You guys have no idea how greatful I am to ALL of you, the advisors with their wisdom, the entertainers with their dramas, the ones who still have a sense of humor who make us laugh, the newbies who ask questions... everyone is so helpful.

I am particularly greatful because I live in a third world country where I can't get the kind of helpyou all talk about IC, MC, not even friends who can read MB or the books. So this is a lifesaver for me.

Personally there are many who have influenced me, most without knowing how important what they say has been.
And I know Mimi is watching over me... just in case I fall off my plan B..

I'm thankful for everyone here but if I have to call out some names...

2long, for helping me out when I needed it; and for running over OM. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
Kiwi, you completely understand!
NCWalker & Fishracer - your biblical guidance and knowledge doesn't go unnoticed.
Pep, your humor is wicked - just like mine!
Tom Joad - for the chili recipe you STILL owe me!

Though I haven't really spoken in-depth with many of you here, I have read and learned a lot, and I can say that our marriage is better because of everyone on this board.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by gentlsoul:
<strong> I am thankful for Racer X, although we've never conversed directly. I always read his posts....sound thinking recovery for the my side of the fence (FWS). And, when I find myself puzzled as to how to handle something, I ask myself, "What would Racer X do?" I don't know if he would really do what I decide, but it helps. So far, so good! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thank you GS, I saw your post on our similar thread on IR and came over to reply to this one to be sure you saw it. I want you to know you made my day!

FGG, thanks for the shout out, I am thankful for Orchid, the Fog Babble interpreter, and of course to my FWH who completely immersed me in the language.

Just Learning opened my eyes and gave me a good whack when all around me was commimserating what slouches their H were.

There are so many on here who have shared their story and once things are resolved have moved on...I can't tell you how many folks things have worked out for...many, many, ,many (how's that for quantitating it 2long).

Thank you for everyone who has taken the step to share their story, to open their heart, to help, and to be vulnerable enough to hurt!!!!

After a while you learn personalities, and given a situation a person will hear the many sides to resolve it...from Coach, Chris, Redhat, Starfish, Cerri, to mel, Pep, Orchid, Mimi, WAT, LM, to those still in the thick of things, LL, M23B, FGG, DGinVA and many many others...

There are names that stick out, those that probably still lurk but are busy in recovery or D...like haywire, AM Martin, 3sacrowd.

Thanks to ALL!!!!

I want to give a special Thanks to Shmaley, Believer, Suzet, Weaver and Octobergirl Who all answered my first post.

Shmaley, Believer and Suzet answered in the middle of the night. (2:40 a.m., 3:07 a.m. and 4:34 a.m).

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=37;t=032105;p=1

I want you all to know you gave me hope and I stayed the course. We have been in wonderful recovery for 6 months.

I posted my first thank you thread back in October when we were making the first, tentative steps into recovery. HERE IT IS , but the folk in it already know how i feel.

Now, five months later our day-to day marriage is better than in years, Squid is working as she is able on our relationship, NC has held without any likelihood of violation and the future looks bright.

Sure, recovery is a rollercoaster, but isn't LIFE a rollercoaster too ?

I have no words for the folks on this board who have helped me. Just prayers. Of thanks. Always.

I want to say I am especially thankful for the courage of FL-T2M. I was a lurker at the time that she bravely confessed all to her H and that gave me courage to out myself here after being outed to my H. FL, you are very courageous.

Racer,

Your post about made me cry.

I think that is what keeps us all here, because we know the pain, fear and the feeling of utter hopelessness affairs cause.

It is so nice to be able to connect on a board like this where everyone really does care, supports and helps keep us strong.

Thanks Racer!

This is a great opportunity... I also really, really want to jump in and thank some people who took their time and listened to me when I was in dire need.

so... special thanks to all idiots, including AW and A2 cos they speak the same language <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> , Pep for the fun lingerie ideas and JL for being so smart (when I read that JL is a physicist I wasn't surprised- my H is a physicist and they seem to keep cropping up for me). Also Rose, FL and FF cos they've been in the same boat. Maybe together we can keep on staying afloat.

And just in general I am grateful that a place like this exists for when we need it ((((MB)))).

Amen to that smur <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Maybe together we can keep on staying afloat.

I'm thankful for all of the new posters who come here in terrible pain, and still find the strength to reach out and help others. I can't list all of their names - but one gave us the "flying by the instruments" plan that has helped so many. And that was while we were all wallowing around in the JFO forum.

And of course there is lemonman who has consistently gone against the flow, and given solid, thoughtful support.

Saw a license plate today that said: ASK ARK!

Thanx so much for all you regular posters who can be counted on to always oppose adultery, no matter the circumstances.

It is a comfort to me on the worst days to come here and see that I am not the only one who gets it. It's nice to see that others still respect marriage and morals.

Also, I have learned that there are men who value marriage and fidelity, who will take responsibility for their marriages. I guess I was starting to doubt if any men were like that. So now I have the confidence to expect more from a man, to not settle for less anymore.

and RIF, who always has a kind heart and a kind word <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Wow, thank you so much for the honorable mention, folks! Some days I come here and just beam at how lucky I am to be affiliated with the likes of people here. It just amazes me that we have so many intellectual and moral giants in one place. Some times I read these threads and just feel so grateful.

I feel enormous gratitude towards most folks here, but especially JustLearning, Pep, Ark, ForeverHers, WAT, [my favorite heathenboy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ], Resilient, Orchid, MortarMan, 2Long,[my next favorite heathenboy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ] BobPure, Mimi, Believer [who I miss terribly!], Trix, weaver, stillseeking [what a kind, loving, compassionate DEAR man!}, OctoberGirl, KiwiJ, smur [love reading her posts!] and last but not least, Faith1, who tirelessly maintains our MB photo album.

I am very lucky indeed to know the good people here. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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I don't think I will name names either. I would feel bad if I left someone out.

I am gratefull for those that showed up here at the same time I did. I feel a sense of comradery with many of them. We cut our teeth together.

I am gatefull for those that showed up here before me. So many of them gave guidance and most of all the insite to let me see the way to that extra bit of strength to keep the healing process going.

I am gratefull for those that showed up after me. Some of them have allowed me to share what those that came before me taught me. I hope I've been of some small help along the way.

I am gratefull to everyone, and I DO mean everyone that has come here. Lurkers and posters a like. We are all human beings that have showed up for life in some way or other to attempt to better our marriages.

What is really more important than marriage? With out it the world would be nothing but chaos. With out it we would all be hunters and gatherers still. With out it our world would not have come as far as it has.

I am gratefull for every MBer that was, that is and that will be.

I think each of you should give yourself a nice pat on the back for caring enough to show up for your marriage.

bumping for FL2TM

Thanks to the "lifers" who helped me when I first showed up - WAT, JL, Leilana, Twyla, and others whose names I've long forgotten. Thanks to the "lifers" who help folks now - Pep, 2long, ark, MelodyLane, Ogirl, still seeking.

Thanks to the struggling ones who post(ed) so openly and honestly. Bob Pure, Finally Learning, Just J, svb1, Georgia.

Thanks to the BS for teaching forgiveness AND boundaries and self respect.

Thanks to the WS for teaching self forgiveness and learning boundaries and giving insight to those BS suffering pain and bewilderment.

Thanks to those who D'd for teaching us that if you have earned your D, it is not failure but honorable.

Thanks to those whose native language is not English, for struggling to express such difficult concepts and feelings in a foreign language.

Thanks to everyone for not saying "who are YOU" when I show up again after one of my hiatuses (hiati?) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />