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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Sometimes it seems that bad things all happen at the same time, but actually so do good things !:)
just think that you'll get through friday and then comes saturday, another day.. One day at a time.
Will be praying for you.
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Thanks, cc.
Well, I'm about to leave here. I'll try to stop by sometime tomorrow and let everyone know if it's done.
Georgia
Formerly G.G. and Jeb
Me: BS 50
She: xW 50
Jeb: Mini Schnauzer
Married: 29 yrs
Children: MM25, MM23
Plan B - 12/06/04
Divorced - 11/17/05
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Please do but prayers for your strength will be the same even if you cannot.
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It has been an intense day.
I got a call @ 9:30 from my attorney's office saying that WW's attorney had called and said she didnt' have my updatd 401K and life insurance statements. If she didn't have them by noon, she was going to call the judge and ask for a continuance.
So...here I am at work where I keep these things and I've printed and faxed them to my attorney.
Then, 10 minutes ago my attorney's office called and said the judges secretary had just called. There has been some sort of an emergency with the judges child and she's had to leave the courthouse.
Appointment canceled.
Georgia
Formerly G.G. and Jeb
Me: BS 50
She: xW 50
Jeb: Mini Schnauzer
Married: 29 yrs
Children: MM25, MM23
Plan B - 12/06/04
Divorced - 11/17/05
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Oh GG,
I know it seems like a small thing, but the prayers will continue for you.
I am so sorry for the continued pain.
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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Unbelievable.
will keep praying.
Have a nice weekend and a nice MB gettogether!
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Oh MAN! I'm sorry for the roller-coaster drama!
A guy, 50. Divorced in 2005.
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Each day is such a sordid turn of events...I just don't feel like talking about it all right now.
I had a wonderful time meeting JustPeachy (and son of JP), tdr, Kimberly234, SadMommy05 (with her precious daughter),and of course AD.
However, I don't know if anyone else experiences this or if it's just me....but having faces to go with the heartwrenching stories makes them all the more hurtful as I read their threads.
Lots of time to think last night on the way home. I tried to engage Jeb in some conversation, but he was in snooring mode.
Georgia
Formerly G.G. and Jeb
Me: BS 50
She: xW 50
Jeb: Mini Schnauzer
Married: 29 yrs
Children: MM25, MM23
Plan B - 12/06/04
Divorced - 11/17/05
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I'm sitting here wondering and concerned..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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Hi GODDESS.... Okay, a summary: Friday night she left me a voice mail on my personal cell, work cell, and e-mails texts that said the following: I left you a voicemail, but wanted to follow-up with an e-mail in case your messages don't always arrive. I've been holding off sending you a summary of medical bills I've been paying. Thought I would help out by paying as long as I could. Unfortunately I miscalculated and made a BIG whoops today. I will have a rather large check to bounce tomorrow unless I cover it. I've been paying all my bills as soon as they are received to avoid my forgetfulness in paying them on time. I had an unexpected bill to pay this week, and I need $450.00 to cover it by tomorrow to keep it from bouncing. I'm just thankful that I discovered my mistake in time. Could you please transfer money into our joint checking account so that I can transfer it into my checking account to cover the outstanding check? I'll try to get you a summary of the medical expenses I've been paying. As I've told you several times before, except for medications which I've charged, you can view most of the checks written on our joint checking account online. BTW, the cost of my medications has increased as I have had additional medications added to my monthly list, plus my dosage of hormones has increased which has resulted in another increase in price. I have been paying these out-of-pocket and then submitting several months worth at a time. I've tried to help you out, now I would appreciate it if you could help me in return.
Thank you ....... oh, while I was cleaning out a drawer the other night I found a sweet note you wrote me some time since we moved into this house. It made me cry. I called her back Friday night and asked her to send me RECEIPTS for whatever she's been paying. This was the first time I had heard that she had bills she had not sent me or any of these other things she's doing "to help ME out". So, Saturday morning she e-mailed me a spreadsheet with about a $1,000 of medical expenses dating back to April. There was a mixture of charges (her credit card) and checks (our joint checking acct). I went to the joint account web-site and verified the checks, then transferred that amount to the joing account from my account. By the way...she told me Friday night that I was making this "hard on her" by asking for receipts. Here is my reply: I have gone over your list and transferred money for all CHECKS you have written.
By the way, I am still awaiting your response on my financial offers. If you wish to settle without going back to court (as you've said you do), you need to give me your comments. Here is her reply: Thank you for transferring the money.
