Hi Y'all
Daughter's 25th birthday was yesterday...so strange to not celebrate as a whole family. Her dad is taking her out to eat tonight but her husband doesn't want to go because he struggles so much with the idea of in-laws divorcing, affair, etc. right when their own marriage began. So I think daughter is going by herself.

I know that it's good that she maintain some sort of relationship with her dad but I admit that it also makes me somewhat upset emotionally, because I know that he will use the very fact that she interacts with him as justification to say "See, everything is OK since I left. Everyone accepts it." Which is so untrue <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

This week I've been praying that my own bitterness and rejection (yes I admit to both right now) don't get in the way of daughter's relationship with her dad. I know that's the right thing to do but it's VERY difficult.

Is anyone still involved in this thread? I didn't want it to go to page 2 so I opened up a little in sharing. Hope y'all are having a good week!

Hi avondale,

I'm still here... I've just been wrapped up in the soup.

When I went to file my taxes... my accountant came back to me and said someone has already filed under your name and social security number.

Needless to say... not only am I bitter... but I'm furiuos. I know my exW and her B/F are behind this.

I tracked down my exW and her B/F after I found this out. I know where they live and have their phone number now. I never wanted to do this... but they pushed me to the point that I'm going on the offensive and I am not taking anymore of their garbage any longer.

I called their apartment and blasted her B/F. This guy does not want to mess around with me... and he knows it. Life as they know it is going to change in the not to distant future.

I called the IRS and filed papers with them to prosecute these two clowns and they indicated that if they stayed in the same residence they would prosecute them on filing a false tax return and fraud.

I also filed papers with Child Support Enforcement to go after my exW, and start garnishment proceedings. Their little honeymoon is over.

All I wanted to do was to get away from my exW and not look back... but they keep their little antics up... so we are going to play hard ball with them.

I asked God to take this hate and thirst for vengence away and have been going to Church and praying to have the Lord remove this hatred that I have for these two people and soften my heart... I'm slowly coming out of it... very slowly. But I am going to move forward on these two until they get the idea that they should get a life and stand on their own two feet... and quit trying to ruin my life.

I've stood by and watched them detroy a whole family... I'm not going to sit on the side lines anymore... I'm going to be very pro-active in having them feel the same type of pain that my family went through.

They love money... so if I take a chunk of it away from them... they will feed on each other like sharks... that's the kind of dirt bag scum that they are.

I'm going to do everything in my power to see that these two clowns serve jail time before this is all said and done.

Enough is Enough!!!

So avondale, I understand your feelings completely. Luckily for me... my kids want nothing to do with their mother. If they did... with everything that is going on... I'm not sure at this stage how I would deal with it.

I agree with your SIL... it is very upsetting to say the least... and yes, your "H" will probably use this meeting with your daughter as a form of acceptance so why don't you, and why won't you accept it. It's his way of getting acceptance for everything that he has done.

I don't agree with it... and I never will agree with it... but that's just me.

Is it right... NO!

I know we are suppose to forgive them for what they did... but when they are continuing their sinful ways... it's hard to forgive anything or anybody, until they stop what they are doing and repent.

Thanks for allowing me to vent.

I have a tendency to get a little upset when someone is still trying to hurt my family and myself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Hi there, I am quite new to the forum about a month or so, I have printed out the posts and am on page 100, I guess that was when May of 2002. I cannot tell you how grateful I feel to have this forum. My emotions are just all over the place. If you read my recent post you will see that I am about to see my stbxh for the first time again after walking out on me and my 8 kids. Just in the past week he has been proclaiming his love for me, telling me there will never be anyone else but me. He obviously has a weird way of showing it. Due to this causing me to spiral downward I decided that I was no longer going to call him and that if he wanted to talk to me or the kids he would have to call. Well he now calls me and leaves messages on my voicemail and ends with I love you, then sends me emails with forever and always in the signature line. He is just killing me emotionally. He has no idea the depth of hurt i have felt. I could never believe anything that comes out of his mouth again because everything he said he would never do he has done. He thinks he can come up here and see the kids and I for Easter weekend and things are going to be like he was just on a vacation, but then this is the kicker....he tells me he will be getting a uhaul to take his things back with him....of course this was temporary... I don't know it sounds like its pretty permanent to me. He is willingly moving out of state away from his family and I am suppose to look at it as he needs some time for himself. If there was another woman it would be equally hard but I would say he is trying to have his cake and eat it too, but he is choosing to be away from us.....I haven't finished all of your dialogue yet I have 574 pages to go but I would like to be part of this group....take care

HI EVERYONE,

A short update:

The business did not sell, it will have to be liquidated. GRRRR I got served papers on 2 different debts of the company. GRRRR

WH sounded better for a few weeks but now he's back to the S.O.S. HE was ready to leave Penna to go Jacksonville early morning Tuesday. It's a 12 hour drive and he's still not there. He was supposed to be on a jobsite with OS but is loaded with excuses.

