Checking in on you. You okay?

Hi folks...

There's a lot on my mind right now...please pardon my obvious absence.

I'm just doing a lot of soul seaching right now.

I will be back.

Georgia

praying for you

Well, I left our "dream home" for the last time about an hour ago. I've spent considerable time the last few days at the house getting it ready for the closing and fixing a few things.

xW and I have been spending a lot of time together. Tonight I got ready to leave and she just burst out crying. I put my arms around her and held her and we both cried together. I held her a long time.....

She said the last 2 years had been the hardest years of her life and she still cries almost all the time.

I left and drove home and cried all the way.

This is such a stinking mess....

Tomorrow I have to fly to the mid-west for 3 days. I have to leave here early in the morning for a drive to Atlanta, then I get home late Thursday night. The closing on the house is at noon on Friday.

So much more to say, but I'm just too tired right now.

Georgia

Georgia,

I can only imagine how hard all this must be for you, but I think it is necessary. You wouldn't have felt right if you hadn't done it. My prayers will be with you.

Georgia:

I'm praying for you and your family.

I've been worried and wondering about you.

Please come back to share with us when you have the time and strength...

Georgia,

Just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and... I don't pray as much as I used to, but praying for you too. It must be very difficult to work under the circumstances.

-AD

Georgia:

I'm getting worried...

What's up?

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Isn't the house closing still supposed to be tomorrow?

I know it's the weekend and you can't respond...wanted you to know you were thought of (and I believe, by MILLIONS) yesterday...during the closing.

Closing on your marriage was harrowing, difficult and painful.

Closing on the sale of your dream house might feel the same.

Look forward to hearing from you...not to judge, just to know, because you are worth it.

LA

Hope all is going well, Georgia!

Okay, I've been laying in bed and I can't sleep so I decided I'd get up and try to catch up just a little on what's been going on. There is so much to tell, some of which I will come back to later. I know it's been awhile since I've posted much. There is a reason for that, and we'll get to it later.

It has been 1 ½ weeks since I've been to work. I took off Wednesday (April 19) and went to the house to work to be getting the house ready to close. I worked there all day, but during the 4 hours xW was at work I had to work outside as she didn't want me in the house while she wasn't home. I didn't argue with her, I just said okay.

I cleaned out everything we had under the house (it's on a crawl space) and everything in the attics (there are 3 levels of attics). I took down all the pictures and art, patched the holes, and touched up the paint.

On Thursday and Friday (20th 21st) I worked at our church getting ready for our church yard sale. It was the 3rd sale I've worked (we do it every 6 months) and I just enjoy it tremendously. On Saturday we sold over $20,000 worth of stuff with all the money going to missions.

Saturday was my birthday (big 5-0) and I drove up to #2S/DIL's house and they cooked me dinner. #1S/DIL came over to visit earlier Saturday and brought me ice cream and stayed for a couple of hours.

Monday I again worked at the house all day. I had 2 Men and a Truck come Monday morning and get all my stuff. Then, I went back and worked the rest of the day and until 11:00 that night. It was very obvious to me that xW was no where near ready to be move in only 4 days. Hardly anything was packed.

I had to leave early Tuesday morning for a trip to the mid-West on business. #1S called me Wednesday night and said he was at the house and it was obvious that Mom wasn't going to be out by Friday. I talked to her on the phone and we discussed her plans. It sounded like she wasn't worried and thought she could get through it okay, so I kind of convinced myself that all would be well.

I was on my way home Thursday night from the Atlanta airport when my realtor called (sidenote: top was down, it was about 72 degrees. I had exited the interstate in favor of backroads. It was wonderful, I was enjoying every minute of it). Anyway, the realtor called and said the buyers walk-thru had presented new problems as their home inspector had found a piece of structure under the house that he considered unacceptable. This gets really, really convoluted, just suffice it to say that on Friday morning at 9:30 (2 ½ hours before the closing was scheduled) I called the broker in charge of the buyers agent and told him that his agent was trying to sabotage the closing of my house for personal reasons. Anyway, I got that issue fixed promptly.

