Well, no....but, I'm closer to EMERIL than MARTHA!!!

LOL...I'm closer to MARTHA than EMERIL....

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I've been trying to come up with new "hobbies" to keep myself busy now that the deck is about done.

Here is what I'm going to do:

I've bought a book (e-bay) that is a compilation of old postcards (mostly mid 1800's - early 1900's) of our city. Many of the buildings, houses, monuments, etc. are still around and within about a 2 mile radius of my house.

I'm going to make a "companion" photo album that will show the same scenes from the same angle. The idea is that if you go to some page (say, page 57) of the "old postcard" book, then you can go to page 57 of my photo album and see the same thing...as it is today.

Anyway, I plan to get up tomorrow morning, camera and tripod in hand, and get started. Perhaps it'll turn into something that I could eventually publish.

Georgia

Wow, georgia, your deck is wonderful.
I can't believe your ex let you get away. You're a Prince!

Thanks, Bellevue...but she thought I was a frog!!

I'm thinking of giving the kids a letter that I wrote to them one night when I couldn't sleep.

I'd like some quick reviews on this, if you all (ya'll?) don't mind.....

Coming up....I'm going to remove it again before I leave work today...

Thanks....

Georgia

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Hi, Georgia.

I think the letter is from your heart and honest. You have addressed the situation without unduly assigning blame.

I think you should give it to them without a lot of additional editing.

God bless,
Gimble

I think it's a good letter. Is there a reason you mention only OM 1?

I think I would have trouble giving her so much consideration and praise, myself. You are the better man.

With prayers,

Hi Georgia!

I've been away for a few days with limited internet access.

Love your deck! It's wonderful and the autumn colors are so beautiful. I miss those colors because we don't have them here although we have the season.

You are doing so well. You are an example for me about how to survive all this. I wish I were organized enough to plan things and carry them out. I will keep trying.

Good Morning all -

Thanks cc for the comments. I suspect that you are doing more "planning and doing" than you realize. Believe me, where I sit things don't always seem peachy for me, that's for sure. I often have to MAKE myself do things to keep from turning into a couch potato.

Dinner with my neighbors Friday night was very pleasant. She's in private practice now and he has gone back to school full time. We had a very pleasant dinner and visit together.

Saturday I got started on my photo project. Jeb and I went downtown to one of the streets with a median and parks / fountains all along the walk. We strolled about 3 blocks taking detailed pictures to emulate those contained in my book of old post cards. That was a lot of fun. The first building was a school built in 1916. It has been gutted and is undergoing a major renovation. The school is named after the man who donated the land and he is buried on the front lawn. There is a small chained-off rectangle to mark the spot, but it is in very poor condition with no marker or anything. If it hadn't been for the caption on the old post card, I wouldn't have known someone was buried there.

The next stop was a very old Methodist church, and then a house that was built by and belonged to the president of a local manufacturing company (which is still a very big company in town).

Yesterday afternoon I had the kids and my parents all over to my house for "Thanksgiving" lunch. I cooked a ham (first time I've done that). #1S/DIL stayed until last night and helped my put up my Christmas tree. It was really nice having my family all over for the whole day.

Okay, back to real life. I've got to decide what to do about xW not answering the realtors calls.

Georgia

Hi folks....

I just wanted to stop by and point out that today has been one year since my Plan B letter. The remembrance of that day has haunted me and made today a difficult day for me.

I remember so clearly sitting on the bed and reading it to her. Then, taking my bag and walking out. That was followed by 7 weeks of "in-house" Plan B with me living upstairs until it was obvious that she was beginning to get violent and had no intention of giving up OM. So I moved out of the house into my own apartment on January 28.

It seems now like watching a cheap B-grade movie in hindsight.

Georgia

Hi, Georgia.

I am sorry for your pain.

It won't help much, but time is your friend when it comes to pain. It works on the pain of child birth. It will work on your pain.

Isn't it wonderful that the joys of life are remembered so much better than the pain. For the most part, the details of pain get lost over time. We can remember the details of our joys until we really do get old, and even then, in our senility, we remember some.