I have been invited to participate in sailing races with friends that have a NICE sailboat & I am going to do it. The first race was cancelled due to cold and wind (It got in the 50's) but we will be going out on Sat. YS is going to New Orleans for a soccer tournament so I am basically kid free. Just 17 YO D & I. That's funny EC says he won't be alone when 17YO comes & I feel like I am free!

The mentor program is going great, no, more than that - FANTASTIC My whole life is changing for the better and even though I am going through a lot of CRAP, I am handling it. At times I even feel peace, which is wierd.

Gotta go say prayers with YS.

Wallace - Unreal that they filed under your name!

Blessings to everyone

D.

Wallace - That is absolutely incredible that they filed papers under your name! I am in shock about it myself, and I can imagine some of what you must feel! (and are they THAT dumb??) You have been conscientious about the way you've handled things with exw and we know you did everything the best way possible. I'm sorry you're still being dragged through mud, but you're right, now it's their turn. Will this cost you anything additional financially?

WGTT - You deserve a sailing break. Kid free - hmmm...don't let it go to your head! Let us know how the races go.

Mommax8 - I've read some of your other posts, so I'm somewhat familiar with your situation. If I understood you correctly, you are reading EVERY post in the D/D forum archives? That's a lot of reading! Or did you mean every post in this "tough love" thread? I really do think you'd benefit from "tough love" (Plan B) action.

Petvet, Relady, EC - Hope y'all have a great weekend! We've had pouring rain all week and I'm ready to get outside in some sunshine! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Avondale -- i am ready all the posts in the tough love forum....and I agree Plan B is definitely what I need to do...

Hi All,

mommax8

Welcome to the "Tough Love" thread... I am sorry your here... but it's a good place to be considering your circumstances.

I have just started reading a few of your threads to bring myself up to speed.

Concerning your get together with your "H" on Easter, and the "I love you forever" and I made a mistake syndrome... be very careful.

Do not let your guard down. From what I've read so far... if your "H" loves you as much as he is proclaiming... he will do everything in his power to make the trip back home to see you and the kids with no strings or conditions attached. He found a way to leave you and your children... he can figure a way to make his way back home if in fact he is truly sincere.

WGTT...

I'm sorry to hear that you are being served with papers concerning your business.

What does your attorney say about this? Didn't your "H" personally sign for the loans and obligations as well?

So you are going sailing? I would love to just get on a sail boat right about now and sail off into the sunset and never come back... but I have my kids and responsibilities to take care of.

It seems like the WSs just get to walk away from all the damage that they inflicted on everyone concerned and live their lives like nothing ever happened... and it's just another day. Eventually it "WILL" all catch up to them.

I'm glad to hear that you are feeling at peace with your life. I'm trying to achieve that as well... but it's so ironic... I stated just about 3 days ago on this thread that I get nervous when things start looking up and going well, because something usually comes along to jerk it all up.
Sure enough... something did.

avondale...

A belated "Happy Birthday" to your daughter. Let us know how everything goes when she meets with her father.

In regards to the bitterness... I personally was doing well in that area... as well as working on the forgiveness aspect of the whole thing. Not anymore though... I'm on a mission now and I am not going to let up on those two clowns until I have finally made them pay for all that they have done. It's the only way I'm going to be able to stop them. If they feel no consequences for their actions... they will only continue to do the type of things that they have done.

From the financial end... yes it's still costing me money. I had to pay $1,300.00 to get the house out of her name, and who knows what is going to happen with this tax return scenario. You would thing it would be cut and dry... file a bogus tax return and you pay the price from a legal stand point. But she seems to be untouchable... it's like she is teflon coated.

Petvet, relady, EC, and anyone else I may have missed...

