Good Morning to all -

Well, still no e-mail from WW. I sent her a brief e-mail this morning telling her that I have an appointment with my attorney tomorrow morning and if she wants to reach an agreement without going back to court, it has to be today.

On other news....

I got home yesterday and did some more work on the deck. I am enjoying that a lot, the weather is getting just right for that sort of thing. By the way, here's a link to pictures of the deck, pergola, bridge.

http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/mb_georgiaguy/album?.dir=/294f

#1S/DIL came over for dinner last night and we really had a great evening together. We talked about all the things that #1S and I enjoy: baseball (play-offs), politics (Supreme Court doings), local political news (always revolting and aggravating), and various other things to do with their new house and problems with the builder.

Anyway, it was a really nice evening and I needed that. I was beginning to feel that both sons were shunning me a bit, but lunch Sunday with #2S/DIL and dinner last night with #1S/DIL gave me confidence that we're all still together and a family.

We didn't discuss WW and the D at all until we were standing outside. They were about ready to leave and I ask if there was anything they wanted to ask about this week. #1S asked if this was the week that the D was to be final and I said yes. I told them that WW had suggested that we settle out of court and I had sent her my proposal. Also, I said that she had agreed that selling the house was the best thing to do. #1S asked where she would go after that. I told him that I suspected that she would buy a smaller house, but that it was up to her.

Anyway, we didn't have a long discussion about it. I could tell it still hurts him (a lot), but I just wanted to make sure that they know that line of communication is open anytime they want to talk about it.

After they left last night, I sat out by the pond and thought for a long time before coming in and reading for a while.

GOOD MORNING (AGAIN) MIMI....

Georgia

Well...nothing from WW today.

I just called my lawyers office to advise him of this. The assistant said that WW lawyer called yesterday to tell him that we needed to have an appraisal of the house.

He disagrees with that as it was only purchased 4 months ago, so we can use the purchase price.

I'm really disappointed, I guess this means that WW wasn't serious about settling things without going back to court at all.

Just another ruse...

Georgia

hugs Georgia. I really don't know what to say except that you will get thru this! And it will be an eample for all of us.

Thanks, cc.

Why is it that EVERYTIME I communicate with her, the end result is the same? I just don't understand it.

KICK ME, KICK ME, KICK ME!!!!!

Friends -

I am really quite upset by this unexpected turn of events.

My boss knows what is going on and has advised me to take off whatever time I need.

I have distributed my responsibilites to others across our company in the event I'm not back the remainder of this week.

I will try to let you all know what is going on.

Thanks for your continued prayers.

Georgia

What specifically is most upsetting about this?

I think there is something else that was upsetting. I really hope GG's wife didn't do something crazy like try to hurt herself. That would be devastating.

I was so worried that she would do this to you.

When you really want to know what you are dealing with, watch what they do, not what they say.

The longer her lawyer can draw this out, the more money the lawyer gets. The longer it goes, the longer your W gets what she is getting now, which is more than she will get after it is final. She is still in the house, she can still contact OM at YOUR expense. You are paying for it.

You are honest, and upright, you would not do this, and you projected your values onto her, because she WAS ONCE THE WAY YOU ARE.

There are wars in the world, because once you realize that the other party won't be fair, and won't leave you alone, you only have one course left to follow if you don't want to surrender.

So sorry, wishing you didn't have to feel this way. I know words can't convey the depth of your hurt, or our concern, but we do care.

SS

Georgia, you have me worried about you. Please let us know what's happening.

cc

FGG,

Sorry about all of this. My thought is that you take the closing paperwork to court, and I'll bet the judge will take that just fine.

Time to stop negotiating with WW. Just deal with the judge/court IMHO.

The torture needs to end. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Prayers coming to you...take extra care of yourself, and thing BEYOND divorce to the life of peace you'll have. You have many rewarding, exciting experiences ahead of you in so many different areas. Dream of those, and the life without chaos just ahead....

An appraisal can be done in a day - and will cost only about $250. Just do it.

Hi folks...

WW called and left me a voice mail while I was at pottery.

She said she had e-mailed me her input.

So, I'm back at work (no internet access at home) so I can read it.

I'll post in a few moments what it says.

Georgia

Okay, she has replied with her comments regarding the division of household goods and furnishings. No mention of any financial stuff (assets & alimony).

I'm going to work on this spreadsheet addressing her concerns.

Some of the stuff she has added to the spreadsheet is...well, silly.

IE - When I left I took the dog bed (as I originally had our Schnauzer before I gave her back). She has added that to the list of things she wants. This is an old pillow with an old pillow case.

Oh well....

Will the rotund lady ever sing?

Thank God it's nothing worse! I can go to sleep now but will still pray for you!
Good night.

Thanks, cc. I appreciate your concern.

Hoping (and believing) we would settle this thing out of court, I haven't completed the new financial affadavit. I've got to do that before 9:00 AM tomorrow.

On the appraisal issue (regarding my house), my attorney says it is legally acceptable to just use the recent purchase price. If need be, I can produce the appraisal at the time of my purchase.

That shouldn't be an issue.

Georgia

This is going to be a long night.

I've replied to her comments and given her everything she wanted....IF...I can keep the China Cabinet.

Seems so petty, doesn't it?

Here's something I find very odd. She said in her e-mail that she had to pay her attorney an extra $425 today. She had already paid her $2,500.

I paid my lawyer a $1,500 retainer and he still hasn't expended it all.

I don't think she is getting her money's worth.

Georgia

Good Morning, folks -

I just left my lawyers office. We're now, I believe, totally ready for court.

Nothing new from WW this morning.

Georgia

I once read what I thought was an ingenious way to divide assets....

one spouse compiles 2 lists of what they believe is an equal division of the stuff...

the other spouse chooses which list he/she wants

neither can complain the other got more on their list !!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You're not going to believe this.

My attorney's office just called. A local politician has died, his funeral is Friday afternoon. The judge has canceled all appts for Friday.

We are rescheduled for Oct. 28.

well, this might be some kind of divine intervention...