Prior to discovery, I suspected for a couple of weeks and presented "refutable" evidence that he talked his way out of. Even upon "discovery", he still minimized the extent of the "relationship"<P>I never realized what I liar he was until we went through this. He lied and denied so much that he got himself mixed up quite often and would resort to the "you're crazy" mode.<P>His image was a big factor also. He was the hero child and the corporate "golden child", so when I suggested to almost anyone of our friends or family what I suspected, they laughed...they could/would not believe it. This, of course, supported his "she's nuts" theory.<P>Good luck finding the truth. I had to rely on God (see Signs from Above post)for much of mine.