I hope your day is going well.

Have a good weekend everybody.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Well it gets better....i just answer the phone at my office and guess who is on the other end of it..yes my stbxh...he told me that he was thinking about me and that he would be here for Easter and that he is getting 2 separate rooms so that we can spend time together...( hmmm are you thinking what I am thinking) he tells me he loves me he tells me that he wants to try to work it out he wants me to go ahead and stop the divorce papers and let us just be separated for a while...i have no idea what to do...I have told him that he needs to get counseling and work on himself too or there would be no chance and he wants to go to Retrovile...weekend something I had mentioned along time ago that he had no interest in....I am so confused, my heart is just so torn...I am so scared....

Hi all! I read a couple of your posts. I will be back a little later on this morning. I have some things to say about Wallace and Mommax8 situations and Avondale too.

Later.

Hi All,

Hope everyone had a very good weekend. As usual it went by way too fast.

mommax8...

I would be very careful with your Easter plans that your "H" wants you to become involved in.

IMHO, I find it strange that he wants you to call off the divorce, but wants to stay apart from you, all at the same time. This is suppose to be coming from a man that contends that he loves you and wants to make things work out? It doesn't appear that he wants to get off on the right foot. I know if I was trying to put my marriage back together again... I would do everything in my power to start by living with my family again and not stay in different households.

How does all that he has proposed bring you, your children and your "H" together as a family?

It appears that you need to set some boundaries with him. Let him get some help and show you that he is sincere in his word. If you don't you may be setting yourself up for more heartache and heart break. I've seen this before... and it can get ugly if you do not set boundaries and allow him to show you he is for real, and not just using you for convienience.

Do it for yourself as well as your children.

avondale...

Any word on how your daughter's meeting went with her father on her B-day?

Petvet...

What's going on? Hope your life is going better than mine.

Me...

Well I'm still claeaning up broken tree limbs and downed trees from the last snow storm we had. In addition to that... I'm still filling out more legal forms due to the exW not paying her CS and because of the tax issue.

One year later since I kicked everything in full tilt... and I'm still dealing with it. I can't believe I'm still fooling around with this garbage... I'm not sure it will ever end.

Hope everyone has a great day.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

<small>[ April 14, 2003, 12:04 PM: Message edited by: Wallace ]</small>

Hi all!

Wallace: I cannot believe your exw is so vicious and low rent. How stupid can she be to just outright commit fraud? I'm not surprise that she is still causing problems for you. She is still hanging on to you in some fashion or form. She is a leech. Stay firm. I'm happy to see that everything is going well between you and your GF.

Avondale: You are justified feeling kinda bitter that your daughter still wants to have a relationship with your H even though he lefted you. She is acting like things are business as usual. Why don't you ask her why she has not shown any contempt toward her father for what he has done? Ask her whether she supports what he has done? Her answer will tell you alot about her. I find it interesting that your son in law gets the message but your daughter does not. How has your relationship been with your daughter in the past?

Mommax8: I really really feel for you. I agree with Wallace; I would set boundaries between you and your H until he shows you clearly that he wants you back and take the necessary steps needed to make a relationship work.

Me: OK, I'm going to let the cat out of the box. I have a lady friend. I'm not sure whether to call her a girl friend or not but she is a friend. I have a question for the ladies out there; what do you think about a younger guy seeing an older woman (8-10 yrs.)?

What's up EC?

Back to my taxes! Burning the midnight oil.

And I'm gone.

Hi All,
Petvet - Let me explain about my daughter - I think you got the wrong impression. She isn't really acting like "business as usual". She has told him flat out that what he did is wrong and their relationship will never be the way it used to be. She has shown him contempt - however, she also is trying to overcome those emotions that can eat away at her by loving him in a somewhat different way now. Because after all, he IS her father and they WERE very close. Of course she doesn't support what he's done - not by any means - and her father definitely knows that because she has told him those exact words. They don't talk much, they see each other rarely even though they're in the same town (it was her birthday last week, after all) and there is a definite gap in their communication. I think she's taking the "love the sinner, hate the sin" mentality when there is interaction. I think that's OK, and probably healthy for her. It did hurt me - but I got over it too. I certainly don't want her to be caught in the middle of "taking sides".

