Good morning all. Well, yesterday was quite a busy "phone" day. After having called OW (this I am assumming) and some the night before - there were alot of calls for me from my WH. It seemed like he was checking on me to see if anything had happened between his OW and me.
Perhaps she is putting the pressure on him now that it is getting close to me going with him. I am still Plan Aing and he seems to be liking it.
I am sure she knows about me or else why would she always call him using*67 first. Plus, there was a while ago that when we were talking about me/us that WH told me that maybe I was codependant. I go - what ?? This is a word he was not familiar with and probably had been discussed with OW. I proceeded to convince him that I was NOT co dependant. (although I probably am).
Anyway, after many short phone calls from him yesterday, last night he called me from his cell, he is in Canada to my home phone and his number came up on my caller id as 000 unavailable !!! I say to him, why are you calling like this. Not LBing, just curious. He seemed quite flusterd (sp) and was almost defending himself by saying he was calling from his cell and where he was. Apparently he got confused and thought he was calling OW. How stressful it must be for a WS. Tongue in cheek here. He has himself in quite a pickel and I am just going to sit back and watch what he does next. With eyes wide open, crying some of the time and trying to be as compasionate as I can be.
What do y'all think of all of this ?? (Texas here) thanks so much

carnation

Good morning all. Well, yesterday was quite a busy "phone" day. After having called OW (this I am assumming) and some the night before - there were alot of calls for me from my WH. It seemed like he was checking on me to see if anything had happened between his OW and me.
Perhaps she is putting the pressure on him now that it is getting close to me going with him. I am still Plan Aing and he seems to be liking it.
I am sure she knows about me or else why would she always call him using*67 first. Plus, there was a while ago that when we were talking about me/us that WH told me that maybe I was codependant. I go - what ?? This is a word he was not familiar with and probably had been discussed with OW. I proceeded to convince him that I was NOT co dependant. (although I probably am).
Anyway, after many short phone calls from him yesterday, last night he called me from his cell, he is in Canada to my home phone and his number came up on my caller id as 000 unavailable !!! I say to him, why are you calling like this. Not LBing, just curious. He seemed quite flusterd (sp) and was almost defending himself by saying he was calling from his cell and where he was. Apparently he got confused and thought he was calling OW. How stressful it must be for a WS. Tongue in cheek here. He has himself in quite a pickel and I am just going to sit back and watch what he does next. With eyes wide open, crying some of the time and trying to be as compasionate as I can be.
What do y'all think of all of this ?? (Texas here) thanks so much

carnation

Good morning all. Well, yesterday was quite a busy "phone" day. After having called OW (this I am assumming) and some the night before - there were alot of calls for me from my WH. It seemed like he was checking on me to see if anything had happened between his OW and me.
Perhaps she is putting the pressure on him now that it is getting close to me going with him. I am still Plan Aing and he seems to be liking it.
I am sure she knows about me or else why would she always call him using*67 first. Plus, there was a while ago that when we were talking about me/us that WH told me that maybe I was codependant. I go - what ?? This is a word he was not familiar with and probably had been discussed with OW. I proceeded to convince him that I was NOT co dependant. (although I probably am).
Anyway, after many short phone calls from him yesterday, last night he called me from his cell, he is in Canada to my home phone and his number came up on my caller id as 000 unavailable !!! I say to him, why are you calling like this. Not LBing, just curious. He seemed quite flusterd (sp) and was almost defending himself by saying he was calling from his cell and where he was. Apparently he got confused and thought he was calling OW. How stressful it must be for a WS. Tongue in cheek here. He has himself in quite a pickel and I am just going to sit back and watch what he does next. With eyes wide open, crying some of the time and trying to be as compasionate as I can be.
What do y'all think of all of this ?? (Texas here) thanks so much

carnation

yikes, sorry for all those posts. I thought they were not going through. After typing all of that, I did not want to redo it. This has happened alot to me here. Y'all should be thankful or else I would be posting much more !!
Anyway, just sitting here on my thumbs and waiting for the phone to ring. He normally calls me first thing in the morning, but no call yet.
Why do I put so much importance on his calls ? Oh yea, I am afraid of losing him to the OW. Although my manager at work told me that maybe I already have !! may have a point there. I can only be the best I can be right now given the situation at hand. Can not turn back clock, as much as we all want to, at least me.

thanks again. Hope this not post a thousand times. My "correction" doing the same thing.

Car

Wow Carnation, a quadruple post! Haven't seen that before <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

What do I think, well I think the pressure is building.

Keep on your Plan A. You sound great by the way. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I think someone said to keep posting on the same thread, so that is what I am doing.
Yesterday I got the actual cell phone bill. 22 pages. She calls him so many times, I quit counting. From the one time he slipped up and called her, I now have her name, number and adress. She lives where we used to live last year. So I must assume that this has gone on for longer than I thought before. I used to think it was someone here where we moved last May !! But at the time of the move, 25 miles away, he kept telling me that it would be a fresh start for us. Me not knowing what he meant by that.
Actually, I did not suspect an A until we moved here. Things got really bad last summer. So this is more serious than I had imaged. Of course.
Lately he has been alot nicer and closer to me. Talking about me going on the truck with him and such. But Sunday he did tell me that he was confused and felt like he was being pulled in every direction. I PLan Aed again.
I am so tempted to call her and tell her to leave my H alone, but I guess I do not want to open up that can of worms just yet. But it is tempting. I have called her *67 and heard her little voice and just hung up.
Just thought I would update y'all. Three more days left to my job. Feel mixed about all of that. They think I am crazy but understand.

carnation