Regarding the settlement, as I told you previously in an email, the financial matters are being handled by my attorney, after all, I've certainly paid her enough to do that. We can still settle out of court, however, my attorney is waiting to hear back from your attorney, but I'm sure you already know that. She has make no previous mention (in an e-mail or otherwise) about her attorney handling finances. She just doesn't respond... And...my attorney has no clue as to what she might think she is waiting on. I printed these e-mails and fax'd them over to his office this morning. No other communication. Georgia
Formerly G.G. and Jeb
Me: BS 50
She: xW 50
Jeb: Mini Schnauzer
Married: 29 yrs
Children: MM25, MM23
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Something is going on with her medically, I think....
I know we were suspicious about this several months ago...
Increase in hormone medication? That's unusual...
Is she speaking about steroids, you think?
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There are lots of things about life I don't understand, but I do believe you will be happy even with all the troubles.
I don't think you will be happy every minute, or every day, but I think you will yet have great times to reflect on. I believe your dreams about your future (the good ones, not the nightmares) will come true.
Again, so sorry for the hard times, and the delays. Sometimes I cringe when I read, and I know it is just a shadow of what you feel.
Wanted you to know people care.
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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She has told me she is on some kind of "natural" hormones.
I'm not going to leave this link in place long, so copy it if you want it.
This guy is treating her, and part of the bills I paid are to him.
Georgia
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Formerly G.G. and Jeb
Me: BS 50
She: xW 50
Jeb: Mini Schnauzer
Married: 29 yrs
Children: MM25, MM23
Plan B - 12/06/04
Divorced - 11/17/05
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I've tried to help you out, now I would appreciate it if you could help me in return. Huh? Beg pardon? Its strange - all she had to say was "I have had extra medical expenses this week, could you help me out with a check for $450?" Her paying her own medical bills is not "helping you out" it is taking resposibility for herself and doing what she is supposed to do. but even in this one issue, she has to play the martyr. Yikes. would have been tempting to respond with "perhaps OM #1 or #2 would be able to help you out, since they are the ones you were truly meant to be with, not me." Kudos to you for NOT saying something like that! Tempting though.....
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Georgia:
I don't think I could be friends with your WW...
She is CREEPY...
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she told me Friday night that I was making this "hard on her" by asking for receipts. After looking at that web site, this response of hers actually makes a little more sense. You were not making it harder on her, but she is likely embarassed by the fact that she is trying some type of hormone replacement therapy, and she may even be embarassed to be using a naturopath, which is not covered by insurance. She has been paying these bills on her own, just so she doesn't have to talk to you about them. But when she realized she had a checking account error she knew she was going to have to talk to you and probably very stressed out about it.
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But why is she using that guy?
That's what is creepy...
It's a lot less expensive to use regular old hormones...
It seems so typical of her to get "caught up" in the HOLY HORMONES scene...
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LOL.... was that comment used specifically for Halloween?
You folks may not have known this, but the "big bill" she had to pay was another $900 to attack-dog attorney.
If it wasn't so sad...it would be...well, no it wouldn't.
However, I MUST admit that I thought about (but didn't) suggesting that her "soul mate" help out since he's got more money in his savings account than I've got in my 401K plan.
Shame on me for even thinking such a thing!!!
Formerly G.G. and Jeb
Me: BS 50
She: xW 50
Jeb: Mini Schnauzer
Married: 29 yrs
Children: MM25, MM23
Plan B - 12/06/04
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WOF -
She's not embarrassed at using him, she had already told me that she was seeing him.
However, last March when I told her to send me any medical receipts she has and I'd reimburse her...she was indignant that I would ask for receipts and told me she WOULD NOT be sending me any receipts.
However, she's sent me a few (about $100) that I have reimbursed promptly.
Mimi...she has told me she's afraid of HRT since the publicity surrounding the studies.
Georgia
Formerly G.G. and Jeb
Me: BS 50
She: xW 50
Jeb: Mini Schnauzer
Married: 29 yrs
Children: MM25, MM23
Plan B - 12/06/04
Divorced - 11/17/05
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FGG,
I missed the link of the website about who your WW is seeing about holistic meds.
Your WW is starting to remind me of my SIL who went on a similar journey. My husband went with her a few times to see this "other" doc to try to see how legitimate he was.
SIL spent about 2 years and lots of $$$$ getting special holistic meds to deal with her allergies to the environment.
In reality it turns out she was severly depressed and it manifested with the journey of the holistic stuff. All of her siblings, plus her mother sent money to her monthly for a year hoping to support her; but in the end - she was being seen for the wrong reasons.
It was definitely mental illness in her case.
But since I didn't see the link, I'm not sure if it's the same sort of thing your WW is doing. Interesting, though.
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