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Me: OK, I'm going to let the cat out of the box. I have a lady friend. I'm not sure whether to call her a girl friend or not but she is a friend. I have a question for the ladies out there; what do you think about a younger guy seeing an older woman (8-10 yrs.)?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That cat was let out of the box a while ago! The age thing might only make a difference depending on how old you both actually are. Are you 20 and she's 30? Are you 40 and she's 50? I'm sure it melts HER butter that she's got a younger guy interested in her, LOL. I wonder what her secret is.... hmmm. Does she look younger than her age? Do you look older than your age? There are so many factors to consider. And what are YOUR gut feelings about it - lovey-dovey emotions aside? Are you worried about what people might think, or do you not care? Are you dating with an eye towards marriage? Are you compatible in thoughts towards the future (kids, retirement, finances, etc..)? Her "future" will approach more rapidly than yours.

Wallace - Daughter's birthday dinner went fine - a little strained in the conversation but otherwise pleasant. She said she had a better time at my house with some of her friends over on Saturday, though! Sorry you are still cleaning up - it's in the high 70s here this week, lots of sun and yardwork is calling me every afternoon after work.

Relady - anything new with you?

EC - Have you heard from your daughters again? Is there an arrival date? I'm beginning to wonder if you have a cat in your bag too - you have been quiet lately.

Me - I am having a bunch of people over for Easter lunch after church - daughter is inviting some of her adult ESL students over too, so it should be busy and fun. I am a little rusty in the hostess mode, so I hope it goes OK.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Hi All,


Petvet...

I have to agree with avondale... you had let the "cat out of the bag" sometime ago... LOL. I was just wondering when you were going to finally spill the beans. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I'm not sure how the younger man versus an older woman works... you could ask my exW though... she is 43 and the guy she living with is 35 years old.

I guess age is a state of mind more than a state of being... but I think as time goes on it could develop into a potential problem if the two people that are involved with each other are not stable individuals to begin with. ( I am referring to my exW's situation primarily). Your going to have to take it a day at a time and see how it develops.

Are you looking at something long term with the G/F that you are seeing now?

You sly dog... LOL. I knew you were up to something. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

avondale...

I'll bet the dinner with your daughter's father was a little strained to say the least. I'm glad she enjoyed herself when she arrived at your place... it was probably a lot more comforting.

The weather over here has been just wonderful... high 70's for the most part. It's suppose to turn ugly though... about Friday with a possible rain and snow mix through the weekend... so probably no yard work for me this weekend. I've got about 6 days of clean-up to do for my yard... what a mess. It's never looked so bad... but I'll get it back into shape.

It sounds like your getting over your bitterness. Do you think it's only temporary, or do you think your on the road to recovery?

EC...

Are you busy at school... or are you going to throw a confession out there for us like Petvet and I did?

relady...

O.K., I'm officailly worried now. Either your doing really good... or things are not so well. Let us know when you get a chance.

mommax8...

I know you have things coming up on your schedule... how are you making out?

Me...

I finally finished and mailed the complaint to Child Enforcement on non-payment of my exW's failure to follow the Court Orders. So we play the wait and see what happens game at this point in time. Between that, the bogus tax return she filed, and the forgeries, it should get interesting.

My G/F can't believe all that has happened... she thinks my exW should be thrown in jail for all that she has done... so do I.

I know my exW's boyfriend was looking at a 5 year prison term for taking approximately $30,000.00 for doing something very similiar with another woman as to what we have going here right now based on a background check I did on him when I first found out about him. Some how he got past it, I'm not sure... he won't be so lucky this time though... not with me at the helm. I am going to pursue this until I see justice prevail.

Well I hope everyone has a good day today.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

Hi all,

I have been so busy and want to write individually to all of you but don't have the time at this second so I will sit down later and do that, just wanted to let you all know that I am very nervous about this coming weekend. stbxh is wanting to make a go at reconciliation, told me that he needs to do his part now and wants to do it right this time. I am very nervous and honestly feel like I will believe it when I see it. He told me he would like to go to retroville weekend, which floored me. He sent me an email today with a family picture and said thinking about me and sent me a love song. I don't know what to really think because he still is getting a uhaul and leaving me again.. I don't think I will be able to emotionally handle that, I am beginning to resent him more and more each day and I am really afraid that I am going to hate him and there will be no hope.

