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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by faithful follower:
I will contact my attorney to stop the paperwork for the legal separation. I need to tell my WH about the attorney and the retainer fee.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Instead, have your attorney draw up an agreement of child support .... this is imperative that you do this before OC is born. YOUR kids need to be first in line for child support, not behind whatever needs OC may have.
Ask Lynn on Preg/OC board for this specific advice.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Pepperband:
I need to tell my WH about the attorney and the retainer fee.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Before you show ALL your cards to your H ... be sure he will SIGN a legal document of child support.... for YOUR kids. If he makes excuses of why he cannot sign such a document, then, I urge you to reconsider cancelling the separation papers.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Instead, have your attorney draw up an agreement of child support .... this is imperative that you do this before OC is born. YOUR kids need to be first in line for child support, not behind whatever needs OC may have.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Got it, will do. Thanks I knew that retainer money would do some good somewhere.
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sweetie---why on earth would i 2x4 you??? i dont walk in your shoes...its not my life...its yours. i have given my hubby more chances than i think anyone can even imagine...lol
i think your brave and couragous for doing everything you can for your family. i mean that. pep is right though....legally protect yourdelf and your kids first. that can all be dropped in the future, but for now, until he proves himself...do it.
as far as him in counseling...great
you in counseling.....great
and as far as dealing with her and oc as a family unit----BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!!
i do think you are really working hard on this....but so did i. my mistake was not realizing early enough and dealing with....the fact that i was the only one!!! lol
set up your boundries and DONT' MOVE THEM!!!
your doing fine.
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nikko, that is why I wanted you to read my update...because you have done this for so long and are finally seeing the fruits of your labor. Thank you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Hi FF,
i don't think you are a fool either!!! i sure hope your H gets his act together and steps up to the plate finally. by all means, do follow the advice of protecting yourself and kids financially. if he is being totally sincere with you, he has not reason not to sign, if he refuses to sign something like that, then you have an indication of exactly where he is at.
you are so strong Faith. i think you are doing awesome. love and prayers to you.
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