God bless,
Gimble

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Good Morning all -

Thanks, faithful, I needed that.

I talked to my attorney yesterday for the first time since the divorce. He doesn't know why we don't have the divorce order yet. He said the plaintiff's attorney (xW's attorney) is responsible for completing the order and then sending it back to the court for the judges approval. He said if we don't have it by early next week, he will complete it and send it back to the court.

I also told him about xW not returning the realtors phone calls. Therefore, 3 weeks since the divorce we've still not been able to list the house. He asked me to have the agent mail xW a certified letter asking for a time to meet. If she doesn't respond by next week we'll start contempt of court proceedings and go back to court.

In other news....I'm getting ready for the trip over to the children's home on Saturday. We're leaving 6:45 AM (yawn) and coming back about 10:00 PM. We plan to have a full day with the kids. Part of the day is to help the kids with different craft projects. I'm putting together kits to work with the teenage boys to built a small tool box. I worked last night getting all the pieces pre-cut and pref-drilled, then put together into individual kits. What I discovered is that I miscalculated how much wood I needed so it's back to Lowe's for some more lumber.

Anyway, that's what's going on with me.

Georgia

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I must admit...I love building things. Nothing like the smell of fresh cut wood.

Good Morning all -

Nothing new on the divorce front. I still don't have the divorce decree, and I've heard nothing from xW or her attorney. I checked the mortgage company web-site yesterday and the December house payment hasn't been paid yet. It is due Dec. 1, but can be paid up until Dec. 15 without penalty. I hope that I don't have problems with xW not paying OUR bills during this transition time.

I got the bicycles to church last night for the church to distribute to local kids. One of the tires had a leak and I had to go to Wal-Mart and by a new tube (for a new bicycle) and repair it at church last night.

After work today I am going to visit my CASA kids for possibly the last time. Court is next week, and I've got to prepare my report for that.

I think on the way home I'll stop and visit Mrs. Reese for a while and see how she's doing.

I know that we all are hoping Mimi and H are having an enjoyable mini-vacation. If there still in the S.E., they are probably having a cool and rainy day today.

If things go as planned, I'll have a new job next Thursday. I'm kind of excited about it as it will be a huge challenge, but the kind of challenge that I enjoy. I will miss supervising my team as I have (IMO) the most talented team of people in our company and they're a great group of guys.

Georgia

Okay, this is my morning to vent....just get comfortable and expect it.

I got an e-mail from xW yesterday. In it, she tells me that she thinks that I should keep paying the utility bills "as they are in my name". So...I wrote her back and told her that the judge ruled that I was to pay her 1/2 of the house payment and utilities for the month of December, along with the alimony. And...this is exactly what I did when I transferred money to her account on December 1.

This morning I have an e-mail from her telling ME when the utilities bills MUST be paid or there will be late charges, etc. It is obvious she has no intention of paying any utility bills. This kind of concerns me in that they are in my name, even though the judge has ordered that she is to pay them. My first inclination (which I have since repented of) is to call the utility providers and have them ALL disconnected since they are in MY name.

Also, she has all kinds of reasons why the realtor doesn't need to get in the house right now, and why she hasn't returned her messages. (She doesn't need to measure the rooms as she should already know their sizes, she doesn't need to take pictures as they are still available from the Parade of Homes, etc.).

This is sooooo frustrating. She is going to be IN CHARGE no matter what ANYONE says.

I'm going to call my attorney this morning and tell him we might as well just cut to the chase and get a court date to go back to court. As I understand it, if she doesn't comply with the judges orders, she can be found in contempt and fined (or even jailed if the judge is in a bad mood!).

I don't think this is going to get any better.

WELCOME BACK, MIMI.....

Georgia

Call the utility providers and ask how to remove your name and place them in the name of the person living at the residence. Explain you are divorced and no longer living there and she is responsible for paying them. Having the decree would be better so you could prove this, of course.

She is still trying to make you her caretaker. Spoiled little brat.