out to you. I teared up just reading your posts.

God got me through it and he certainly is there for you also. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hi Caren - - - - -

<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That stupid skank doesn't hold a candle to me, I'm not worried.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree. You are doing Great. 'Nuff said.


David

Thank you forever, I appreciate the support.

Thanks David <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

-Caren

Caren, this is FA-A. I have been deliberately avoiding your threads because of your comments on my sitch. But I just read KaylaAndy's reply to you and thought I should respond. Page 2 I think.

I am in awe of your resolve. But be very aware, things don't always turn out the way you want. they have a tendency to turn out the way you Least want. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

You sound a lot like me. If you are interested in why I have never repsonded, I will give you my email id so we can talk off line. Otherwise. Good Luck!

FAA-

Hon, I absolutely want to know what you're referring to, I hope I haven't offended you, if I did.....it was surely not my intention. My e-mail is the_pieces_of_my_broken_heart@yahoo.com

-Caren

Hi Caren,
Just wanted to say that I think you're doing great. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
You losing your internet connection threw us all for a loop, I think!
So now we don't hear from you nearly as often... but don't forget... We're all thinking about you and worrying about you...
Stay strong, kiddo <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ February 26, 2005, 08:06 PM: Message edited by: tqt ]</small>

Hi tqt....yeah I know, I'm sorry that instead of my million posts you are widdled down to only a few times a day...LOL

-Caren

Caren,

Glad you are safe and the vehicles are still in tact. AFter all, it isn't the vehicles fault. LOL!!

Now hold onto that temper and don't let it get you into trouble. It may help to know that you already got the WS shaking in his pants and probably wetting it in a few places. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> That'll cause an LB or 2 between him and the OW. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Tell the neighbors we appreciate their generousity of letting you post. Let them know you have friends all over the world checking up on you.

So aloha from the pacific.

L.

Orchid-

LOL, you are so funny, I just love it when you post to me.

I will make sure to thank my neighbors...it is awfully nice for them to let me monopolize their computer.

Yeah, the vehicles are in tact for the moment....and I do think I scared the begeezes out of both my WH and the OW....ha ha....how 'bout you not [censored] with my serenity and I'll leave you alone.

I haven't been back over to my house all night long, wondering what my machine has to offer..LMAO.

I also forgot to take my damn wellbutrin today....that would be why I have no motivation to continue cleaning..LOL, I can't take it past 5 pm, the doc said it'll keep me up. So I'm supposed to just skip this dose and take the one in the a.m., and I will so I can get the house finished..LOL.

Okay have a pleasant evening...and Arrrrgh Orchid, I had no idea you lived in Hawaii....that is so unfair to someone who is currently in Ohio.....damn the bad luck <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

-Caren

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by CarenMc:
<strong> .......Okay have a pleasant evening...and Arrrrgh Orchid, I had no idea you lived in Hawaii....that is so unfair to someone who is currently in Ohio.....damn the bad luck <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

-Caren </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Caren,

Glad I made you chuckle a bit. It is good to see you keep your sense of humor around. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

As for the Hawaii thing....no biggie. All the stuff on the mainland (except the snow - only on Mauna Kea/sleet and hail), exist here. Even the real bad stuff (like tourist being thrown from hotel balaconies). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> The A virus runs rampant here also. All that white sand and sea can't stop that from happening. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Well just wanted you to know you are in our hearts.

Have a good evening, get some rest and check back tomorrow. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Aloha,
L.

Well I'm back to check in, then back to the house cleaning. I have gone through the boxes in my closet (A bunch I never unpacked...because it is sentimental stuff, and my apartment is not and has never been my home) I got rid of some superfluous B.S. and am continuing my cleaning (Yeah took my Wellbutrin today, I'm back in top form...lol, this stuff is very, ummm motivating).

I am going to go out and get a Sunday paper and see what apartments are available....gotta go for cheaper rent this time.

My WH keeps leaving messages that he's dumping OW, he's supposed to come over tonight to see DD10, so I'm gonna have another talk with him, let him know that my boundaries have to, in no uncertain terms, be honored, I have a feeling he wants to use my eviction as the reason to get back together and to tell OW that we're getting back together...I think in his little WS mind that makes sense. I'm very apprehensive about what's going on with him, but as I said, he keeps telling my machine he loves me, and that he wants to reconcile...My machine is probably tired of hearing it.

I don't know what the future holds, but I feel like I have to at least discuss this with WH, and see what he's got to say. I am scared to death that if we do get back together he's going to take the ensuing depression as a sign he made the wrong choice.....should I warn him that depression will set in?? He has anti-D's sitting at the pharmacy that I can fill, not filling them now because, well, frankly he deserves the pain he's in.

-Caren

Caren - Did you see Was Sad's picture link? That was funny! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Why didn't I think of that?

Believer, I have resisted posting that picture for the last month since I found it. It would not be funny to everyone, but, since you mentioned it, I figured Caren would get a kick out of the picture. I'm *sure* she hasn't actually considered doing this same thing <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Was Sad - That picture was quite hilarious!!! I was very ashamed of my behavior at the time, but now I can laugh about it.

Morning Caren,

U have a plan. Go with it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

All the best,
L.