Well I gotta go, hard to write at work.... that you all for your support, hope everyone is having a good day and take care

Hey All,

I can finally come up for air. It took me a few weeks to get my tax information together and their in the mail as we speak. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Then I forgot that my quarterlies were due today as well, so another check goes in the mail. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I know, you men thought I was gone for good, so you spilled your guts without any wrath from me. LOL But not to despair, I'm here with my 'two cents' <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Wallace,

I'm sorry for the way your X is acting, but not surprised. However, your reaction surprises me though:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> he won't be so lucky this time though... not with me at the helm. I am going to pursue this until I see justice prevail. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Why, now that you're at peace and everything is going great for you, would you want to spend time thinking about or even indulging in 'revenge'?

By all means pursue the legal issues, I'm not talking about that because it is necessary. I'm referring to the 'all out war' you're planning. What a waste of time and energy. Their both scum, and they'll end up on the skids in due time.

Last week in my prayer time I asked the Lord to reveal and remove any unforgiveness in my heart. Now when I asked that question, I felt that I had forgiven my 'H'. You know me, have to keep it together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Well a few days later I received a letter from the Post office saying my mail had been forwarded. After much ranting and raving(it was Sunday, and Closed)and revenge planning, on Monday I showed up at the Post Office and found out my 'H' had transferred mail and instead of checking individual, he checked family so all the mail was forwarded! Honest mistake or on purpose? Who is to know? After I threatened the supervisor and the post woman, they assured me that my mail would not be forwarded and that they would make double sure. Believe me, they didn't want to see me again.

The point is, I had not totally forgiven him, which the Lord definitely showed me or I would have calmly solved the problem and not spend my weekend waiting for the post office to open!

Only God knows what is deep in the heart of man and if we but ask, He'll show it to us.

Ok, I'll be back later for Petvet!!

God Bless,
relady

Hi Gang! Petvet,Wallace,Avondale,Relady,WGTT,Davepr,Momma8,RMA,and anyone I missed.

Looks like everyone is coming back out of there hole <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I guess since Wallace is out and saw his shadow it's going to be a long winter <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> that weasel...

I see the ladies are back after dipping in the downboy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> it must be powerful!

Me:

Ok, let me set the record straight <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ...I don't have anybody I'm seeing or dating and even cut ties with some female business associates. I really am focusing on me and trying to accomplish as much as I can while single and not be emotionally attached or distracted, however everbody has there different circumstances of where they are in life that don't have to take the route I'm going.

I'm glad to see everyone moving along. My YD is bouncing back and forth of what she wants to do, however I begun my count down when I'm done with CS and I have about 390 days left....other than that things are going pretty good. I don't have the pain like I use to however sometimes I look back at the journey and think about how far I've come and realize there's more life ahead and many good days.

Take Care

Hi all! I'm happy to be back on a regular basis since tax season is over.

Avondale: Thanks for setting the record straight about your daughter.

Wallace: I somewhat agree with Relady concerning your Exw, but you have to take care of business. You cannot let your exw continue to victimize you. If you don't stop it, she will continue to do it.

Relady: I know for a fact that the PO folks don't want to tangle with you. You are all business and don't accept any non sense from anyone.

EC: Taking care of yourself is a good thing.

Mommax8: It's your call, but you may be willing to meet H half way to see what he does. Of course, I would not drop my case until I know for sure his intentions.

Me: I would not get involve with anyone of the opposite sex unless I could view them in my future. I'm not a player. I take my relationships seriously. She is attractive and probably looks low 40's rather than 49. I'll be 40 next week. The age thing bothers her sometimes because her past relationships has been with men ten years or older. She has a 10 year old daughter. She is not looking to be taken care of but wants someone to complement her. She is doing well financially as far as I can tell. She is a widow. My grey hair makes me look more mature than my age, but I keep physically fit year round. I don't carry a middle age gut or anything. She does not care about being seen in public with me; she is more concern about me. She may meet my parents next week. I know my mom will pick up on the age real quick. She asked me recently why I chose her raher than a younger woman and I said why not you? I am looking for content and the big picture rather than exterior. She says that I am more mature than my age. I have always gotten along well with older woman. There is nothing more attractive than a older woman who takes care of herself and is confident with what she wants in life. That's my story. OK! Let me have it. The bulletproof vest is on.

And I'm gone.

Relady - good to hear from you!

