TNT - You're just toooo good!!!<P>Perfect!!<P>

from what I understand, I've been more nurturing, but she will pay attention in other ways....<BR>I handled time beter and gave him a few hours in each day when in plan A, even with kids...this is OW's first child and its H's only boy... She pushes the baby into all situations now and H has lost that "undivided" attention...and there is a baby the $$'s are going to also....OC will be spoiled for sure....but<P>OW is willing to work and let H stay home and play games all day on the puter, and as long as H is hers....she thinks H will take care of baby and things while she brings home the bacon...(Dreams)<P>I can't do it all anymore, as I began to feel real resentful(never mind the drain physically), and eventually came to the conclution that it was inableing H to stay totally disfunctional and thats not good..<P>Of course I could be hearing how great OW is just to get me to do more.... Ive heard so many lies that thats a big possibility...But they have been together off and on for half of our marriage....What do I know anyway...Only what H tells me....<P>cozy....<BR>

No, you don't do what your husband tells you, that can be negotiated!!! <P>What you do now, is learn to understand and be understood. Okay?<BR>

Soooo I'll just take the time to say, lets sit down and really try to understand each other again...I want to try and see things from your eyes and understand how your feeling.....<P>And then see what happens?<P>One step at a time.....<P>cozy <<<focusing on step 1 "understand">>>