SML,

Didn't see your 1st post but know that even if the OW reads here, her comprehension is below normal and her logic is wacked so she won't be able to understand what you are going through.

Just wanted to reassure you that since you can't count on the father of your children, you need to work with those who do care. Including your little ones. Give and receive love and support from all who love and support you.

Secure your finances. That's a must. You have been given suggestions to contact legal counsel. Do so immediately.

BTW, OWs stink. They have that wretched OW stench of dirty clothes, filthy foul mouth and a dirty/warped mind. Just wanted you to know that if she does come around, you will know and so will others. At least you have a warning sign. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

If and when she chooses to communicate with you, she has been warned here that we all know she smells. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

take care,
L.

<small>[ February 23, 2005, 12:35 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Ok here try this. Ck with bank to see where he is still using ATM card. He may be living with OW now. Have car hidden ect. He has gone dark on you because you were doing that to him. Ck things out and look it is working on you with your worries and not sleeping.

Mimi,
I often read your posts and I often feel their your sitch was similar to mine.

What made your WH decide to give your marriage another chance? What made him decide to come back home. I also agree that I have to give him what he wants. He thinks this woman can provide all of his needs. Then let her try. Just wait till the reality hits. Three children, two marriages, obligations, responsiblity, visitation, child support, not being ontop of his priorities and other things. What they have right now is a affair that started out on the internet. They mainly have phone conversation. They can be anyone on the phone. He lied to her for a long time. Never told her was married, had kids, where he lived and many many other things. Does she really believe that he stopped lying? They do not have to deal with his REAL life at the moment. When he goes there he shuts his real life off. He even admits that it's like an escape from bills, kids, the commute, his job, family, married life and such.

<small>[ February 23, 2005, 09:58 PM: Message edited by: New&ImprovedMarylandLady ]</small>

Also IF my husband would separaten from me. And at some point move in with this girl. My stepson would be moving with him. Would she help him like I do with his son? She often posts on that OW board that the thought of having children or being married makes her physically sick at this point in her life. WELL she is with a man that has three. And one that he has full custody of. Doesn't she think that might put some dampers on her single lifestyle she has? She said she has to much she wants to do to worry about children.

When I dated him I knew about his son right away. We went on dates but his son went along because he had nobody to watch him. There was times I wanted alone time with him but that didn't happen, or go to a adult movie, nice resturant, dancing or things of that nature. But could not. Now THEY get that time to do that because he abandons the kids for days at a time. It's been 6 now. Let's me to be the babysitter. And they get the freedom BUT that is not his reality.

Like I said... they are in fantasy world. Reality will set in one day. But why do so many have to be hurt for two people to be selfish and uncaring?

<small>[ February 23, 2005, 03:57 PM: Message edited by: New&ImprovedMarylandLady ]</small>

I am sorry that you are going through this <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
When my WH left we eneded up filing a missing persons report and that is how we found out about the affair. It is scary trying to think of what could have happened to them. Reality is, he is more then likely fine. (As fine as a WH can be)
You are a very strong women!

Is there really an OW board? That is sickening!

Danielle

I am sure he is fine also. I still love my husband with all my heart. But I have to put that aside for the moment and focus on our kids. I will not give up on my marriage. Even though the OW reads here in hopes that I will.

The other women thinks that this is a CHALLANGE. To her she would be 'winning' if she got your husband. Question is, does she REALLY know what the 'prize' holds, long term? Answer...no.

Is there really a board for OW's?

Danielle