EC - You're right, everyone has different circumstances and all of our routes are different. We just support each other on our different roads.

Petvet - well, you asked for it! Actually, you can put your bulletproof vest away. I don't have anything tough to say <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> You sound as if you've thought things through pretty well, although there may be hesitancy on her part - which is something you need to consider (will it be an ongoing problem?). However, one thing did make me laugh (and I'm sure it wasn't intended) </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The age thing bothers her sometimes because her past relationships has been with men ten years or older </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Aren't relationships with guys 10 years old considered improper? LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Sorry, just couldn't let that wording error go by. I figured you probably meant 10 years older than she was <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Have you thought about what to say (if anything) to your parents? Hmmm...and next week is the big 40 for ya, huh?

Mx8 - Have you decided on an Easter plan yet? Last I heard you were bouncing around several ideas. Let us know how things are progressing!

<small>[ April 16, 2003, 07:25 AM: Message edited by: avondale25 ]</small>

I am so confused, because my heart is being torn in 2 directions one to not get hurt again and the other to enjoy this time as a family. I am very worried that once he leaves again I will be back at ground zero. Each day he is gone I am beginning to resent him more and more and I am almost afraid of falling out of love with him because of this...does that make sense. I am starting to really get a handle on my emotions, and I don't know if it has to do with the fact that he now wants me and I don't feel the rejection, but then I say if he really wants me he would come back so I don't know what to do. He got the kids and I our own hotel room well his dad did and then him and his dad will stay in the other room (of course he is expecting us all to stay together, which makes me nervous as well..anyway we are suppose to spend Friday and Saturday together and then go to church Sunday morning then he takes off again and spends the summer with his dad camping and boating on the lake and I stay home to raise our 8 kids by myself with no emotional or financial support...see what I mean about resentment building...I just don't get what he is thinking because I am going through h**l and even though he says he misses me and the kids and he is going through h**l, he doesn't have to work, pay bills, worry about where the next meal is coming from...UGH!!! Anyway I am suppose to have the opportunity to talk with him and tell him all this, but shouldn't he already know??? Any ideas

Hi all,

mommax8...

I can understand your apprehension... for one reason... what your "H" is saying and actually doing seems to be two different things.

How can he want to put his "M" back together by spending the weekend with you and the kids and then taking off for the summer?

In my estimation it just doesn't add up.

IMHO, your setting yourself up and your children for more heartache and heartbreak.

What has he really shown you and done here lately to make you think he really wants to put the "M" back together.

Be careful and take care of yourself and your children and don't read anything more into it than you already are seeing, until he is ready to put more of an effort into his "M".

EC...

Glad to hear that things are working in the positive mode for you. It gives me something to consider and look forward to. I would love to reach that plain... I'm not sure when I'm going to... but I'll just keep pluging away at it.

relady...

It's good to hear from you. I wasn't sure if you fell of the face of the earth or not.

Just to try to put my situation into perspective... I'm not trying to extract revenge from my exW and her b/f. What I "AM" trying to do... is stop them from continuing their ongoing antics once and for all.

I have filled out all the affidavits and filed all the necessary papers hopefully to either have them locked up for what they have done, or at minimum... have the legal system put a big enough scare into them to get them to stop what they are doing and go live their lives out without trying to ruin my life or my children's lives.

If that doesn't get it... I have every intention of filing suit against both of them to recover damages as setforth and when I don't collect... file an unsatisfied judgement against them... and let that sit on their credit record for awhile.

Just maybe... that might slow them down just a tad.

I just want her to cut all strings and ties from me and have her go her merry way... nothing more.. nothing less.

I hope that puts some clarification as to what my intentions are.

Make no mistake about it though... I am very upset about this latest incident... and it's going to take me awhile to get over it. In fact, I'm going to Church tonight and continue to try to learn to forgive. It's not easy... I'm working on it and I haven't thrown in the towel.

With the Lord's help, I'll get past it... it's just going to take some time. I was doing real good... and then this happened. I have been through worse (my marriage for one). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Petvet...

I'm surprised avondale let you get off the hook like that so easy. It must be the time of the year (Spring time)... everything comes alive in the Spring... or so they say.

avondale...

I'm waiting to see what you have to say to Petvet now that he has his vest on. Are you going to let him off easy too! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hope your day goes well everyone.

Stay Strong!

Wallace