Now, back to the saga of xW. I got to the house about 7:30 and she wasn't even close to being ready to move. She had 2M&AT out that day and they had taken the big pieces (furniture, appliances, etc.) but other than everything was still as I had last seen it. I asked her how she planned to get all this stuff out of the house and she said she didn't know and that she was doing the best she could. Also, she said if I had been over there helping her instead of working the past Thursday and Friday at the church yard sale we wouldn't be having this problem. I avoided conflict and didn't say anything.

I went outside and called the U-Haul toll free line and reserved a 24 foot truck for Friday morning. Then I called my laid-off structural engineer and asked if he would like to make some money on Friday. Of course, he said he wouldn't charge me, but he'd be glad to help (he's that kind of young man).

So..at 8:00 AM Friday morning I picked up a truck and we went to the house. I told my friend that anything that wasn't nailed down needed to get in that truck before noon.

We used the few boxes that she had and packed them, then we just started hauling stuff (lamps, chairs, clothes, pictures, everything) to the truck and stacking it in there. She came out and said we couldn't put stuff in there that way and we needed to go get some boxes. I told her we had to be out of the house in 3 hours and we where there to empty the house. She started crying and throwing a fit, but we just ignored her and kept loading stuff into the truck. By 11:00 we had the truck full (a 24 ft. truck). My friend was driving a pick-up so he backed it up to the house and we started loading it. By 11:45 we had it full. I had to leave to go to the lawyers office so I asked him to try to move anything else in the house to the garage. I got to the lawyers office about 12:10, xW got there about 12:20 (she was showering when I left). I was hot, sweaty, and filthy. I know that I looked terrible at the lawyers office.

We closed on the house and I told the new owners that we had some stuff in the garage we would be back to get later. They seemed okay with that. I left, got my friend and we went to lunch. XW stayed for the closing on her house.

XW called while we were eating lunch and told me how upset she was about how we had packed the truck and not gotten boxes. I avoided conflict and didn't say anything.

After lunch, I went back over to the house and she was in the garage. No one else was there. I handed her the keys I had and she jerked them out of my hand. She said that I was "disrespecting" (I hate that word) her stuff and everything she had was going to be broken.

That was it.

I said "xW, you've known for 5 weeks you needed to be out of this house today. I am here moving you, not moving me. It isn't my job to move you, this is your responsibility, this is your stuff".

She said "if you hadn't been at that stupid rummage sale last week and had come over here and helped me pack we wouldn't have this problem." I told her that she hadn't changed at all, that she still sees herself as the center of the universe and everyone else is there to serve her.

She said "Georgia, you are nothing but a sorry bas***d and you'll never be anything but a sorry bas***d."

I told her that I would be driving the truck over to her new house and she could get it unloaded however she could. I drove it over there and left it and I haven't heard from her since. I will be deducting the rental fee from the alimony payment tomorrow.

I don't care if I never see her again.

Georgia,

I'm so sorry you still have to live through all this!

I'll keep praying that you find peace! You really are a wonderful man. God will bless you.

Even I have a few choice names I could call your X!!!

AND

Even I understand you never wanting to see her again!

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That was just par for the course. Too bad she was so clueless.

She really has been feeling entitled to being the center of the universe.

Do you think she will return the truck herself, or just leave it there at her new house running up the bill?

I wanted to tell you all that tonight I will be adding a lot more to my whole story.

I'll post either later tonight or tomorrow.

Georgia

I know that everyone here agrees with me.
You read these posts and shake your head and say "Huh??"
You were supposed to pack her stuff for her?

It really boggles the mind.

Georgia:

Where are you?

Georgia --

My heart goes out to you. Reading the last two pages or so just breaks my heart.

Are you o.k.?

We are thinking of you. It's back to the WS not being able to take responsbility for their own actions. She has known for 5 weeks when she needed her things out. And she blames you for spending time at your church yard sale?

I am blown away.

Take care, Georgia.

Kim

Time for a song I keep humming...

o/~ Georgia,
Georgia,
hum hum hum hum....

Georgia on my mind. o/~

Yeah...I spent the money my mother gave me for singing lessons on candy. LOL I am lyrically impaired. Main reason I can never post to GC's campfire.

LA